I'm 29. I want to have a kid or maybe two, but I do not want a wife. No way. So i'm not sure what i'm going to end up doing.
Because I don't want a wife? I didn't say anything about yuppies, "baseball tyler" or shopping malls.
That was his reasoning behind not wanting any. His opinion just like not wanting a wife is yours. How does it make him any worse than you? I'm baffled by your responses.
Wow I"m amazed by the response here in these post. Sure Kids are alot of work but they are not a hassel and frankly the rewards are greater than the work? But if you dont see that then I guess it might be good that some of you guys don't have kids LOL Lets see me.. Mid 20's 3 kids and I work hard .. ( Work with computers, but most important job is being a father of my children. Paychecks are great from a hards day at work but the happiness you receive from your kids smiling and saying Dad your the best is WAY better.. You guys don't know what your missing... P.S. I was D.J. before I got into computers so I know what having fun is
I am 39 and have no kids. I did not plan on not having any kids it just turned out that way. My sister and brother both have children and I love them to death, but I am at a point now where I am not sure if I will ever have kids since I am getting older.
Really? It seems like everyone's telling me that I'm missing out by being married with children. No hanging out with the guys all night, no messing with the girlies and all that. Maybe a different set has caught your ear.
I'm 29 and married for 5 years. Have no plans to have kids. I have no patience for them and aside from that I take the whole idea of have kids very seriously. Meaning that if I were to have kids I would want to be 99% certain that would be able to raise a well adjusted happy human being. My wife wanted kids when we first got married. I took her on a few trips to places like Hawaii and Mexico and reminded her that if we ever had kids we wouldn't be able to enjoy those kind of trips as often. She saw my side of the story pretty quickly and is anti kids just like me.
I married at 30 and my youngest of two daughters came around when I was 39. Yep, I'll be working until at least 2026 to get them both through college, but no regrets. Kids are amazing and my oldest is just getting to the point where she's starting to see the world and read real books... leads to some interesting questions and great opportunities. I can't imagine life without my daughters, though I do confess I would like a little more sleep on Saturday mornings and the freedom not to worry about whether they're asleep and the bedroom door is locked before engaging in some extra-curricular activities with Mrs. rimrocker.
Well I'm 32 and single and as mentioned in a couple of other threads, I wish at times I was married. Maybe that is not really the best term - maybe I should say in a very serious relationship. Once upon a time before I even joined this site, I had a woman with 2 kids who would have married me if I asked her in a heartbeat. But at the time, I wasn't too crazy about becoming an "instant Dad" so I passed on it. I don't regret that decision as I felt that she was not the right person for me (ironically she got married like 3 months later - did I say that she moved fast, lol). I do believe that my second half is out there; it just has been hard as hell for me to find her. Yet, when I do finally find her, I feel that my wait will have been worth it. As for kids, I find myself going back and forth on this - there is a part of me that doesn't want kids but I know how badly my parents want grandchildren and it would be nice to keep the family name going. But I feel that a big decision like having kids is something that you and your spouse have to agree on together 100 percent. A friend of mine that I used to go to church with wound up getting a divorce from his wife of 7 years because he refused to have kids with her. Pretty sad and silly that had to happen but it did, nonetheless. I say that if you don't see many posts from me here in the future that is probably a good sign that I am in a serious relationship, LOL.
Manny- Not many guarantees in life. However, if you ever come to Houston, one of your many cf.net brethen will a) get you laid and/or b) find you a girlfriend.
Again, LAZY. Meowgi said he will NEVER have kids, so that means he knows he will never be ready. It is SELFISH in the fact that he NEVER will want to share his time teaching anyone how to go potty, how to do their homework, how to talk to elders, etc. If you're a bad parent from the get-go, then they WILL turn out as "black sheep". I don't mean to say YOUR kids, I just mean to say that if you raise them right, they will do NO wrong. PERIOD. I am sure there are plenty of us here who think that way. Parenting is great when you do it right. Then it's the parents' responsibility to raise them correctly. That's cool Bolo Yeoung, I don't see you picking on me. It's great to argue some point about parenting with someone who doesn't have them so I can teach them a little about the joys. Paging droxford... droxford... you're needed in the Hangout... droxford... you're needed in the hangout. [click] he's got better words than I do, I am sure he'll set you straight about being a good parent.
Did I really just read that? Is Swoly-D just making jokes again. He can't surely be serious. Not everyone wants to have kids. What in the world could be remotely wrong with that?
I said I respect them for not wanting any, and that's cool. If you say you will NEVER have kids, to me it is selfish. Just plain selfish not wanting kids EVER. Nobody is ever "ready" and nobody is ever "learning" to be a parent. Nobody ever just has kids to have them (EDIT: many people make mistakes and have them by mistakes). Nobody. Read MEOWGI's post again... he said he will never have them. Now if he has some sort of condition where his vas-defrens are cut, or his seminal vesicles are messed up, then medical procedures can cure it. Now, macalu, on the other hand, said that not being ready is cool. That's different. Compare "Not being ready" and "not wanting to have any EVER". Waaaaaaayyyy different. I understand you, RM95, not wanting any NOW. Enjoy your honeymoon. You're entitled to it. When you're ready, you will have the kids. Believe me, they're a joy. I haven't heard you say you don't want any EVER... or did YOU say that as well? EDIT: I am serious. And stop calling me Shirley.
Why is not wanting kids selfish? I don't get this? Just because your utopian idea of life is to have kids doesn't mean that it is the same for everyone else. Perhaps he wants to spend his time doing other things. Perhaps, as he stated, he doesn't think that it is a good idea to add more people to a crowded world. Maybe he just doesn't want the responsibility. How is this such a horrible, selfish thing?
