she won't even answer my phone calls bro. Also, I'm in Baltimore and she's in NY. When I do visit NY, I'm afraid of showing up at her apartment and possibly seeing her with her new guy. I don't know what I would do if that happened. I would be pretty crushed.
How do I convince her if she won't even respond to me or talk to me? Should I show up at her workplace some day?
I think you are very immature and need to find out where you want to go with your life, instead of coming online and asking others what you should do. You seem to be highly dependent on your mother, your ex, or strangers on the internet making decisions for your life. You can only achieve happiness, when you make your own decisions on what you want in life, instead of making life changing decisions through other people.
I wouldn't go back to you either... you sound really indecisive, you parted ways with her two times already, she may be the one you love, but if you love her.. then you have to realize you devastated her twice, it's only right she gets to explore and find someone to settle and have a marriage with, someone who is steadfast about their position on marriage just another trial in your life, chin up chest up, and sing "I will always love you" really loudly at a karaoke
I agree. I have been immature. I wasn't ready for marriage. I didn't know what to do in my situation. I felt like I had a lot on my plate. I wasn't so much dependent on my mother as I wanted to be there for her since I am the only child. My ex wanted to limit how much I could see her and that was something I had never heard of before until I started talking to married couples. That is something that people do. I didn't know. However, I have decided that I want to marry my ex and she was the one. My question now is what to do to get her back or to stop feeling so miserable.
well, I've gotten good advice here before. Some posters give pretty thoughtful advice even though they are basically strangers to me. I've talked to friends in real life. I know their opinion. So for more advice, its either here or the bartender down the street.
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Dude WTF? It sounds like your mom is the one that needs to grow the F up. It would probably go a long ways towards earning your ex back if she knew that you had told your mom that you think she's absolutely ridiculous and that you no longer give a damn about her childish opinion of this girl.
I know man. I know. I look back at all these things and I get so angry that I just want to break stuff. My mother knows that from now on, I am my own man and while I will listen to her opinions, I make my own choices. My ex doesn't know that I've really changed since we broke up. Even at this point I don't know if it would matter if she knew. She has said over and over that its too late.
I'm going to disagree with this. Yeah the OP does sound immature for his age, but I don't feel like there is anything inherently wrong with seeking out advice on this bbs. It doesn't hurt to hear others opinions on a tough situation, as long as he's not relying only on our thoughts. I'm the same age as the OP and got a lot of good advice and perspective when I posted about a tough situation I was going through a few years back.
I'm not asking for any decision-making issues right now. I'm down in the dumps right now over my ex and I need someone to talk to. If you've never gone thru this over a girl, I'm happy for you. There are people on here older than me talking about their divorce and seeking advice and support to feel better. I am pretty much in that boat. I've got thick skin and I'm not gonna say anything nasty but lets mutually take a hike. How about that? I've talked to my friends already. I still need to talk and vent and all that. If you don't like reading any of this, don't.
Go to NY and stand outside her building playing peter gabriel's "In your eyes" full blast. She will take you back. I guarantee it! If she doesn't take you back, there are plenty of women who like their guys with issues. I had to go through many heartbreaks before finding the one that would become my fiance.
she chased you . . . . now it is your turn . . .. PUT ON YOUR RUNNING SHOES and DO WHAT YA GOTTA Rocket River
