Uh, I suggested that he talked to her first before going the counseling/couples therapy route. We still don't know if he truly loves her, so it might be a moot point...geez.
You have to be joking. If you can't talk it out one on one, you should definitely try counseling before ending a marriage. I could imagine that having a third party involved would allow for better communication because arguments don't start when one person starts getting defensive.
i'm just going through this thread for the first time and i just said the same exact thing out loud to myself then read your post. that made me laugh.
I was about to call you out and tell you off, but when I saw that part... oh damn- you need to leave this nagging bacteria from your midst...
Hmm, for all of you saying that a relationship has to be 50-50...idk. I think a lot of the time its 70-30 or 90-10, shifting who is doing what between you and your significant other. You each make sacrifices that lead your input to be a certain level for certain things. However, for example if she sacrifices on one thing, you have to on another. That's how the 50-50 thing is reached. I think a lot of the time in a relationship we lose track and expect that every single issue be compromised at an even medium. I don't think it works like that.
50-50 is half assed. I said 100-100. And that is unrealistic, but you have to aim high. I totally agree with you though, sometimes somebody has to be 90 while the other is 10, and so forth. But the point is, if one person is always doing all the work... thats an improper balance that won't last long.
I need to get you the number of my friend.. he's going through the same sort of thing. Her needs are more important and such. Makes me sad because now I don't get to talk to him hardly at all. I didn't read all the posts from everyone else, but I definitely think you need to have a serious sit down talk with her and tell her you need your space. Likely she will say that either you don't love her enough or you don't care how she feels... which is bs so just ignore it. Asking you to sacrifice more for her than you feel comfortable with on a consistent basis is not a healthy situation. Be yourself, if she can't handle that, maybe you need to separate.
I suggest you ask yourself what's the most important things you want out of the relationship, and whether or not you are getting back what you put in. Good relationships have their problems, but generally speaking you get more back then your put in. Still, you have to always put a lot in. My suggestion is if you want to try to make it work, go see a marital counselor or someone along those lines, even a life coach or therapist. Find one you relate to and feel comfortable with, and see how that goes. Tell your wife you are doing this as well. Good luck.
Holy Jeebus son, did you grow up in a home with no daddy? Men's compromises in a relationship are 1. We agree to suppress our natural given, hormone driven desire to impregnate anything that moves, and 2. We understand that we we will work hard, stress out and die young to provide for and protect the family. After that, leave us the hell alone, we will do whatever we want to do and that sure as sh** does not include watching Lifetime movies. Now grow a sack and tell her how it is, the game is starting.
She still in there? If so, do this: EXCEPT that guy is doing it WRONG. Go horizontal instead of vertical from the very top to the door to the very bottom. Remember,
