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My ex-girlfriend won't leave me alone, what do I do?

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by RKREBORN, Jul 20, 2009.

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  1. chow_yun_fat

    chow_yun_fat Member

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    That's a scary situation to be in. Reminds me of a similar situation in the past.

    To the OP: Move on. I'm in a similar situation myself and it's just not worth it.
     
    #21 chow_yun_fat, Jul 20, 2009
  2. Lil Pun

    Lil Pun Member

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    Post pics.
     
    #22 Lil Pun, Jul 20, 2009
  3. Surfguy

    Surfguy Member

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    You still haven't addressed what seems to be the primary issue in this past relationship...why was she trying to keep you a secret from her own family? How the hell can she expect you to look at yourself in the mirror if you are her dirty little secret? Yea...it probably is good you got out.
     
    #23 Surfguy, Jul 20, 2009
  4. DwangBoy

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    OR tell her you've been ignoring her because you've contracted Herpes or HIV or both. Genital warts might do it.
     
    #24 DwangBoy, Jul 20, 2009
  5. moestavern19

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    b**** even hacked your clutchfans account?
     
    #25 moestavern19, Jul 20, 2009
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  6. conquistador#11

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    I had this problem last year. She is 22 and I'm 27. She ended the relationship in october of last year but around january of this year, she began calling non stop, having friends call for her, and driving around my house, like a stakeout in an 80's cop movie. Well, I did what only I would do. I let her back in my life. They ended with the same results.

    Point being, at all cost, do not allow her back in. Get a restraining order, that's what one of my friends suggested.
     
    #26 conquistador#11, Jul 20, 2009
  7. RKREBORN

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    This is because I am of a different religion than her. She was scared if her parents found out about us in the early stages, then she would be forced to end it. I was willing to go along with this, but after a year and a half of this, it really hurts your self esteem. Can you imagine having to go run and hide if one her friends walks by? If I am the person she wants to marry, why the hell should I be put second to a friend? After a year and a half of this, I told her to find a solution. The only one I could think of was for her to tell her mom (who had previously asked about me as well). I'm no dummy, and I consider myself a pretty decent guy, and besides the whole religious nonsense, I don't see any reason they would reject me. Even that matter doesn't seem as big, considering the fact her mother even asked about me and she told her to to "come talk to me when you need too." She refused to do all this (even if it meant life was made easier for me), until recently but I think the book is now closed and it's too late.
     
    #27 RKREBORN, Jul 20, 2009
  8. DieHard Rocket

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    I find it pretty amusing he hasn't even addressed that yet after numerous times it's been brought up...maybe she was his dirty little secret?
     
    #28 DieHard Rocket, Jul 20, 2009
  9. benchmoochie

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    Red flags. Your ex is making last ditch attempt to gain control of the relationship and see if you have any inclination to get back with her. Id stay on the same course and cut all ties.
     
    #29 benchmoochie, Jul 20, 2009
  10. dkoune

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    #30 dkoune, Jul 20, 2009
  11. MoBalls

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    I like Huffys.
     
    #31 MoBalls, Jul 20, 2009
  12. MoBalls

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    Give it time and I would keep on ignoring her. She get over you ................ God willing.
     
    #32 MoBalls, Jul 20, 2009
  13. rusHour

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    I would keep ignoring her. At some time she has to get the point right?
    Talking to her again, even if it is one last time (how many times have you said that?), will just give her hope.

    BUT if you care about her, and since she has harmed herself in the past, I would be concerned. Writing a letter to her parents saying a little about the situation and who you are, might not be that bad of an idea.
     
    #33 rusHour, Jul 20, 2009
  14. SwoLy-D

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    I once tried to give a small pendant and chain to an ex-girlfriend when I wasn't over her... her response to me was "If I accept this, it's like giving you hope." And that's all my SwoLy little heart needed to hear for me to know she didn't want this anymore. So I said to her what we say in Mexico: 'Sayonara!' :D

    If she's not willing to attempt to get her parents to accept you over the religious stuff, it's not worth even trying it anymore. No one that doesn't see their significant other as valuable enough as to give them a try against what their parents think is worth anything. :eek:

    Don't give her any hope. If she hasn't gotten the clue yet, don't answer her phone calls, don't answer her texts, emails, etc. It might seem a bit irrational, but you might just have to change your phone number if it's worth your peace. :cool:
    Wow. Nice, courteous, polite, sensitive classy and to the point... I like it. :D I want more.
     
    #34 SwoLy-D, Jul 20, 2009
  15. VooDooPope

    VooDooPope Love > Hate

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    Call her mom and tell about the suicide threat and explain that y'all were dating but are now broken up but you don't want to see anything happen to her.

    People can say "oh thats just a call for attention" but if she does it then it's too late. Better let her parents know she's freaking crazy while they still have a chance to help her.
     
    #35 VooDooPope, Jul 20, 2009
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  16. Royals Ego

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    awwww my heart weeps for swoly-d
     
    #36 Royals Ego, Jul 20, 2009
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  17. SwoLy-D

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    Aw, thanks, man. +Rep

    She broke me heart, I had none. Now I live to warn others of the perils of the thing called LOVE. :(

    ;)

    Good stuff, Mr. Pope, sir.
     
    #37 SwoLy-D, Jul 20, 2009
  18. percicles

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    Hispanic?

    Oh yeah, Post pics or GTFO.
     
    #38 percicles, Jul 20, 2009
  19. rhadamanthus

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    Family drama + immaturity + religion = RUN AWAY! RUN THE $%#^ AWAY!
     
    #39 rhadamanthus, Jul 20, 2009
  20. Pole

    Pole Houston Rockets--Tilman Fertitta's latest mess.

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    Tell her that in your days apart, you've really learned to love anal sex and that you are hoping to try it with her.

    Then give her a gift wrapped strap-on.
     
    #40 Pole, Jul 20, 2009
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