Elvis, on the other hand, has a comfortingly possessive attitude about me: if I sleep with anyone else, male *or* female, he has cheerfully vowed to publicly burn all of my belongings in our front yard.
When it's all over what will you regret most... If you find someone who loves you for who you are, deals with your BS and issues, is there for you in good times and bad, listens to repeat your lameass jokes and stories a million times you are lucky. If you find someone that is actually *there* for you "when's all over" does it really matter that you missed out on having sex with some office temp, or stranger in a bar? I guess all of this depends on the marriage and personalities involved. From my perspective, I wouldn't have an affair on my wife because she is The One for me in every respect. I know this is selfish, but putting aside the betrayal of someone I love and alienating her friends and family whom I have grown close to, I simply could not find someone who suited me better than Danielle, so why look for someone else?
When has it ever been about me? Have I ever said that I cheat, or that I want to? Better yet, have I encouraged anyone to? No ref, the irrelevant analogy is unfounded and this principle applies...I personally am not right about everything, but the few things that I do correctly I don't feel the need to condescend based on my personal decisions. Justify, for you guys? ...surely you jest.
AB-- It certainly seemed like the typw of moral relativism that people bring out when they are trying to rationalize poor behavior. If that was not your intent, then my bad. Since my marriage I have looked at women and thought: Boy I'd sure like to (insert sex act here) her. But thoughts and actually risking everything your life has become are two WILDLY different things. That's really the bottom line on this issue.
Agreed... I still look at fine women and think they same thing. but javing the restraint to not pursue the matter is what makes the difference.. What you are seeing is the married guys answering your original question with explanations as to why they feel that way...If you had entitled it they other way, I think you would have gotten similar responses... I don't actively encourage mine to be with women... The idea of 2 women together is, as noted b4, a very common fantasy with the majority of men.. Just like with the temptation to cheat, we don't necessarily have to act on it just because we think of it...
I couldn't agree more Rockets2k. The thought of having wild sex with a fine woman is a great fantasy. Sometimes fantasies are better left being just that...fantasies.
Dude, come on brother. Nobody is "beating you up" here. Is there any other way to respond to your question than to tell you why we wouldn't cheat? What would make you happy here? Ughhh, o.k. , well I wouldn't cheat, ughhh, but my wife and kids have nothing to do with it!!! Is that the answer you want? What's with you? You asked a simple question. Rather, you stated a false belief, and you recieved simple answers with short explanations. Do you want to hear that we husbands and fathers wouldn't cheat because we're ugly as **** and don't have the opportunities? Well, that's not the case as you have heard. What's so hard to understand? I'm damn good looking, really smart, athletic and have a big dick and sure as heck know how to please a woman. Even when I was single, good-looking girls threw themselves at me all the time. I was no virgin when I got married, but I sure as hell said no a lot more than I said yes. Some very capable guys DO actually wait until they're married to have sex, because they WANT to not because they have to. Same with girls. That wasn't my case, but I didn't go around sleeping with every pretty girl that wanted me to f*** her. To me, it was more important that the girl be clean, respectable, smart, natural and fine as hell. That ruled out a lot of girls, even the fine as hell ones. I wouldn't sleep with Pam Anderson, Brittany Spears or some of those other ones you mentioned. I've turned down hotter girls than those, believe me. My wife is absolutely gorgeous, doesn't wear make-up, doesn't wear diamonds and gold, high heels or fur coats, not materialistic, not trashy, dirty or disrespectful, has a high intelligence and is very faithful- the kind of girl I like. Other guys like the slutty, done-up type- that's their business. Other guys wait until they're married and are very happy & that's their business. I told you my business. I didn't think I had to get into that much, but apparantly I did. As for all the butthole and poop talk, I guess I didn't really explain it too well. I was trying to make a joke. Sure, bodies are beautiful things, but that's all they are. If you are with someone, you have to smell their sh**, clean up their throw up when they get sick, smell morning breath every now and then and