The people I knew in high school are so completely different from me now. They all are married with kids and go to church every Sunday (I went to a Christian grade and high school). Even the musicians I knew 10-15 years ago have gone very different directions from me for the most part - some stopped playing, while others are doing EXACTLY the same thing. It would be cool to have a group of friends over a long time.
Definitely. And, to be honest, I've never been one to try and fit in. I mean, long hair, musician, vegetarian - not exactly in the majority.
Trippy thread. My wife and I were together 18 years before we had kids, just because we lived like we were still single, in a way. We had so much fun, and saw kids change the lives of so many our wide circle of friends, that we just didn't want to change who we were. Kids do that. Now we have two, we would be considered "old people" by most of you here (although my wife looks much younger than she is, thank goodness... I don't), and yes, our lives have changed. Many of our friends who got married have kids in college. They developed, many of them, kind of an odd look at the two of us, for choosing not to start a family. And I've always been pretty "out there" anyway, so I totally understand you not feeling as if you fit in. Isabel, forgive me, but you sound like you need to move to a university in a larger city, dump the chump, and enjoy life a bit more. You're too cool to be "trapped" in the place you seem to be in. (god, how presumptuous of me!)
After watching that Katie Couric special last week, I'm thinking that if I was divorced I'd be hanging with teenage gals. 18 is legal. h
Get a haircut (it's just less work and looks better) and start eating steaks (that should help you fit in, you're in Texas ). Don't stop playing music, though .
Actually, my hair has NEVER been easier to manage. I could NEVER wear my hear short because it is WAY too wavy. When I did as a kid, it was the biggest pain in the ass. The longer it got, the easier it became. Plus, I look like a serious dork with really short hair. It's bad. Trust me.
It's hard to fit in when a lot of family members wear turbans. However, we're Sikh but people generalize my people with Muslims. Right after 9-11 it was really bad, kids on the street used to tease my grandfather. Ignorance is sad...
So you choose do to things that are out of the mainstream and then you worry about fitting in? Your ego is being tested a lttle with this divorce thing but face it, your a rebel. You ain't no working man. You've got to go it alone, on your own path. It may be a little lonely till you find your true little rebelette but at least your free. The best music in the world is only has three chords. It has nothing to do with then number of notes, it has everything to do with the attitude with which they are played. Just play your song with passion.
You're either cool with who you are or not. If you like your look, then be proud of yourself. If you feel a need to log on to a website and complain about how you don't fit in, then piss off. Why would you want to 'fit in' in the first place? What can you gain from this thread? Advice from strangers? Show some spine and be your own man. Plenty of people don't "fit in." Either conform and be a Creed-listening mongrel, or be your own man and flow. Either way, don't be a b**** about it. If friends/lovers can't handle "Jeff" the way he is, then f!ck them. At least you'll know you're acting on your own.
Take it easy, Kelly. I'm guessing Jeff is just trying to share his experiences with us and vice versa- no need to get all Amazonian Warrior Lady on him. And I was quite disappointed with your blog- there was nothing filthy, dirtyish, or whorish about it.
You think you don't fit in... try being a true independent in D&D. Seriously. Who wants to fit in anyway. I've always liked being the square peg everyone tries to stick in the round hole. And like someone else here said... you seem to fit in here. (not sure what that says about the rest of us )
We didn't really have to many common friends - one of the problems I guess. Look, I think I may not have explained myself very well. I don't intend to fit in any more than I ever have or haven't. I'm not cutting my hair. I'm not changing my lifestyle. I am going to be exactly who I am and will change things about myself for nobody but me. I have always been that way. I've always followed a different path and that doesn't really bother me. I was just trying to express the fact that it is frustrating when you have built so much of your life around one person and a marriage and then you are put back out there without it because it can get lonely when trying to find people that FIT ME, not the other way around. All I was asking for was similar expriences and maybe a little mutual understanding. I don't really give a crap if people like me or not. That isn't for me to decide anyway. I'm going to do and be what I want, not what others want. Pretty much the story of my life. And so, to coin another poster, if you don't feel like contributing to that, piss off.
You know, I knew about Sikhs when I went into a convenience store not long after 9-11 and saw the guy there wearing the Sikh turban and with the long beard. I politely asked if he was a Sikh and he kind of smiled and said he was. I asked if he had been mistaken for a Muslim and, as a result, given a hard time. He said he had a couple of times and I expressed my frustration with that. Apparently he and his family own the store and I've been in there quite a few times since and they have always been really nice. I can't imagine how tough that would be given how little cultural knowledge many of us seem to posses.
