My Mid 20s Crisis

If you aren't happy with your current job its not too late to go back to school and get into a field that you would find fulfilling. Do it now while you are still young. To me it just sounds as if you are just trying to find yourself which is perfectly normal. Don't let life get you down. Things get easier as you find your path.

 

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Messed up my Ari GTFO gif

 

Man that sucks, whatever you do, don't do what most people do and buy a nice car and have sex with someone half your age. It's not cool to have sex with 12-year olds, The More You Know!

 

While most are being a little incredulous that at 24 you’re feeling you’re at a crisis, I think you’re pretty lucky.

Many of us just go on with our unhappy lives and it finally blows up in our mid 30’s or early 40’s. I had my mid-life crisis at 36/37. While it’s never too late to change your situation, I do wish I had done something about it a dozen years ago.

If you’re unhappy with your job, there may be another company/situation you can move to and improve the environment. If you don’t think you’ll ever be content with your career, now’s a great time to make plans to move on.

Don’t regret the girls that got away. Chances are you dodged a bullet, especially being so young.

Money troubles are fairly constant. Do what you can and accept the rest. Sacrificing now and paying down the debt is a great stress reliever.

Whatever you do, don’t wait for your life to start. It already has. Start living it. Make the most of it.

If you enjoy traveling, make sure you’re doing it. If you enjoy live music, see some shows. If you like to gamble, hit Vegas. Your life isn’t your job. Your job is just what allows you to live your life. Live it the way you want.

 

Hell, 25 was like the best ever. I just had my 16th annual 25th Birthday. Good times. Be glad you recognize that you want something else, and do something about it. Just ask Tyler.

You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet.

I see all this potential, and I see squandering. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy $#@! we don't need.

We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won't. And we're slowly learning that fact. And we're very, very pissed off.



I hear what you're saying, dude..

but...

LIFE IS HARD. GET A HELMET. YOU'RE 24, FOR CRYING OUT LOUD.



Find a way to enjoy these years, and take advantage of your youth and awareness. Project your future. Preferably in a legal and positive way, of course.

 

Depends...Do you want to be rich or do you want to have fun?

If you want to be rich, ask your manager if you're meeting his expectations. If he says yes, ask for more opportunities for growth in your field...learn something.

If he says no, ask why and how to grow in your field.

Then devote half of your free time to mastering it.

You could do both have fun and be better professionally, but if you're striking out on the ladies, pick the money and power for future potential.

If your life sucks, double up on your gifts and what you have. That's how you will succeed.

 

I second the motion!

 

Quick solution:
Want to change your life...... get a girl pregnant!!!!!

 

I'm 25 and I thought life sucked when I was 24. I really, seriously, was pissed and angry at alot the world (and especially the Jazz). I had alot on my plate and decided I needed a change. But before I decided to be proactive, life kicked me in the a$$. My cousin died of cancer at the ripe age of 33. It gave me a lot to think about.

From that, I decided to change what was my "norm". I moved out of my folk's house, I started hanging with a different crowd (those who were more supportive and more career driven than my old buddies), I ran a half marathon, etc etc. I sought perspective and insight. It definitely changed my life. I started to appreciate life more. I appreciated my parents. I worked harder because I knew what was at stake. You just need to find something to motivate you.

If you don't like what you're in, shake your life up. In a positive manner. Take some risks. Go holler at that super hot chick thats way out of your league. Go study for grad school. Go apply at a dream job. What's the worst that could happen, you stay stuck in the funk you're in now? Be more optimistic and it'll do wonders for you. There is a light at the end of the dark tunnel you're in now. Just keep your head up.

 

no doubt.

At your age, you still have plenty of time to make life what you want it to be.

It was once truly said, youth is wasted on the young.

 

Im having a late teens crisis

 

OP:

I think there are many people that are our age that are experiencing similar feelings... maybe not to the extent that you are, but definitely similar feelings.

I think it stems from the fact that there is an underlying assumption that you are supposed to have things figured out at the end of college - i mean, that is when your official learning is over with afterall... but the fact of the matter is that you just barely begin to figure things out at the end of college.

Another reason is that it is a very transformative stage for you in a sense that you are no longer doing the only thing that you were doing for the first 22 yrs of your life - going to school. From elementary onto college, life is categorized by summers off, long winter breaks, and constant learning. But that period of life is over with the end of college and it is difficult to deal with.

So, in other words, I do understand what you are going through since I am about the same age as you are. The good thing is (and a lot of other posters have touched on this) is that at 24 you are still quite young enough to change your life. Of course it would be easier to change your life if you could go back in time to 19 yrs old, but the present day reality of being 24 yrs old is still pretty great. Realistically speaking, you still have time to shape your life and most importantly, you don't have any real obligations such as kids or a wife to support. The minute you have a wife and kids, your own priorities take a bit of a backseat to theirs and therefore limit your ability to shape your life.

I would suggest reading some books like "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" that might help put you in the right state of mind. In order to change your life, you have to change your mentality but it's pretty hard thing to do. Many people who say "just go out and change your life" probably have never followed their own advice. Your mentality is something that is built after many years of life, therefore instituting a switch in your mentality is not a simple on-off switch that you can push. Part of mentality is laziness/sloth and I will venture to say that the majority of people who are unhappy with their lives are also too lazy to implement the radical change that's necessary. It takes time, effort, and willpower to institute change because you first have to figure out what to change and how to change it. That means reading books, searching online, and once you do all that - putting everything into action. PUtting things into action involves actually taking the risks that you learn about in your discovery phase... and the process of taking risk is a difficult one for most people since they are risk-averse as well.

On the bright side, given that we live in the internet age, it is really really easy to get your hands on information. Search online, there are great blogs out there. Search for yangtown on google - it is a good blog for young men. In addition to blogs, there is a wealth of information out there that you can find... you just have to have the will to find it.

If you really want it, you can have it, but it will be hard and it will require a good deal of effort. Good luck.

 

Dude I feel the same way and I'm 23. Eveyday I wish I could go back to about 5 years ago and change some of the things I did. But I can't so I have to learn to live with it thats the only thing you can do.

 

You think you feel bad now ? Wait until you are really, really old like ima_drummer2k -- now that is old.

Old.

 

I hear that. The urge to compare yourself to friends is strong, but ultimately it never makes you any happier.

As for women, if it's about not having any game, there's plenty of info on the interwebs to help you get there. You live in OC for crying out loud. The only thing holding you back is your standards.

And if your friends' successes still gnaw in your mind, just consider how they got there and how much time and effort they put in. I'm betting it's not hard work alone, but also meaningful work.