You got that from Fred Flintstone except he didn't use any profanity of course (but he did always say stuff like "frick and frack, gottalotlackofit...). I hear ya on this one, Molotov. I have been in the dating scene for awhile and it sucks. But it does get better when you do actually find someone who interests you as much as you do them. The only problem is that seems very rare these days. The thing that I have always hated about dating is that everything seems to be like a game. You always have to make sure that you don't screw up and it causes you (at least me) to not be yourself.
Manny - It all IS a game. No matter what the girl says, it's always a game. You don't have to be someone else to play the game.
Interesting that there doesn't seem to be a line between "women to be friends with" and "women to do other stuff with". Do guys want... you know, "friends with benefits"? To stay officially friends but be able to get a little action anyway? Some of the guys I knew in college seemed to be trying that. Even though they knew I wasn't that kind of girl... besides, shouldn't you save your meaningless encounters for people you're not already friends with? Manny... if you're really "not being yourself", it will just cause trouble down the line. You can't keep that up forever. I'm sure you know that. Of course, you guys ask what to do... well, make a better "self"! Or, at least, show us the best parts of what you have. Make a little effort. It wouldn't hurt to be continually trying to improve yourself, either, as we should all do... trust me that a guy who doesn't work on things will eventually get on a girl's last nerve and will lose all her respect. For all you guys who can't live with women, maybe a man would suit you better. Of course, you'll have to get used to things being a little different in intimate situations, but I'm sure that will be no problem.
That's why I said I had platonic friends, as well. To your point, I have women who are "friends", and women who I casually date. Nothing serious, though. As far as my girl "friends", some of them have hooked up with me and some haven't. But whether or not they do doesn't change them from being my friends. Hell, most of them have hit on me. So, back to my point: Women can be plenty great to have as buddies. As far as relationships go, that's where I've always run into a roadblock.
As I was going through marriage counseling before my divorce, the counselor told us to be ourselves. If you didn't want to do something, don;t do it. She was being extra nice to me, and I was thinking if this is really her. After being myself for a little over a week, she asked me, "Are you going to try or not. I don't know how long I can keep acting like this."
You have to ask? Really. I think most women do too, if they're honest with themselves. Paying the price and extent of entanglement seem to be the real issues. I know I always have, and support same both ways. In theory, of course .I know plenty of girls who like something simple and fun, too. That should be fine. My wife doesn't feel quite the same way, however. So..no benefits for me . Ideally, sounds great. Really, some problems. There's a cost for everything.
But you don't want to shower her with farts or is that farts in the shower?? Oh, right, that is me and not you.
Both genders have their share of assholes among them. For every guy complaining about his girlfriend, there is a girl complaining about her boyfriend. How the species survives is a mystery.
