my girlfriend is pregnant....should i skip town....?

Poor kid.

 

Probably should be speaking for cagey vet, but I'm guessing the suggestion of fleeing the country was a joke meant to express how freaked out he is about the news. I'll let him confirm or deny but I'm betting he isn't actually considering uprooting his life to dodge his paternal responsibilities.

Edit: well, I guess cagey vet anticipated my response and confirmed before I could even hit Submit!

 

Are you sure about that? From watching TV, it seems like babies do a lot of pee-ing & poo-ing...

 

There is nothing wrong with being anxious or scared about this. There is nothing wrong with thoughts of skipping town or "getting out of it". It's a huge life changing event and will take sometime to process

As long as when that baby is born you do all you can. No matter how b****y, mean or controlling a woman can get there is no way she can keep you from your kid --- and there is no reason for you not to be in his/her life.

I sincerely hope it goes well (for you and the kid) and I wish you Good Luck !!

 

Whatever you do, don't shirk on child support if she pretends she doesn't want it. A friend of mine did this, and he ended up having to back-pay the child support after the chick changed her mind, which has put a major dent in his finances.

 

pay the $500 for the paternity test. if it's not yours, you're out 500 bucks and get the hell out of town. if it is yours, you're SOL and out of half your paycheck the next 18 years. good luck with life.

 

If you are asking about leaving town because your girl is pregnant, then you arent ready to be a dad my man. If you are sure it is yours, be ready for your life to completely change(if you two decide to keep it). Good luck on your decision!

 

First of all, a paternity test is in order. If that child is yours, you are responsible. Any jack ass can be a daddy, but it takes a man to be a father. If you run away to Costa Rica and that is your kid, you're not a man. You are lower than pond scum. I hate to say it, but it's the truth. Be a man. Be a father. Be there for that child, if it is yours.

 

I have a friend whose brother was in your situation about seven months ago. He had his kid a week ago. Not having kids, I don't really know much about this stuff, but my suggestion is to man up and do what it takes to make life good for your child. I don't know what that entails, but put whatever you want for yourself on the back burner and in all things, do what would be best for your child.

 

the title of the thread is 'my girlfriend is pregnant should i skip town?'

 

if you run to costa rica you'll just find another psychotic girl that you'll pregnatize and then have to run to another country again.

 

There are like 150 countries out there, it'll take him a long time to impregnate a girl in every one. An admirable goal to shoot for, though.

 

It appears from the your breif descrition of the situation that putting the child up for adoption could be the best for him and everyone else involved. The kid gets a loving two parent home, you get out of child support and your girlfriend doesn't have to put up with hasseling you and your poo.

Now I don't have a clue what tact you take to suggest this to her, maybe go the priest route if she's Catholic. Maybe go to her Mom and ask for help, maybe go talk to an adoption counselor.

Good luck but know that the baby come first in whatever decisions you make. If you bail on him, you will never forgive yourself. Hell is living with a guilty conscience. And maybe, maybe if you devote yourself to providing for your son you will end up getting more out of it than you give.

 

Well, don't wuss out and run away from your problem...It took two of you to make this problem, so its up to you to stand up and be a man and take responsibility for your actions...

having said that, make sure its yours, first and foremost...She will be offended by you asking, but why pay for the crime if you don't have to...

Just because you have a child, doesn't automatically make you a father...You have to sacrafice a lot, but its worth it if you choose to be in its life...

That's my two cents, kinda Dr. Phil-esque...

 

Dude
relax. . . you won't see her everyday
but you will HAVE to deal with her

Time to MAN UP

once those big eyes hit u will see everything will be ok
you can do it. . .trust me. . . you can

I KNOW

oh yea. . .. GET THE D*MN DNA TEST
*ALWAYS* TEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
remember
it is not disrespectful . . it is responsible

Rocket River

 

If you are not really willing to be a father, than it would be better if you did not become involved.

Of course you still have to pay child support.....

I will say Fatherhood is the best thing that anyone could ever do.

Being a DAD is awesome.

DD

 

You need to marry this girl and give the kid two parents instead of one parent and one absentee parent. So, she goes crazy and drives you crazy every so often. Doesn't that mean she is crazy for you? If I recall correctly, then this was your ideal woman in your relationship thread except for the fight. So, work on it and give a kid two parents in a loving home. Do the right thing. You shoplifted the pootie but got caught. Your on parole for life now...might as well get married.

 

I've met tons of well-adjusted people that were raised in single parent homes. The people I've met that are most messed up are the ones who had chaotic, unhappy, and broken homes.

You can't fix one mistake with another.