Damn, just watched that video...you think those girls spit or swallow? BTW, that was some nasty ass ****...cant wait to deliver it to my friends.
I talked to this dude for over an hour, I'm secure in my sexuality ass hole the issue really isn't "my issue", i know I'm not the only person who has had this happen.
i don't care if i get hit on, when someone doesn't know me. if i make a conscious effort to relay that i'm not gay and i still get hit on then that's where the problem lies for me.
okay, I'm not going to get into a proving my manhood deal with you. its silly, this is why i try not post personal things. i really meant this thread to be a discussion on the topic. do you think its alright for a gay man to hit on someone he should assume not to be gay or is that crossing a line. but if you just want to discuss if i'm afraid of being tempted to do something then have a nice day.
No big deal. Straight people do it all the time. I am straight, married, live in SF and get hit on by guys sometimes. Like rimbaud said, I just take it as a compliment. But it was weird at first, for sure. I can understand your frustration without calling you a homophobe, too. I mean, you feel as if you've already said "my car is not for sale," and some guy is like, "no really, how much for the car?" It's maybe annoying. If it really does more than annoy you, though, then there's something more for ya to think about, IMO.
My issue with gay dudes is that they are better interior decorators than a heterosexual bachelor like myself. Thank God for black leather furniture.
serious question. why do you think if i had a "really big issue" that there may be something going on that I need to deal with. why do people say that. btw, its not something that i'm going around stewing about, just an interesting thread topic i thought.
You should have asked him who his favorite basketball player was, if he answers Dirk Nowitzki or John Amaechi, then you know he is.
space ghost mentioned that now I know how women feel who are hit on by guys after they have tried to let a man know they're not interested. its the same deal.
No, I get it. Well, let's use the car analogy again (which I'm not sure is very good, but whatever). If the guy asking if you car for sale, or if he can ride in your car, just asks once, and asks politely, but it makes you angry, then I'd say maybe there's something else going on there. You've always struck me as someone who thinks a lot. So, if you ask yourself "would I get angry if an ugly woman was hitting on me when I made it clear I wasn't interested?" ... and the answer is "no," then it seems interesting to ask why. In my view, we're all a little bit (to hugely varying degrees) racist and homophobic and sexist and what-have-you. But none of that is worth our time or energy, and they're pretty damned negative forces. So I think it's worthwhile to find these things, confront them, and try to minimize them. In my case, I've still gotta long way to go with the isms and I'm not perfect, but being comfortable with gay people has added a lot to my life, in terms of friends for sure but also just daily comfort living in a city. In my case, I don't think I'm saying there's another issue only b/c of the sexuality issue. It's just more like, life is so short, minimize how much time you spend angry, 'specially over the small stuff. And I don't walk that walk, yet. But the real question is, why can't I make butt jokes like basso gets to?
I also meant to add that sometimes it is uncomfortable being around a woman I know is attracted to me that I'm not attracted to. I probably took that too seriously t
i'm not sure that the "gay" quotient is really relevant. the real question is whether it's ok for someone to hit on someone they know, or assume, to be unavailable. my response is, that's on them- the issue is how you respond. if you're uncomfortable, let the guy know. if not, let it slide- no harm no foul.
I agree with PGA. Its one thing to be hit on, but its another thing to be hit on when you've made your stance clear. There have been females that I enjoyed being around them, but made me feel uncomfortable when they hit on me.(its the ugly ones). I can take light banter/flirting with anyone, but if it turns into something more than words and im not attracted to you, i want no part in it. I think im understanding PGA's point as being tolerant to gays, but doesn't want to be labeled as a anti-gay because he has to tell a gay to f- off because he won't get the point. Gays are men too, and men generally only want sex. This is why i usually try to avoid them.
