Franchise-- It seems as though your relationship changed when you found out she had cheated. Your relationship sounded difficult before that happened...but once trust was shattered it became an untenable situation. Don't answer the phone...not for a while at least. You need to get to a point where you aren't angry anymore before you talk to her. And in time you DO need to talk to her...to be able to rationally explain to her what you feel. You owe her that much...and you owe it to yourself. I know this from experience. I could write a short book on that experience (one girl in particular). But this thread isn't about me...it's about your problem. I hope the best for you.
Haven't we all? Relationships can be a b*tch. I was with one women for three years. We got along great, but we met when she was going through a really rough patch in her life. Our relationship was a bumpy ride. We ended on pretty friendly terms all things considered. If we had meet two or three years later than we did, I think we would have been able to make the whole thing work out. Not only do you need to find the right one, but you also need to find her at the right time for both of you.
I remember something that Mr Oily said to me when I was coming to terms with my divorce situation. I believe it was... "Mean people suck!!!" Good luck on your fresh start.
That is soooooooooo true!! Timing for both parties is really the key to a healthy long-term relationship. If one person is at a different place in life than you are, you have a very tough road ahead of you. The right person + the right timing = long-term lasting love. My God that makes sense to me now.
3814 summarized it the best. You wont miss her, you'll just miss how she was when your first met. I went through the same crap last year. She was just too good to be true. It ended up that I was right. I wanted to have a closure but it came down to how she acted at the end. It took me a around a good year to get over her. The good memories will always be there, but remember, it just was not meant to be.
Happened to me back in June. Not the same circumstances, necessarily, but I did end a long relationship. Still trying to get thorugh it, and am learning what these guys are telling you now. Such as... I've never heard that song, but I'm glad that I know that line now. That's as much wisdom as I've heard on the subject. Thanks.
Wait! My entire love life has been built around the concept that c*m guzzling = good. Has there been a rule change? Did I miss a meeting?
Hey guys.. thanks again for all of the kind words. I would have to say that this is the most stressful and hard things I have ever done. I have ignored every phone call to my house and cell phone. I listened to a few messages and it was enough to make me want to puke. My dad is going to delete all of my messages for me so I dont have to hear them. I think that people stay in a relationship when the good outweight the bad. I think her insensitivity tipped the scales. I don't want to be with someone that heartless. But on the other hand, I want to be her friend down the road. I still can't pull myself together enough to call/answer her. I have ANOTHER funeral today to go to, even though I wasn't as close with this family member. Still, 2 coffins in 3 days is 2 too many. I mean, she already broke up with me, even though she just said it in the heat of rage. She didn't mean it. But I can't take her back. I have taken her back once and she never changed after that. She actually got worse, so damn, why the hell would I do that?! I think what hurts the most is remembering all of the good times we had. But there is too much drama now and the girl that I love is long gone. She called to my parent's house late last night(I was at my sister's) and talked to my dad. He told her that I would talk to her when I was ready and she kept telling him to put me on the phone. Calling my dad a liar isn't going to help the cause.... uh oh, as I'm typing this ::RING RING::!!! AHHH!!! MAKE IT STOP!!! LOL. Her mom did call me and leave a message.. I don't even think I can talk to anybody on her side because I don't want to hear her case. Its too late, It's over, I need closure, but I dont know what to say.
Dude, You do not OWE her a thing. Let her walk, she will learn from this too. You deserve to be with someone nice..... DaDakota
c*m guzzling? Is that the same thing as **** chugging? I sure hope so, or else I've been doing something wrong!
Dude, that chick is crazy. You are doing the right thing by distancing yourself as best you can from the situation. Stick to your guns and look out for Franchise2001 for awhile. You're going to be alright.
Several years ago I broke up with a girl who proceeded to call my family. After a few complaints by my sister, I called the girl. She started trying to plead her case, but I said something along the lines of: "Look...it's over. I don't feel that we can continue this relationship, and if you call my family again I will call the cops and file a stalking charge. That is all." And I hung up the phone. She left my family be from that point forward.
First Franchise2001 I want to say Iam sorry about your bestfriends father passing away. My prayers are with the family. Secondly, I know this maybe a time in your life were you feel week, BUT DO NOT GIVE IN!! I believe in my heart love(REAL LOVE) does not hurt. Yes it will rain, and it will be pain. But not at the cost of someones pride. I have never been in love(as far as a boyfriend goes), but I know what it is like to have someone you care about hurt you. It is confusing,and also can be discouraging. Do not be discouaraged!! Their are plenty of good woman who can appriate a man with a good heart. I pray that you use this time to reflect and see were you could have made some mistakes in the relationship. By reflecting you are allowing healing to taken place, and you can make better decisions in you future relationships. Yes we believe that we are perfect, but we always can get better. You do not want to bring old baggage into a new relationship. Use this time to enjoy life!! Enjoy yourself and others around you who care about you for who you are!! GOD BLESS!!
I think you did the right thing.... I mean after all she cheated on you! You were nice enough to forgive her and blow it off. Look somebody is trying to tell you to just forget about her and move on! Oooo and turn you PHONE on damn you could be missing a new chance with a new girl!
Ahem..I think Olivia Newton-John said it best.. [ I Honestly Love You ] (Peter Allen/Jeff Barry) Maybe I hang around here A little more than I should We both know I got somewhere else to go But I got something to tell you That I never thought I would But I believe you really ought to know I love you I honestly love you You don't have to answer I see it in your eyes Maybe it was better left unsaid This is pure and simple And you should realize That it's coming from my heart and not my head I love you I honestly love you I'm not trying to make you feel uncomfortable I'm not trying to make you anything at all But this feeling doesn't come along everyday And you shouldn't blow the chance When you've got the chance to say I love you I honestly love you If we both were born In anoother place and time This moment might be ending in a kiss But there you are with yours And here I am with mine So I guess we'll just be leaving it at this I love you I honestly love you I honestly love you
