the true answer. . . . Fatty. . . you need to find a woman that is as big a jerk as you are Rocket River
Don't act nice. You have to be nice. If that is something you are interested in, start from looking at women like they are some real person, and not a different mythological being to be treated differently, or entered into a competition with. I would mention don't take crap from them, but I doubt that will be a problem. I say that because turning into a pushover is the worst. When hanging out with guys it might be a lot of fun to clown around, make funny comments, and that kind of thing. Try and find the opportunity to do the same with women. If they talk to you(one of those emotional type talks), listen to what they are saying but there is a good chance that the specifics aren't what you need to be listening to. What they are really doing is telling you the specifics so that you can see the way they are feeling. For instance if a girl starts talking about a crappy thing that a co-worker who she trusted did to her, at a time when she was running around taking care of her sister, don't worry about planning revenge on the co-worker(yet) or working out a schedule to attend to her sister and work. Tell her it must suck to be that busy, and then have something rotten happen to her at work, all because she was trying to do the right thing with her family. She wants you to understand how she feels, and sympathize rather than solve the problem. After that part is clear you can bring up solutions to the problem, or whatever. It may seem unnatural at first, but just try and understand. If it seems like a real pain in the ass, and you have no true desire to help the female out by understanding, then don't do it. Maybe look for a different person who it doesn't feel so bad doing that for. That is a first step. There is more later on, but just start there. You will be ahead of the game if you do. Just don't become a pushover, or real sappy yourself. You can understand and still maintain your strength and dignity.
Just to clarify, my problem isn't necessarily meeting women. It seems to be my sarcastic humor and off-the-cuff remarks that are screwing me. I can tell you in the past couple of months I have had 6 women who have been all into me at one moment, and then run away in the next. 6! That tells me I'm doing something wrong. A couple of my friends talked to me about it on Sunday. They said that it seemed recently that I was just really bitter to women, in general, and that a lot of women were bringing this to their attention. If it were only a couple, I'd probably blow it off. The sad part is that this appears to be subconciously destroying my reputation. And I need to figure out how and why I've suddenly become so bitter. I honestly don't know.
