This seems crazy to me, given my highly co-dependent marriage. "Being mad" is the least of it. If my wife cheated on me, it'd be like flushing 15 years of my life down the toilet. The only question would be if I actually commited murder or not (a comment I hope not to see in some future trial). High co-dependence means I'm very unlikely to cheat. If I somehow did, I'd be a compete fool to admit it to my wife if I could avoid it. The admission would destroy our marriage, destroy my life, impact my children and so on. What moving on is there when you lose everything in your life? Start over, maybe, but there is no moving on. So, even in the face of overwhelming evidence, I would deny. But, I haven't cheated. Honest, honey!
Juan: my point of view is different from yours probably because I'm not married. If a girlfriend cheated on you, or you on her I think the situation is different. You aren't bound to that person yet and don't (usually) have anything at stake except that relationship. That's the type of situation I think is th worst. Because ten you're setting the other person up for a future of lies. I think they deserve to know before they decide on marrying you or not. Fwiw my attitude on this probably won't change even after marriage. Though I see how it could with kids and all swoly: you hit the nail on the head my friend.
Certainly, it is a very different prospect to cheat on one's wife and mother of one's children than to cheat on a girlfriend. I almost think we need separate words for the two transgressions. As far as the likelihood of cheating again, this needs to be considered as well. If a person has a history of cheating on people who with whom he has little invested, does that put him at a higher risk for cheating on someone in whom he is greatly invested? The answer is probably still Yes, since many people are foolish. But, if people were rational, it should have an effect.
I love how the theoretical person who you cheated with is a folk dancer...that's hilarious. Anyway, one of the big issues I have with cheating in a committed relationship that is rarely talked about revolves around STDs. If you are in a committed relationship, you and your partner may just use BC pills in lieu of condoms. If you cheat (in this example, have sex), there is a chance you may pick something up, and then end up giving it to your committed partner. That's a really messed up situation. On a related topic, I think an interesting question is how much of a committed relationship do you have to be in to consider "cheating" a big deal? Do you feel the same about cheating during marriage as you would if you were in a currently non-sexual relationship where it was implied the two of you were together? I imagine there are some who believe in a bright line view with regards to any cheating, and others who take a more relative view depending on the level of commitment and health of the relationship.
So you never cheated in your entire life on anything. You never cheated on a test, game or taken credit for something that you didn't come up yourself. Come on now this view isn't really f-ed up it's straight honesty. If a person doesn't cheat; then its irrelevant if they can get away with it because it's not a necessity but for those why do then if they get away with it they will. My view on most things are the same anybody capable of anything if they have the right motivation they will do anything.
