"Omg u guys... it's best not to listen to him. Like I knew if I didn't get married when I was 20 I would never find another girl. Getting a good woman is like crab fishing as soon as you catch one you hang on to it for the rest of your life. No one touches me like she does. Or listens to me when I need a shoulder to cry on. And I give off the impression of being much more mature as soon as I got married. He's such a troll because he doesn't think about other people's feelings when he posts. I wanna go on a cruise to Kokomo. That's where I'll go." -professorgay
I got married at 23 - but my wife was 27. It's worked out well for the last 12 years. The 3 year and 7 year itch isn't just a joke though. My strategy for staying faithful? Don't put yourself in positions where you'd be likely to cheat or even make friends with women that you find attractive. If you're drunk, and she's asking for it - can you know that you'd have the self-control to say no? Marriage is great - but we're child-free so it's a lot easier for us. Children put an incredible strain on relationships and completely change the dynamic.
My friend got married at 20 (yes, 20) to a girl who was just barely 18. I wanted to slap the **** out of him repeatedly for going through with it when he was already miserable with her before they even got hitched. She was one of those "We have to wait until we're married before the penis goes in my vagina or God will be mad" types. 3 and a half years later they are still together, 2 kids, 2 miserable people putting on a happy face. I mean if you read this chick's facebook you think they were they were the perfect little family.
I'm glad you had the balls to say this, because I wasn't going to go out on that limb. The one thing I disagree with is the "poor childhood/upbringing" part. I think it is just a lack of emotional maturity... usually worsened by a social/family/religious circle that heaps on bullcrap peer pressure... just a bunch of people sitting on high horses itching for the chance to look down their nose at someone because they didn't do what was expected of them... no matter how counterproductive or unreasonable it may be.
I'm 27, he's 28, and we just moved in together almost a year ago... We're not married yet (shoot we're not even engaged), but he didn't freak out about it when I said it was part of my 5 year plan to be married. Both of us have stuff we need to sort out and straighten up before either one of us are ready to make that kind of commitment.
Girls are very good at hyping things up in their own minds and projecting this image to others. They're idealistic visionaries who live vicariously through romantic fantasies, even if it's borderline delusional. Which is why I don't take anything they say at face value; instead I judge them through their actions.
I'm pretty sure I got everyone beat on this board... 19 - and going on 12 years strong! Very rare I know.
Yeah I agree, and I was adding the other major incentive for early/young marriage that you left out of your very poignant post.
Delusional doesn't even begin to describe her. This girl grew up as Daddy's little princess (While Mama wore the pants) and she was picking out "Princes" since she was 14 years old trying to recreate a Disney Fairy Tale. Found a guy in my best friend who was feeling lonely and confused after his mother recently had abandoned his father to be with another man and sunk her claws in. He made every mistake in the book in the relationship. Never ever tempered her marriage expectations, let her decide his plans, let her insecurities alienate him from all his friends. Text book succubus scenario. I feel bad for him, but I told him on 3 different occasions before they got married to nut up and tell her where its at, and he never did.
I can't imagine being married at 19. Holy god. Not only because of how immature I was and not knowing what was right for me in terms of women and relationships... but all the quality poonanner I woulda missed out on. JEez.
I was married a day before my 31st birthday. We will have our 8th wedding anniversary coming up later on this month. Best thing I've ever done, but I am glad I waited until later in life to get married. I had a lot of wild oats to sow.
