I know many people on this site are married, so just wondering, how old were you when you got married?
Now about to turn 27. We have had a rough trot at times, not all because we were both so young, but that certainly didnt help matters. Split for about 10 months from August last year to middle of this year, now gradually getting our stuff together. I definitely married the right woman, but you can STILL be too young to get married to that right woman....in other words, if she is infact the right woman, she will still be there when you are a little older.
I got engaged at 22 (before getting engaged we lived together for 6 months and we also went through a pregnancy together) and shortly after the diamond was on her finger the problems began. We were far far far to young, we split for 6 months and now we are back together taking things slow before we think about marriage again. As aussie said, if she is the right woman then she will wait until your a little bit older. I would probably say 25-28 is a great age to marry while 28-32 are a great age to have kids (I blew that one young too, while you don't regret it you just wish it happened later on in your life and you feel foolish for being in such a rush).
I'm 25 and never been close to marriage. Probably the best advice my dad has ever given me is that a person should be sure of who they are before they get married, and especially before they have kids. Basically, even if people are truly in love and are great for each other in their twenties, the difference in who they are at 23 and 33 is so great it's almost impossible for them to know whether they have the capability to stay together. I agree. I think of where I was at 18 vs. 21 vs. 25, and in a lot of ways I don't even feel like the same person.
I was 30... almost 31. I can't imagine getting married any earlier... probably would have ended in a fiery crash. By 30 I had mellowed enough to make it work.
Personally, I think early marriage (<22) is indicative of a poor childhood or a low socio-economic background which leads to an early need for "eternal dependence" through a promise. Most guys who decide to get married at a young age aren't confident enough in themselves to be in a relationship without making a plethora of promises. If you're good looking or ambitious, you shouldn't even think about marriage until you're 25/26 and have a good idea of who you are. People mature at different ages, but it's best to know everything that's out there which will help you further appreciate what you have when you do get married. No reason you can't be in a committed relationship for a while without exchanging vows. And make sure you put your girl on the pill, no ifs or buts about it. A lot of you may not like this, but it's the truth. And it's best served cold.
Ronny, I laughed reading this, because I can really relate based on the people that I know. My friends that got married early, I never really understood why they were in such a rush. But in reference with what you said I agree that a lot of them were very insecure at the time. I had a friend that couldn't bear the thought of graduating college (22) single. He said to all of us, how will I meet anyone, It's going to be so hard. I wanted to slap him and say "get a grip man!" He met a girl our senior year and got married right after graduation.
