My ex-girlfriend won't leave me alone, what do I do?

Wow after reading your original post, stay the f%@# away!! This girl is classic case of attention w****/drama queen. She saw you're moving on and she wanted to see if she could get you back. It's like taking candy away from a little kid. This isn't about respect because she has no respect for you, it's about her insecurities. She's just jerking your chain to see if she can still manipulate you. It's about her wanting control over you. Keep doing what you're doing.

Another thing, if she won't even tell her family about you that should have been a red flag. Actions speak louder than words. She can say all the stuff she wants but if she really was into you she would tell the whole world, including her parents. She's just keeping you around cause its convenient not because she's digging you that much.

 

I feel like I'm reading about myself before I wised up. I'm still dealing with my crazy ex. She threatened to kill herself hundreds of times. She cut herself too.

Expect her to say she's pregnant next. Mine did that, then said she got an abortion. Then claimed she never got the abortion and was still pregnant. Even tried to fake ultrasound pictures.

She would cut herself or threaten suicide any time I tried to leave and say I was the one killing her. She smashed a wine glass over her head and punched herself in the face and threatened to call the cops on me. She was addicted to coke and booze and was a habitual liar. She once tried to fake partial amnesia and pretended to be shocked we had a black president.

I eventually packed up what I could and ran away while she was at work to another city. That's when she started the whole pregnancy crap. When that didn't work, she claimed she did heroin. Then she said she was raped. All of this was to be blamed on me. Next came claims of cheating - first me, then her. Then claims of pill overdoses, cutting, etc.

I went to her parents and told them to look after their daughter and be careful but they told me to "leave her alone" as she had already lied about everything to them.

Eventually I wised up and just ignored anything and everything.

She is the single worst mistake of my life and I can honestly say I wish her to be dead, at the very least to spare anyone else who comes into contact with her.

Stay strong. Know that the choices she makes are her own and not your responsibility.

 

Sounding like a bad 80s movie theme, people like this choose death as a way of life. There's no way to go but down, and everyone goes down with them. The only way she can produce any kind of effect from people is to create intense distressful situations. Not fair. The telenovela crap doesnt work in real life.

If she jumps off the Empire State Building, do you REALLY think you are such a negative influence on people that you'd cause such extreme destructive behavior? Its very very sad, but its something you walked into. You didnt create it. Consider your hands washed at least 98% clean. The 2% is all you can do is lead to her toward getting help, or ignore her.

There's plenty in my peer group and family who work the same way with wreaking havoc on the spirits with guilt trips, emotion, threats, you're-my-last hope/ save-me-from-myself decision making they thrust on me. The commonality between them all is either something happened in their past, or they're just plain pathetic. 1 out of 10 times is it something thats a real emergency. 9 of 10 times its repeat help for the same repeating issues already previously helped! Insecure, manic, manipulative people with no plan to living are almost a scourge of society.

 

You do know what agitates women the most is to ignore them, right?

 

she isnt lying but its my baby so dont worry about it.

 

go on the maury show!

 

Hit it one last time and then move without telling her.

 

Get a vasectomy but don't tell her then that way she can't keep pulling that crap on you.

 

If she's not lying, enjoy that extra 20 percent of your salary for the next few months. It'll be hers for the next 18 years.

If you're gonna ride the crazy train, it pays to bring Uncle Durex along just in case.

 

Man, she is nuts...tell her that since she is pregnant you are going to tell her mom right now......

Watch her backtrack faster than you can say...shazam.

DD

 

typical thread.. is typical..

 

He called it.

 

Congrats!!

 

Genius. Take DD's advice here. Otherwise keep ignoring her and wait a few months to see if she really is pregnant before talking to her.

 

Totally agree with DaDa on this. Say you want to talk to her parents now that she is pregnant. That's the sure fire way to get all of the cards on the table. Either that or tell her you will take her to a family clinic today so that she can take a pregnancy test and you can hear it from a doctor.

She's likely bs'ing. I sincerely hope for your sake that she is. When was the last time you hit that? Protection?

 

She will also be so turned off that she will never talk to you again. That's 2 birds with 1 stone.

 

Whatever you do, don't start dating right away. Her obsession can turn to your new love interest. Obsessive people may turn violent. Give it a few more months.