So nothing...we're no longer friends pretty much. I'm just identifying with what Jeff has said. That is all. So what? So I'll keep my mouth closed then I guess.
I'm doing this and I'm sure there some good ones, but I've yet to find any...Now, it is a gold mine that is untapped , but I'm tired of the one night things, or at least I think I am...the good thing is if one doesn't work out, you can literally pull one out the next day...seriously...
As long as those that get plastered don't drive, I'm ok. There are communication barriers with a drunk person, but I can usually find an out. It's the sloppy drunks that ruin fun for everyone that I avoid. I know a few and don't hang with them, because something always goes wrong.
I'm 34, married, and I'll be up tonight until around 3-4 drinking (beer only) with some other married people. I might start a campfire and listen to some punk rock music. Yee-haw!!!
One thing about Match.com... Turn offs: Long Hair I see that on 3 out of 4 female profiles I look at. Un-freaking-real. Some of them will even have tattoos as turn-ons and one even said she was a sucker for musicians but didn't like long hair. WTF??? subtomic: Off the topic, when are you guys playing again? I've been meaning to come see you guys but hadn't seen you playing lately.
You know, in starting this, I probably shouldn't have even mentioned drinking. It isn't a big deal to me, in all honesty. I was just trying to use it as an example of the problems that sometimes accompany hanging out with musician-types.
I would blow that off. I have "long" hair now, but not gawd-awful. Neither do you, unless it has grown a lot since that band photo. I'd reply to everyone I liked if I went that route. Make 'em see what I look like personally before they pass a shallow judgement like that.
Jeff, I hear ya man on this one! I feel like that at work and with the friends I have now. At work, I am one of the youngest and least experienced people (despite being there for 5 years now) at my company. I feel better about my place in the company now than I did 4 years ago, but I still feel that there are times I don't fit in with the rest of the people due to my young age and immaturity (not all the time but some of the times ). Perfect example is today we had this day long meeting and they brought lunch in. What they brought in was charbroiled chicken, green beans, mashed potatoes, etc - typical homestyle southern food stuff. Only one problem - I hate all that stuff and won't come close to eating it. So, I went out and got something from Wendy's instead. As I was driving to Wendy's, I thought to myself, "I wish I could do a better job of WANTING to eat things that I can't stand," but I just can't do it. Then there is the whole thing with my friends. Most of them, like ima, have gotten married and most have kids. Very few of them have stayed in my hometown as well. I guess it is not that bad because I do consider myself somewhat of a loner. And then you have the women thing - I have been meeting women left and right for some time now thanks to internet dating (match.com and eHarmony), but lately it is always someone who has a kid or is a high-maintenance biyotch. *sigh* - I just don't know if I want to get involved with someone who has a kid, especially considering that I don't even know for sure if I want to have kids of my OWN.
It helps when you have a solid group of friends for a long time - the main group of people I run around with i've known 10-20 years. I'm not quite sure what I would do if I were to move away or whatever and have to build a new group of friends ~ that would be bizarre.
Yea...and friends in the same town, too. I know who you are. All the CLakers in the Rockets forum. I've known you longer than 20 years. Your that friend in a distant land.
Manny, Having met you in person, I can say without a doubt that you would make a fantastic dad and would be an asset to the fatherhood fraternity. That's my 1 sincere post for the year.
fitting in? what is fitting in? don't worry about fitting in and you'll fit in just fine. be yourself and have a good time - maybe socialize more than you're comfortable with and just don't worry about "fitting in."
Ah, don't make me blush. I must have fooled you at the Smeg thing. Honestly, you are probably right but one thing I don't have a lot of is patience. Then I think about how tough it is or would be when you have a newborn child, then later when that kid goes through puberty and is a teenager. I guess part of my attitude for not wanting to date someone who has kids is that I am selfish. I would like to have her all to myself for a couple of years. When you date someone who has a kid or kids, the kid or kids are there, starting at day one.