I'm not familiar with your tough situation... but if a man of 31 years of age... which makes him about half a decade older than me... actually considers this a "tough situation"... where advice from strangers is desperately needed... I'd hate to see how the man would handle truly grave scenerios... could it be that this is the sort of attitude and approach that's left him so attentive to the mother's proverbial umbilical cord...?
yes because only terminal cancer of the penis is considered a tough situation. dude you are one judgemental mofo. typical post-college arrogance. I've gone thru a lot of things in life, you don't know me. when it comes to relationships, I think its socially within the norm to go and talk about it on this BBS.
If she's the one, you have to do everything in your power to show her she's the one. If it doesn't work, then at least you tried.
how do I show her? Right now she wants no contact. I don't want to keep trying to contact her. That might push her away more. I really love this girl. I am ready to marry her.
yes... but a divorce involves more substantial complications, legal and emotional when children are involved... I could see seeking legal advice on the matter from strangers... if they're seeking for advice in order to decide on such a delicate, and complicated personal matter like having a divorce or not... and they're about your age... it would be yet another sad revelation.. I'm not really going to sympathize... people really should known better... but, now you're saying you're seeking support, as well...? good lord... do people take the time to examine their own lives alone anymore....? think for themselves...? self-analysis...? take time out for some proper introspection...? it's no wonder there are 40 year olds still uncertain as to what they want to be or do with their lives...
I'm a high-expectations "mofo".... nothing to do with collegiate influences... I'm one of those rare genuine individuals that can make up his own mind and tend to his own life... and knows himself through and through... it's true, that is within the norm here... but then, so are postings over fecal matter...
it is what it is. I'm depressed right now. I've gotten good advice and support from people here in the past. and no, people don't just write about the legal ramifications of divorce when they post here. When you are so sad and depressed to a point, you reach out and that might even involve this BBS. Not everyone is like this, some people are. I just hope that your annoying, pretentious self doesn't post in their threads though. What "self introspection" are you talking about? Or are you just trying to sound smart? I've already said that I reflected and want to marry my ex. There is no analyzing left to do. I realize she was the one for me and its too late.
your quoted term is a non-existent term... also one not included in my post... "introspection" implies "self"... and if you're certain it's too late... then bear the disappointment and accept the sad results of your decision in the past... and learn from them... you should've mustered more mental concentration towards yourself and the girl in relation to that decision then... rather than reflecting upon it after the fact... that's the small yet significant difference between introspection and reflection...
Send her a link to this thread... then she'll know you're for real. I fear you may be too late my friend. Good luck bro!
Hey, even though that person was a little harsh, you have to expect that- and, as a matter of fact, you should welcome "tough talk." I don't think a sympathetic ear or compassionate advice is going to be as beneficial for you at this stage. I mean, maybe if you were younger, or if you hadn't been flip-flopping several times with her on the marriage thing, or admitting to being a mamma's boy, then maybe that would work. But I really feel you will benefit best from people telling you to stop being indecisive, man up, and do the right thing without feeling sorry for yourself. I mean, of course, you're upset, that's cool, as a human being and a fellow ClutchFans member, I obviously don't wish any more pain on you- and who knows, it could work out, it really could. But you're down by double digits with hardly any time left in the 4th, and you're going to need to pull out a McGrady 13-in-35 to make this work.
I want to man up. I want to marry her. There is no more indecision. I had a dilemma. My parents wishes or her. Could I live with her jealousy issues with my mother. My mother raised me herself. I ain't gonna forget that for anyone. I felt that no woman could tell me how much I could see my own mother. Now I realize that women do it all the time to their husbands! I've been really busy and stressed with work, more than most people. Now that she is gone and I actually have time to think and reflect, I realize I made a huge mistake. She was the one. Maybe by man up, you mean I need to realize she is gone and move on. Its painful, bro. She was the one.
miserable without my ex... what should I do? _____ You've definitely taken the correct first step by seeking advice from the internet.
She probably moved on....time for you to do the same. Ultimates never work out anyway. Tell your mom to back off, that you are a grown man now, and don't need her to kiss your booboos. DD
If another person is asking for help on the board, don't go around belittling his or her situation, regardless of age. If you find the circumstances to be out of the norm, go to a different thread, perhaps one with more machismo; don't go around talking ****. (Unless it's funny, and in your case, it isn't) To OP, if you really dig this chick, you'd find some way to communicate with her. Don't just sit on your ass and mope, that's game ova, son.
what a completely irrelevant post... sign of a person who suffers from things constantly going over their head no doubt... and with a pinch of illiteracy... clearly a person qualified to tell others where to go.... how one interprets "introspection" with "machismo"... is beyond all comprehension...
"She was the one"- absolutely no way in the world you can say this when you haven't met 99.9999% of the millions of women that exist in the world. Matter of fact, if you really believe in the concept of "the ONE," that could be your problem right there.
I'd say you take Hmm's advice and stop caring what he or anyone else thinks. You sound like an approval seeker to me. Have you ever sent back a steak that wasn't cooked to your liking? Do you have trouble looking strangers in the eye? Life is not made to live in order to please others, nor is it made to live in order to rub it in the face of others. These are the opposite ends of the spectrum and neither lead to any sense of fulfillment. My advice? Tell your woman you don't want to rush into anything you feel you aren't ready for, if she can't deal with that... tough ****. Tell your mother that your life is your business and you'd appreciate if she kept her nose out of it every once in a while. Try the assertive approach every once in a while, it'll do wonders.
