I am from a single parent household. I love my Mother and she loves me, but she raised me to be a MAN and make my own decisions, not suck on her tit for the rest of my life.
I don't think his mom stopped him she just gave an opinion. He took it to heart and made a decision but he can't blame her because it was his decision in the end. And it's not fair for the girlfriend to use the mom as a crutch either that's mean hearted.
I think the basic problem with marriage these days is the lack of committment. People think it's going to be all gravy all the time but reality is that there are hard times but when you committ you should stick it out no matter what. If the girl loved him she would wait until he is ready because rushing him into marriage is not going to solve anything. Life is about timing there is a time and place for everything. The girl walked out he still loves her she gave up on him and that's not fair on her part.
while you make a fair point you cannot just wait around on someone forever either. It's also not fair that he can't make up his mind and is so wishy washy. True, the ultimatum is a bad place to put someone in, but at the same time, there has to be a point where you have to just move on. Anyways, sounds like their relationship is better being over. It's kinda odd that he only "knew she was the one" when they were apart. The dude isnt ready to get married and that's fine, but he shouldnt have to talk himself into it and/or he shouldnt have to "decide" that she's the one for him.
I think I tend to agree with you on the first point. If the girl was a few years younger there is no need to hurry but 30 for a woman is pushing it so I can see her point. For the guy, I think it's like anything in life he probably took her for granted while he had her and now she's gone and he misses her. The thing is though in his gut he knew he wasn't ready for married life and she was so they were on two different planes so it wasn't going to work they were not on the same page. Nothing wrong with that both should move on it looks like she has.
The chick made the proper decision to leave the boy unable to pry himself from the teat of his momma. If you haven't been weaned by the time you leave home you're not ready for any woman who is not your momma.
There's a difference between respecting your Mother (like Mr. T says) and breaking up with a woman because your Mother thinks her boobs are too big. That doesn't strike you as odd? And by "odd" I mean par for the course for most relationship threads on this bbs.
Gave up on him after the guy backed out 3 different times- did you not read the original post? And that's not fair on her part? Did you not read the part where the guy told her he wanted to have kids with her and THEN said he did not want to commit to marriage and backed off? Or the part where the mom says she didn't like the girl partly because of her boobs? Wow, you need to read more of the OP's comments and you'd understand why most people are criticizing him here.
Unfortunately the timing never matched up for you two. Such is life. You have nothing to lose by trying again, but for your own sake you should probably take it as a sign to not waste time and heartache and finally move on if she rejects you once again. TBH, I don't think tumultuous relationships fair well when they move up to marriage. Just putting it out there. Some think/hope it will make their (rocky?) relationships better when in fact it's the opposite - the challenges will be even bigger.
I don't think he broke up because of his mother's opinion, he said that he wasn't ready for marriage. That comes down to him throwing his mom under the bus is unfair.
You sound like a textbook Oedipus, I'm sending a warning to your dad to keep an eye on you. I come from a single-parent household, I love my mom of course but I don't let her feelings interfere with how I decide to live my life.
Not enough to call them back, you heartless b****. You said you were gonna take me to the movies, you said we would get popcorn. YOU LIE.
Well, maybe we should hold off until we get more clarification from the OP. Quick question for the OP: Exactly how large were your ex's breasts?
