Perhaps you don't really love her. Do you miss her or miss the feeling of having a gf? I think it's the latter.
RM365k, I've read through this thread and I here's my opinion: Your relationship with this woman is irrevocably broken with this woman. The base trust has been screwed. You need to learn from your mistakes and move on. As for your mother: you need to put your foot down, my friend. Tell her in no uncertain terms that you won't stand for any kind of immature behavior when it comes to you meeting women, or you won't bring them into her life. You're both adults. Just because you're related doesn't mean that you have to have a miserable adult relationship. As for yourself, many people have already said this in so many words in this thread. You need to be happy by yourself before you can have an adult relationship. Co-dependence and insecurity is cancer to a relationship. Look inward. Center yourself. Work on your own flaws. Until you can stand on your own two feet, it's not fair to have a relationship with someone who can stand on their own two feet. There are millions and millions of single women out there. You'll 'find' another one who meets your needs. I came to a conclusion years ago that there's no such thing as 'the one', but there is such a thing as the one TYPE that's good for you. The funny thing is that once you're more confident and happy with yourself, your 'type' will probably change. Also, it's basic instinct to want to get laid. So while you're working on yourself, go out and get laid. Just don't fall in love with the pu$$y.
Dear Norman Bates: I don't claim to know everything about women, but one thing I DO know is that they're generally NOT turned on by guys (in their thirties...) who still live their lives according to what their MOMMIES think. Leave this girl alone and let her go find a real man. Oh, and looking at your past relationship threads....please get a vasectomy.
Just keep living in a way that feels right to others, rather than yourself. That way I'm sure you won't be regretting anything when you're on your death bed. Or the total opposite of that. I can't remember.
Spoiler Momma's boy This is the problem. Your lack of confidence and balls to stand up to your mom was the final straw. She did the right thing by leaving you as you would never put her first. Grow up. (Not a personal stab at you... just a reality check)
nothing you have been doing, or can do, to get your ex back has been out of line, creepy or inappropriate in any way signed, Spoiler
I'm not reading all of this thread, but after reading your initial post, maybe you need to propose to your mom. I could use a break anyways. Grandma's and their grandkids are doing it now so it won't shock too many.
Here's the point man, sounds like this love is one sided. If she loved you as much as you love her, she'd be miserable too right and be missing you! But she doesn't give a damn about you, she's probably with another dude right now! Serious, don't give a woman that power over you. And to all those saying step up from your mother they don't know s*** your MOM is the ONLY woman in this world that truly cares for you. Your mom raised you from the day you were born and would give up her shirt in the freezing rain for you. Of course she wants you to be happy when you have a kid you'll understand that too. Your mom saw something in her and she was right the girl left you high and dry. Any girl that tries to turn you against your mom is EVIL you'll see with the next girl you meet. All girls must respect your mother that is rule #1.
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It's OK, plenty more women out there. Good ones too. Ones that will meet you and you'll completely realize you're ready to move on like your ex did. Remember, she isn't your wife until the ring is on the finger, so don't stress too much over it. She doesn't love you if she isn't into you.
I haven't read this whole thread but my thoughts... 1. Why is everyone so riled up about him and his mom. That relationship should not change because of a girl. Every mom/dad/parent acts the same way and gives advice whether you want it or not. They know you best and have your interests at heart. It's your decision to take it or leave it. 2. There's a reason you broke up. Remember that reason. As time goes on, you tend to forget the bad memories and only remember the good and the sex. Stop thinking about the past! 3. Give her some time to think over the situation like you are doing now. If she is really the one for you, she'll respond. Just give her some time. I'm SURE she hasn't forgotten and moved on. It takes girls much longer than guys to heal and move on. IMO, just move on. If she comes back, that's great, if she doesn't, that's great.
That's what I'm saying. What did the mom do wrong? She just gave an opinion. She has the right as a parent to do that. She didn't put a gun to her son's head it was his decision at the end of the day to do what he did. The girl is pathetic for trying to kill the most precious relationship there is a mother and her son. That's manipulative and evil.
Give me a break. A woman knows a man who respects his mom will respect her. A woman who tries to turn a man against is mom is a b****.
Are you from a single parent household? I don't think you understand the bonds sons have with their mothers (particularly minorities). It's unbreakable.
you're right, i don't understand. i figured the "most precious relationship there is" is usually lover/lover wife/husband whatever. i'm just sayin' if i had a kid, i'd want him to chase after his own happiness, even if i wasn't too fond of his female interest. edit: but then again, i'm neither a male nor a minority, so...carry on.
