These are all interesting posts. I'm 24 and grew up fully expecting and anticipating to be married by now, but never even came CLOSE to landing someone that I could conceivably envision getting married to. Love and marriage didn't come as naturally as I assumed they would when I was a kid. I'd like to get married, and I guess it's possible that one day I'll stumble across someone and we'll fall helplessly in love. I suppose in a few years all the women my age will be getting divorces and I'll have a second chance at them. On the other hand, it could very well be that I'll never fall in love with someone. Maybe I'll never get married and the family name will simply end with me. It's not the happiest thought, but if it never happens then it never happens. I'll continue to enjoy my freedom and be happy with the things that I'm able to control. But I do find it amusing and alarming that some people feel "constrained" by marriage. Some of us actually feel as though we might be missing out on something pretty incredible.
You've got plenty of time Hippie! I didn't take the plunge until I was 35. And I don't regret it for a moment that it took that long.
LOL from here! I'm the same way, and sometimes I get grief for it. Who cares? Manny, if that isn't your ad, it should be. Just include Isabel's addition. Hippieloser, it's all karma, dude. Don't worry about it. I was 28 before I got married, and that was 27 years ago, so you have at least 4 years before your life is over as you know it. I still think I'm lucky, and the sex is great... great. She's my best friend, who happens to be female, and since my other buddies are in H-town, or have moved from Austin, and her's are out of town, we're even closer than we probably would be otherwise. Her best friend is an MD in Phoenix, and a huge fan of the Suns, tha b****! (j/k! although she did sleep with every friend I tried to hook her up with, and even the ones I thought were beneath her ended up on top... typical Suns fan. me? I'm married, remember?) I don't get the idea that your life, as a guy, has basically ended if you're married or living with someone in a longterm relationship. My lady and I traveled a great deal together, before and after we got married. We lived together off and on for 4 years before we made it "legal." The only thing that changed, before we had kids about 15 years later, was how others looked at us, which we didn't give a damn about anyway. That, and the legal advantage, which should be available to anyone, and I'll leave it at that, to keep this out of D&D. Kids are the big life-altering experience for a couple, married or not. Having kids, that changes your freedom. Everything else is a personal choice... sleeping around, how close you are, how you live... but when you have kids, you have to take that responsiblity on, and your life is never the same. That doesn't mean it's worse. It's just not the same. In many ways, too many to count, it's better, but better or not, it's sure as hell different. Now, if others could simply see that the Jimi Hendrix Experience was a band...
For most men, they want two things from a relationship (but won't necessarily admit to them): 1) Sex, sex, and more sex (preferably 'legally', within a marriage that is, for religious reasons) 2) Being serviced (cooking, cleaning, etc.) Basically, being taken care of like their moms used to take care of them.
So that's it? You don't want a best friend? You don't want someone to exchange deep thoughts with? (this is what I was afraid of, but please prove me wrong) 1) above is understandable. We are human after all. 2)... well, you'll get like those Japanese guys in that other thread. You won't end up thinking of her as a partner. You'll think of her as a mother. I guess, in this day and age, I don't see why you guys should get "serviced" since we sure don't get that. I also don't see why we should expect you to financially support us since you sure don't have anybody financially supporting you.
I agree with you. Mitch Mitchell was an amazing drummer that was more than just some background support. And Noel Redding had really big hair....
Damn straight. Few could match Redding's hair. I remember Fat Mattress opening for the Experience one time, and they didn't get a very good reception, being more than a bit different from what the crowd expected. You could tell Jimi was pissed. I've always wondered if he was ticked off at the reception, or at letting Redding have his band open for him.
Jesus, tiger, thanks for embarrassing an entire gender. How old are you anyway? You make it sound like we are ****ing morons. Me can't cook or clean. Me need mommy and hot woman for sex. I can take care of myself, thank you very much. And, frankly, anyone can hire a prostitute and a maid. That isn't what marriage is about. It is about finding someone who you actually LIKE being around for a LONG time and sharing your life with them. Yeah, we all want sex, but you think two people who have been married 30 years and love each other like the day is long are so concerned about sex that when the woman goes through menapause (you can look it up later) that they are like, "You know what, **** this!" If men are really honestly like this, it is no wonder why we have domestic abuse, deadbeat dads and sexually transmitted diseases. Hell, most monkeys are smarter than that!
and then there is always that other variable where you have a strong feeling in your heart that you may have let that person go that you could have spent your life with. you know that person that inspired you to do so many things and you didnt know how absolutely good things were. yeah ok ill stop...
