I think I would have waited to make sure you and she were on solid ground before bringing another child into the world, but whatever. Congrats....hopefully.
You know what you're 100% right. But ***** happens. I don't want her to get an abortion so I have to deal with it.
Ever hear of freakin' birth control? Geez, stupid people makes me mad. You guys had a child when you were friends! It's not a good way to bring a child in the world. I've been with my dude for almost 5 years and no kids because we don't want to have a kid if we are not ready. We are 26 and 27. Next time, use some damn protection. Hope your kids turn out okay.
Well everyone isn't like you ok I'm sorry I mad a mistake does that make you feel better now. You do know that everyone isn't marry when they have kids right? Just because you're not ready doesn't mean I'm not yes I know I'm young so you can point to the age thing. But let me tell you something my kids will turn out ok even if we don't stay together. I'm not like most if I leave the mother I'm done with the child too. My kids will always eat even if I don't. And please lets not call names that makes you look younger than 26 and 27.
Sounds like italics boy needs to look into getting a vasectomy and do it as soon as possible. Then he can have sex with bold type girlfriend all that he wants and there is no worry that any little underlines will pop out of her.
Yeah, I'm wondering the same thing. No need to apologize. You made your choices. I hope you'll be a man and take care of your children no matter what. Good luck.
Wow ...you guys are calling him out? He is at least going to try and handle his business. I dont agree with his choices and how it came about, but you dont know him ....especially to judge him. Maybe this child can help him in the long run....I dunno. Anyways, good luck with your new child.....be a responsible man and help your fiance raise these children.
Thanks. And I don't mind people call me out its cool because I understand that it wasn't that smart, but everyone makes mistakes in their lifes. Plus the way my family and her family have been calling us out I can just take about anything. But their main reason is that we might not be together.
first off it says a lot about people calling the creation of a child a mistake, there is no model of being ready to have a child, i dont care what you bring up economical maturity whatever you say there is no formula, there is no reason to apologize to anyone for having a child unless you are irresponsible and don't take care of your business, i was 19 when my first was conceived, and much like the OP not married when the second came 5 years later, marriage is an institution, divorce rate is greater than 50% so what does marriage have to do with being responsible? to the OP as long as you and the mother of your children are mature enough to put the kids in front of the indifferences you and her encounter your kids will always have an appreciation for the both of you
Not it wasn't just that. It may not have been irony only... maybe also hypocrisy. Is living together without getting married the best thing, Lady_Di? Neither is having kids without getting married, but he's trying. I am sure lots of people disagreed with you about moving in with your fianceé before marrying him, but you've proved them otherwise and have showed them how well you've done. No hagas leña del árbol caído - don't kick when someone's down. Having kids when friends may not be THE BEST TIME, I agree... I just don't see why you all have to call him names like "stupid" or say it's the worst time. Geez, now, you are a planned parenthood counselor and kids are being called "underlines"? Wow. Dude, that's harsh, man, have a heart for his baby... that's uncalled for. Some people like to come in and say things without helping. I do not agree with that. The guy is making sure he does things right and has shown to care lots for what's happening (baby, relationship working, etc.). MoBalls, you and K mf G have it right... marica.
Living together before marriage and having a kid out of wedlock is entirely different. There is a BIG difference. Living together is not a forever thing. A child is. I am not putting people who have kids before married on blast. Not at all. I don't have a problem with couples who don't want to get married but have kids as long they're committed. I was an accident as well and my parents got married and are still together. I have NO problem with it AT ALL. Please get that right. My issue was that the OP and his fiance had the baby when they were friends. I was simply saying that it was stupid to be irresponsible if they were just friends. It doesn't take too much common sense to use some protection on both sides if the relationship was purely sexual. I recall that the OP had issues with his woman so having another child isn't a recipe to make things better. All I am saying to take extra steps when having fun. Children are not here to take your mistakes. Apologies to the OP for calling you stupid. I just can't stand people who lack common sense to prevent having children more than once if the relationship is not that good in first place.
Actually, Swoly, I do have a heart for his baby. Because raising a child (or children) is probably the greatest and biggest responsibility any person could have. I have a 9 year old (I consider her my own even though she isn't my biological daughter) and a 5 month old son. I agree completely with the sentiment that if you have parents who aren't responsible then it is the kids that are going to suffer. Hell, I have even told my wife that if we can't control our fighting and arguing, that we need to split up because I can't bear the thought of our kids seeing us not getting along on a day to day basis. With that being said, I am far from giving up on my marriage and I will NEVER give up on my kids. I just don't like seeing children grow up in environments that are negative to them, especially considering they have no control over that. Hopefully, the op will continue to take the right steps in becoming a more responsible person. His kids and their future are depending on him becoming more responsible.
Swoly has beasted everybody... he's officially my favorite poster on BBS. Welcome to the ItsMyFault list of gold members, Swoly.
