I would be a great dad. I would tell my children that having kids is a choice and the idea of "spreading your seed" is pure archaic machismo. And if it's not too much hassle, why don't you have 50 kids? You lazy bum.
Freaker. Read my posts. I have 2. Traiditional Mexicans in my past have had 10, 15--f*ck--even 20 kids and they just did it to spread their seed. I have enough financial burden to have 2, and that's my quota. Maybe, and maybe IF and only IF the wife decides to do another, then we will. I'd like to cut off my pP after I have my third, but now it ain't the time. I ain't lazy, you freaker. I had mine and you will have your 2. Trust me, you will be a great dad. Perro que ladra no muerde. "and please don't knock it, until you've tried it... so for all of you b*tch*s... and all you h*s... "
Well, its probably different for everyone. I want tons of kids. I'd like to have a irish catholic type family where i can have 10 kids. Thats enough to fill a basketball team and hopefully would could be the Mannings of YMCA basketball. Either way, no one is forcing you to have kids, and take it step by step. One day you might, one day u might not.
As they say, few worthy things come w/o a price, and most of the more rewarding things can 'cost' more. I have not found anything more rewarding than raising children. Many of you see someone else's whiney, bratty kids and say no way. I can understand that...but if you help them learn properly those moments can be few and far between, and the rest of the time is amazing. I thank God all the time for giving my wife and I such a wonderful gift (parenthood) and allowing us to experience these magical years of 2 wonderful souls. I hope all of you are happy in your lives, and I would suggest that you not dismiss having children so quickly.
Married + Kids does lead to a stereotype. You might be surprised Moms and Dads are still people. Parenting is one thing they do, a beautiful thing, but not everything they are. Maybe you underestimate yourself. Signed, I love my daughters
You guys know I'm married and have two little boys. That's my deal. I wanted to be a dad more than I wanted to be anything else in my life. It's who I am. But if that's not you, that's great. Nothing wrong with that at all. What I'd hate to see is people having children who truly don't want them. That's a disaster waiting to happen. As RmTex said...self-awareness is a good thing.
you can run out and get married and have kids whenever. you can only be in your 20's and having a good time during a specific period in your life - then it's gone forever.
How about you have kids EARLY (not at 15, but at 22) and then they grow up to be productive members of our society at your early age, and then you can have your fun with your spouse early? Married + Kids is not that bad when you're young. I think it means you can have fun with your spouse (if you stay together) earlier than most. I see more American caucasian having children at a very late age (late 30's, early 40's), and I wonder if they are not too old to take care of their little ones (or maybe they will get Socorro to watch them ).
My wife and I (married 2+ years now) plan to have kids in a few years (we're both 28). I must admit, though, that I'm still a little uneasy about the whole affair after watching my poor, harried sister chase after her 3 children (all under the age of 6). I'm usually the first in my group of friends to hit certain life milestones (like marriage), but I will NOT be the first to have kids, I can assure you that. We're just not ready for kids yet. In fact, I plan to get my wife a "training baby" (i.e. dog) first to see if she can even handle the job.
I went through this whloe thread, thinking about what I would say, all the time wondering why you hadn't posted in it. I get to page three, see your post, and it is exactly what I would have said. Please get out of my brain
the funny thing is that the reasons people are giving for not having kids are the same reasons i have for not having a dog. i don't think it's selfish or wrong or bad not to procreate. i just worry about friends of mine who choose not to, because down the road when you get on in age and the end is near, i fear that not having kids and grandkids would be terribly lonely and sad.
