You lack loyalty for even considering this. Its bad enough to have thoughts about another guy's chick, and its even worse that it is your best friend's girl. No offense, but your friend isn't a dick, you are.
Bad idea dude. Plenty of chicks in Houston. This is going to be headache if you head down that path...
that's quite a situation you're in. but trust me, the feelings you have right now will pass. do the right thing. this is similar to a situation i had in college. i had a roommate during college who was going out with a friend of mine. she and i ended up sleeping together for one night. at that time, i thought i she was the one... and if i did everything right, she'd leave him and everything would work out like some hollywood comedy romance. well, they broke up, and i found someone else. to this day, he doesn't know because i don't think it's worth telling. i really have to watch it now when i get drunk... i get into stupid mode and want to let it out.
Oh buddy... I can understand how it's tempting AT THE MOMENT, but you have to take a step back and realize who you are and what the aftermath will be. You don't know that you and your buddy's girl would ever make it. A kiss can turn out to be nothing more than....a kiss. Stay loyal to your friend, recognize your feelings, but make sure his girl knows that you aren't available to her. In this world, like Scarface is known for, you only have your balls and your word. Make sure your word is priority over your balls for the moment!
well not completely though. if the friend's chick is bang-able, any warm-blooded male is going to have a few thoughts every now and then. acting on them though is definitely a different story.
To the op: Not a good idea. As a matter of fact, I would apologize to your best friend's wife and tell her that you cannot get involved with her. And I would probably quit hanging around them until you know that you can keep your little head thinking for your big head. When she is ready to leave him, you can be there if you are available but it may never happen. Some people wait their whole lives for one person that may or may not be available. Depends on what you want to do in regards to that. If I was you, though, I would move on to someone else, preferably one that is not married and not connected to you through a good friend.
Ya um this isnt going end well. It would be bad enough if this was just your best friends girl but this is his wife on top of that they have a kid.. Ya defintely a bad idea..Think with your brain not your ______
I understand you wanting to ride in on your white horse, take her away from all the mess, and if you truly care about her then I can appreciate that. But you are headed for some serious problems if you don't take a step back. This whole issue will be much more difficult than you can imagine. If she is really not happy then she needs to take care of that situation long before you should even consider anything with her. Step back, think about this with the head on your shoulders and at the very least wait until their situation is resolved. I will say you may be in some trouble already, I have seen things like this where the girl could turn on you and make it look like it was entirely your fault
There is not a single thing that could go right if you decide to act on your feelings. It would be difficult enough if it were just you and your buddy and his wife, but the child complicated things about a billion zillion times. When a kid enters the picture, it is no longer fun and games. I'd have a hard time excusing myself if I wrecked a buddy's marriage, but to split his family up and leave the child a victim of a busted family at that age is simply unforgivable. Yeah, he's probably a jerk, but you can't make that decision.
Update- Forgot to mention im roomates with them. But anyway we were grocery shopping and she got some Cheeze its and he flippeds out on her yeah over cheezits....then made her yeah her put everything in the buggy back on the shelf and left the store, over nothing, she lives with that every day, but im gonna just step back and not ride in on the white horse but maybe she'll wake up and be like i cant live the rest of my life like this or maybe he'll wake up and treat her better. BTW..she is very hot Thanks for the advice guys.
Dude...believe me when I say this, you have to get the **** out of rooming with them!! So you live with them and their 1 year old baby?? WTF?? At any rate, living with them is going to increase your chances of trying something with her and I'm telling you, I don't care if she looks like ****ing Kate Beckinsale, you just can't do it. I would start looking for another place to stay and keep an eye on their situation. When she does decide to leave him, then make your move. But be warned that she may NEVER decide to leave him.
Im with you man, I talk to some other girls, that would be way less drama for me. To young for some crazy **** like that right now. preesh.
I agree No Kim Kardashian or Jessica Alba should make you cross the line. You should move out to avoid any and all confrontations that may accidentally occur. And like I said, since she hasn't left yet is because she doesn't want to, is too afraid to, or feels she needs to take care of him. The cheezits thing is ridiculous, and I wish a mofo would start a scene with me in a grocery store over some dumb ****. Now that I think about it, you living may be the only reason he isn't giving her the Chris Brown treatment.(just a thought, may not be the case) Anywho everyone here told you the same thing. Do the right thing.
Fixed Seriously though, I take it you're around the same age they are. You're still young enough to go out, maybe not a club but a bar. Houston is full of hot chicks she isn't the only one. You are just after her because you're comfortable with her and vice versa. You really need to get out and let that tornado has to take its own course. Be a real friend and talk to the both of them. Tell your bud that he needs to get his act together, he has a baby and a wife he needs to take care of. Tell her that you two can't be anything but friends. Good luck to you I hope all turns out well and you make the right choice.
sounds like more of his problem than yours. you're still single and have a lot of options. you can get any girl out there that you choose, but he on the other hand is stuck with a wife who likes other men and he's stuck with a child that he'll have to be responsible for. sounds like he's ****ed, and will probably be miserable. and you kissing his wife is the icing on the cake. probably the worst thing that he could have imagined. you oughta talk to him, ask him if they're getting a divorce, if he loves her, etc... if they're going to eventually separate, then wait it out and then she and you are both free to do whatever, until then, respect your friend, respect yourself, have some honor, get your own *****.
If I were you, I'd just masturbate a lot. That way, you'd be too tired to do anything adulterous! I know that when I'm done beating the meat, all I want to do is sit on clutchfans and read about Greg Oden and possible tmac scenarios
