[Need a break from work so this might be long] You need to get out more and away from your usual bubble/network of friends, co-workers, and family. If you landed a hot yet intelligent woman who has a great sense of humor, then chances are you can do it again several times. With a large sample of new women (~100?) from different places, you'll find a girl who'll have the looks you're genetically and psychologically programmed to fall for with the personality that you desire (what some people call soul mates). You have many soul mates scattered around the globe so it's up to you to find them. My two cents: In high school, there'd be a fixed ratio of hot girls in the general population where most of them were blonde, very conservative ditzy cheerleaders from very affluent families. Think Jessica Simpson-types who drove BMWs with Burberry raincoats and Prada purses. As a guy, if you wanted an attractive GF (a "7" or higher), choices were limited. College (UT) changed all of that. With 50k students from all over the state, country, and world, one's choices exploded. The girls above became dime a dozen when they all joined sororities, and you saw them in droves on the way to class, Fri/Sat nights, or at tailgates. Traveling around the world helped too whether for study abroad, internships, or just tourism. Going to Eastern Europe and Australia finally sealed the deal where I met incredibly hot and smart yet down to earth women from modest backgrounds; I saw women very similar to my hottest exes but with the personality I'd wanted. Why you might be pessimistic: -you're "old" -lost the looks, health, fitness level -your job, career limits your ability to expand your network -income -impatience, time's running out to find the "one" ^ An older buddy of mine had the same reservations. He's South Asian, in loads of debt, worn out from being a doctor so looks 45 when he's 35, lives in Houston (not exactly NYC in terms of the dating scene), and has intense cultural pressure to settle down soon regardless of who he lands. However, back in the day he was a player. So, on a whim, he and I enrolled in an art class which was a gold mine for the type of women he was looking for. But he didn't stop there and continued going to new places especially by accepting invitations from all the new people he met, and just being open-minded and friendly. You can't change her. So go out there and meet new people. It's all about probability so don't settle for less. Good luck.
Maybe it's just because I'm in a good place relationship-wise, but I'll chime in from a different perspective. Repeat after me: ALL women are crazy. It's not a matter of if, but only a matter of to what degree. Don't go focusing on the bad and lose sight of the good. Nobody is perfect, and typically those who appear perfect have other flaws that compensate for their outward appearance. Take appearance out of the equation and then measure the pros and cons based on her other qualities.
This. Some of yall just act as if women were scarce. Carry the I-can-date-whoever-I-want attitude and youll get much further with women. They run from needy wussbags.
Trust me ...As a rule, the better looking they are, the more neurotic ... and this just increases exponentially as they get older. That soulmate is out there there but it just has to happen in the flow.
They drive me insane but I couldn't live without them. I've learned to pick my battles, sneak a peak at the sexy girl walking past me on the sidewalk and just keep her smiling. If I can accomplish this then nights like tonight where I am able to go to dollar hot dog night at the Stros game will become possible without a hitch. Oh and buy her shoes...Pretty girls and ugly ones like lots of them. :grin:
Threads like this really make me miss FFB. He was truly the MASTER of the drunken incoherent rambling thread. Everyone else is just playing for 2nd.
if y'all had any idea.... i went thru hell and back with a remarkably beautiful yet unbelievably insane woman. get out while you still can... it ain't worth it.
If she was truly loyal, the only time your friends or family would see her is when she is bringing you a fresh beer.
Put up with WHAT crap? She asked you to do something, and you didn't do it, or she's just asking for nonsense? I need more info to make my asesm... assesm... assessmmm... determined opinion.
I always thought: You always get either a) a good face, b) a good brain, or c) a good body) or a combination of two of those in a chick, never all three.
Eh, when a woman is getting too riled and up in arms, just think about what she's probably done with her mouth at some point in time. It's a great equalizer for me...turns that ranting into Charlie-Brown-Teacher speak. Wah-wah, wah-wah, wah-wah-wah-wah.