watch them get old, wrinkled and die. It's not always pretty. If you're willing to throw away something you love(especially if you have kids) for an affair with someone else who ****s, throws up, has morning breath, whose hair will eventually start falling out and get sick and die, well, like I said, that's your business. We are all just bodies that age and rot. To me there is more spirituality involved in every day life than fuc*ing someone just because they have nice mammary glands and a poop-shooter. And, don't get me wrong, I think women are the most beautiful of all creations and I do masturbate while thinking of some of the ones like you named. But, in reality, would I ever sleep with them? Since I'm married and have kids, No. If I were single would I sleep with Pam Anderson or Angie Jolie? Probably not. Would I sleep with Mrs. JB? Probably if she were Ms. JB, even though I don't know what she looks like. I'm sure she's pretty cute, though. (sorry Jeff , you get my point) About Tyra, I was just trying to think of someone you might find good enough to be faithful to. I didn't think you were married and didn't mean to offend you at all. I thought you might be black according to your moniker, but to me it doesn't matter at all. Yes, if I were single, I don't think I could turn down Tyra, unless after meeting and talking to her I was turned off. This being the case with many of the pretty girls I've turned down before. I hope you understand. Sorry if it bothers you that the main reason I wouldn't cheat is because I love my wife and kids. It's the simple truth and I thought that is all that is warranted out of these discussions. Peace bro.
Oh! And I do have about 5% body fat. I can also say no to a lot of unhealthy foods. And I can't remember too many times in the last few years that I've had a meal without my family. I guess I don't understand your statement. Animals have urges to eat, don't they? Are you saying, some men run out on their families to go eat at Mcdonald's by themselves or something and just never come back for a while? I'm just confused by your statement, sorry. On a side note, many males in the animal kingdom will provide the food for their families. Many times it's the female, depends on the species. Some animals mate for life. My favorite are the beavers, very monogamous and f*ck like, well, like beavers . You can read about wolves, doves and a host of other animals to find out their reproductive patterns. It's all very interesting. The male penguins sit on the eggs for months on end while the female goes out in search of food. The male seahorses are the ones that actually carry the eggs in their stomach and give birth . Alright, Alright, that's enough!
See now, Another Brother- you're last post is a great one! Why were you giving us such a hard time for our answers? .
not giving anyone a hard time, and cool with all the responses, but if you scroll through them all, people took shots at me needlessy. it's all gravy baby, just another day in the BBS. ...You Good Looking, shiddd, and I'm the Dahli Lama
I've never cheated on my wife, but as I've told her (and I'm sure she'd rather have this message delivered differently), it's not just because I love her. In fact, I've never cheated on any woman (or girl) I've had a commitment too. I started out at a young age having girlfriends, and I made a conscience effort to remain true to those commitments. If it's really "the thought that counts," then I'm just as guilty as everyone else because I've certainly been tempted....probably more so sense I've been married. Still, I remain true to this important ideal. Perhaps I'm wrong for thinking so, but I'm very well aware of the VERY stong physical urges I have. To be able to keep them in check, I believe, further separates me from the barely able to walk upright primitives that we evolved from. The men who cheat on their significant others (when they've made a binding commitment).....sure, some of them may possess strong mental capabilities.....but as far as I'm concerned, they're weak......and they have one foot left firmly planted in the dark ages.
Now here's a question that I really haven't got a straightforward answer on: What do you when you are w/ your girlfriend/wife/fiance, and you spot guys or hear guys that are howling at your girl, checking your girl out, etc? Do you: a) Be cool, and just ignore them b) Look at them and try to start some smack c) Just get away from them I know guys have been in this situation so many times, but I have never known what the average man would do in that situation....any suggestions or ideas?
Your situation reminds me of that episode on the Bernie Mac show where Bernie told people in a radio interview that he would go out with Halle Berry in a heartbeat if his wife suddenly passed away. Somehow situation comedy didn't make his wife as playfully understanding.
