OK so you admit you are too immature to be discussing whether mommy knows best when it comes to spending your life with a woman. It's always good when people are willing to admit they have no credibility on the subject.
I've had serious relationships and every time the girl wants to rush into marriage, but why should I when I'm not ready? My mom has scoped out a couple of girls and told me they were trash when we started dating. I didn't listen got hurt in the end and afterwards they did turn out to be 100% trash. I'm not saying moms are right all the time but they have a sixth sense and are only trying to help you. I don't understand all the resentment towards them in this thread. What a bunch of punk ass kids you all must have been.
Your mom sees dead people? That's awesome. I wouldn't marry a dead person either. No resentment at all. But when I grew up and became a man I realized that adults make decisions for themselves and do not have their mommy scout out potential brides.
You do know that is done all over the world right? Ever heard of arranged marriage? Not saying I agree with it but it's done.
And another point, when people are selecting their own brides that seems to be working out great, with our 50% divorce rate and all. You're blaming the wrong person.
Who am I blaming for anything? I don't blame the TS's mother for anything. The poster's issues are his issues.
Right, something tells me that isn't what you are advocating for though. You don't want to be married at all and now you are using arranged marriages to defend your position that mom knows best?
I'm not saying mom knows best, she's just giving her opinion based on life experience and being that she is a women and knows their tendencies, and if she gets bad vibes will warn you because she doesn't want you to get hurt. Whether you choose to listen or not is up to you but she's not trying to meddle in your personal business just saying what's on her mind. That's it really.
Choice- you're giving advice to the OP who is seeking help on a potential mature relationship issue? BTW, if you need your mom to help you scope out girlfriends, it seems that you're probably choosing to ignore the warning signs yourself- but really, does it matter? You're 25- why should you care or give advice to someone who's in a completely different stage of life than you? I do agree with you, though, that your mom is probably a good source of advice on girlfriends.... WHEN YOU'RE 16!!!!
What's up with all the resentment towards mothers in this thread man? I never said moms NEED to give advice on girlfriends. I just said they know life they've experienced life and they're only going to tell you things from the heart. They aren't out there to hurt you in the end the parents are probably the only people you can really trust in life. You don't have to take their advice but they're not going out of their way to screw up your personal life.
They also don't know as much about the person you are with as you do, they don't know what goes on in your private moments, they don't know how you feel about each other, etc. They only know what they see and what you tell them. And while they have their own personal experiences, personal experiences are different for everyone. You can be wisened by your experiences, but you can also be jaded by them. If you are in love with someone and think you want to be with them forever but you choose not to commit because your mother says you shouldn't, you are immature and it's a good thing for the girl that she got away from you. Weak minded men are a dime a dozen.
That really depends on the behavior of the woman after the breakup. If she ends up being a piece of trash in the long run then you were given correct advice. And if the girl loves you she will wait, because committment comes from the heart, not a piece of paper.
You think someone should wait on you if you tell them "Look, I love you but my mom says you are bad for me because your t*** are big so I won't marry you." Come on man. Are you just playing around here? You must date some really crappy women by the way as you seem to think they end up being trash in the long run a lot. Where are you finding your dates?
The waiting part has nothing to do with the mom. That has to do with the part at the beginning of the thread where OP said he wasn't ready. If the girl loves him so much, why can't she wait? They will get married eventually but he needed time to mature. If she really wanted to be with him forever what's another year or two? And most girls are trash. Some are trash up front some are deceptive but trash covered up with a smile. Then the rare good women. They are out there just hard to find.
Either you're kidding us and are completely full of s**t, grew up in a misogynistic environment, or you really make terrible choices in women. No offense to the guys, because there are plenty of great guys in the world, but men are responsible for so much more of the murders, rapes, beatings, molestations, and other heinous crimes in the world that it's not even close. Your statement that most girls are trash is a highly myopic view, and I'm actually really sad that this is the world you live in- I can state that, having worked in 2 industries heavily dominated by women (teaching and careers), there are many, many women who are absolutely not trash. But, sadly, you are a textbook misogynist who makes exceptions for his mom and a select few females. No wonder you give advice the way you do.
usually when you say "almost all of something is this" a lot of times you are wrong. i agree with everything you said there. "most women are trashy".............. whatever its both sides, and takes two to tango
The difference between men and women is that for the most part men are rather simple, they like to eat, sleep, have sex and watch sports. Women, on the other hand, are rather manipulative, and use emotional strings to toy with men to get what they want. That's the difference. I'm not saying all of them, but a lot of them.
