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That's one stupid statement. Men want options when they are single and so do women. They *both* know the game, right? His emotional connection doesn't sound like it goes past "I like this girl and enjoy having sex with her." If he wants her to commit to him, he needs to commit to her, right? Am I missing something here? I understand why he wants to be able to have sex with somebody and not have any strings attached and still want *her* to be exclusive without it being "serious," but how in the hell can anybody blame her if she's not waiting like a nun for a free night with Fatty? If Fatty isn't cool with that, cool, but good luck finding a woman who is happy with being someone's casual, but exclusive pin cushion. Also, anybody that blames a stupid show like "Sex in the City" for women being independent doesn't know any independent women.
I stumbled across this thread over the weekend and I read the ladder theory for the 1st time. I have to say it completely explained a relationship I had some time back. I didn't know it then but I was just her cuddle bitc&. She'd come over to my dorm room and we lay it bed together and I still can't believe I was in bed with a young beautiful girl and didn't get to touch home plate. To all you young guys out there this is something that will haunt you so never be a cuddle bitc&. On your issue Fatty sounds like you really have fun with this girl and you have a nice connection going and that is hard to find as I'm sure you know. Don't ever count yourself out man if she chooses the other guy so be it, but you hang in there and keep doing your thing with her because you could end up with her in the end and the other guy could get the boot. Just guard your own feelings for her a bit because you don't want to end up love sick for this chick and she's out with this other guy man that would suck!
