<object width="425" height="355"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/Fg5NRkNoV-E&rel=1"></param><param name="wmode" value="transparent"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/Fg5NRkNoV-E&rel=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" wmode="transparent" width="425" height="355"></embed></object>
<object width="425" height="355"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/-k98bRUOb4g&rel=1"></param><param name="wmode" value="transparent"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/-k98bRUOb4g&rel=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" wmode="transparent" width="425" height="355"></embed></object> Since I started hanging out with these guys, I get all the ladies.
I guess what we have is similar to what you're talking about only we're not married yet and I don't let him do it just once a year. lol But we have been together for 4 1/2 years. The people spouting a "monogamous relationship" as the only way to show you're truly in love are just ignorant. Who makes you the know all, end all guru of love? We live our lives and shape our relationship on what makes us happy. So . The key to making it work is COMMUNICATION. I cannot stress that enough.
Wow, you just called someone immature. Too funny. please dont create a poll to see who is more liked...I am kidding.
Sure, why not? People are always going to push the established boundaries to test the consequences. Pre-marital sex used to be taboo, but now it is common place. Do people need to know that something happens often in order for one to join in as well? I say be the trend-setter and not a follower, join AK47 and his wife in their definition of marriage ... and take pics!
I know you didn't mean to call me immature so I won't kick you in the balls. I am still 25 years young and have so much to learn about relationships but as for now, my view of marriages is jaded and know there is such a thing as a commitment. I was committed to my boyfriend of two years and we broke up because I felt I was not ready for the next step along with other reasons. I won't be with a guy if I am NOT ready for a commitment. That doesn't make me immature.
Or is that called cheating? This whole subject is a little weird, as it is dependent on individual standards and morality. One of my best employees and a life long friend is in a relationship with his extended family for about 10 years. Some are married couples some single, but it works for all of them....we just have to cut him off when he starts talking about it in meetings. Di, You know what? That shows maturity right there. I firmly believe that there is more than one person out there for each of us, but when you meet one that fits you, and that you fall deeply in love with, you will know it. And it is when you find a person you love and the timing is right in your life...that is when marriage comes into the equation. Before then it is all about getting to that point. I have been in love with 4 women in my life....2 of them deeply.....I married the 2nd one....the first I lived with in College for about 3 years......it just wasn't the right time for both of us. I met my wife at the end of my college career (Just before grad school) and we still dated for 5 years before marrying. And even though life is a rollar coaster, I can not imagine life without her and my kiddos. Not to mention the house would be ....very guyish....and I like it the way it is now. And the extra benefits.........don't need em...... There is nothing in the world that would make me risk what I have here today....... DD
Well there are different levels of maturity, Mo and I know that I still need to work on my maturity when it comes to posting on a basketball BBS. Yet I feel very confident in saying that I have the maturity (still not completely there) in the relationship with my wife.
Go ahead, I have had worse done to me. Well, sorry for you getting sensitive but I don't have much understanding for people who want to "swing". You either get married because you love that person and want to be with them for the rest of your life or you remain single. It boggles my mind how someone can even think of wanting to be with someone else if they are married. To me, that sounds like someone who is unhappy and made a mistake in the first place of getting married. I'm glad you clarified things, Di. Trust me - you'll know when you meet the right one. Feelings of horniness will only be there when you are with that one and only person.
I'm not trying to be a jerk but it's going to come across like that but anyway here it goes. I think you just like the idea of being married and playing the role of father (not your kid) and husband. From your posts, it just sounds like you go through the motions but that it isn't really there. It just seems like you always want to talk about it but none of it sounds sincere. I just think it's funny that you act like you have it all figured out after a year of marriage with a year ago you were constantly wanting any and everyone to tell you to leave her. It's also similar to how xxShadyPinkxx has to always interject that she likes chicks and threesomes. I guess the difference between you two though is that you do it to make yourself feel better about it while she does it for attention. Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm just reading it wrong.
Just because you are young and not ready for a relationship doesn’t mean you are immature. Hell, the fact that you can admit it is, well…..pretty mature, actually. I felt the same way you do when I was in my 20's. Well into my 30's, actually. But I don't feel that way anymore. I don’t know, I just think that if you want to have sex with more than one person, you should probably just delay getting married. Doesn't mean you're a bad person. I lust after other women every minute of every day, but I would NEVER act on it. I care way too much about my fiancée to even consider doing anything to hurt her. To me, that kind of selflessness is a requirement before getting married. Besides, just because you can only have sex with one person for the rest of your life doesn’t mean you can’t masturbate… Speaking of which....... can you post your picture again? Thanks in advance.
*censored* Yea, I guess that is why I am going to see a urologist to have surgery (birth control) done to try to get my wife pregnant later on this year because I "like to feel better about myself". So, yeah I think you are just reading it wrong, MB.
Um ok because I just came in here saying "Hey guysss guess what I did with this girl last night?!?!" Never in that post did I even allude to liking girls. I could have meant with other guys.
it could work, but its ovbiously not for everyone. if i were married, i can't lie that a new piece everynoe and then would be nice. However, I don't like the idea of someone else pumping away on my wife and mother of my children. I've always found it a little strange how some guys like to watch their wife get probed by some other guy.
If you and your wife have an agreement like this, then you DEFINITELY should not be married in the first place. Impossible to be with one woman for life??? grow up, man.
Well here's a marriage with extra benefits that probably didn't work out so well. http://bbs.clutchfans.net/showthread.php?t=140929
Yeah, I feel the same way. Also, and this will sound lame to those of you in your 20's, but I just literally don't have the time and mental energy for a fling. I mean, I'm really busy. I had flings before I got married (e.g. while seriously dating people), and it so often got tricky. Someone else wants more, gets confused, wants to talk, calls all the time, yadda yadda. Bleh. Maybe if I had a 40-hr/week job or didn't like my down time, etc. More than all that, there is a different type of trust and intimacy, in my view, with monogamy, but I totally respect those that are finding more complex versions workable (e.g. xxx-pinkshady-xx or similar). Agree that communication is the most important foundation, whatever the arrangement is.
