I think the first one makes you racist. I don't think the second does makes you a homophobe, because you might just not want to take it up the ass.
Who said anything about taking it up the ass? Marriage doesn't necessarily mean any specific sex act.
I certainly get what you are saying, but it goes both ways and way more often than not, the people claiming racisim or discrimination are using that as a crutch for personal failure or a "woe-is-me" complex that too many pansies have (Not just racism, this extends way beyond that). The biggest problem I have with all these whiners is the fact that dilutes the issue when there is real true racism. The fact is that every single one of us discriminates against others in some way or another (whether intentional or not), and too many people think they always get the short end of the stick to make up for their own failures. To point to this idiot judge as validation for their whining is ridiculous because this is true racism and it is obviously being met with outrage or we would not all be talking about it.
B-bob, are you saying here are certain state laws requiring married partners to 'take it up the ass' ????
I don't think it does because of the bolded parts. I don't want to marry a 80-year old, but that doesn't mean I hate 80-year olds.
Here is a study that points to homosexuality being genetic... http://allpsych.com/journal/homosexuality.html ...and a National Geographic story about homosexual behavior among many different animals... http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2004/07/0722_040722_gayanimal.html ...and a WebMD story talking about observed homosexual behavior in 1500 species with documented evidence in 500 species. http://blogs.webmd.com/sexual-health-sex-matters/2007/04/is-homosexuality-against-nature.html Homosexuality seems pretty common in nature.
There are about 550 species, and as I understand it, most of these go beyond "oh you just saw one male lizard humping another" type of behavior. There are a small percentage of individuals in these species that seem to consistently show a homosexual preference. I've posted this before in these threads, with links to articles. Am happy to do so again, if it's of interest (and if I can find the articles.) My personal feeling: if you've ever really spent some time with more than 1 or 2 gay people, the idea that they made a "choice" to be gay just become preposterous, based on empirical evidence. But that's a subjective take just based on my own life (as a hetero living in San Francisco.)
For one thing, there are many reasons why you might not care what other people do. Maybe you want people to do whatever they think will make them happy. Or maybe you care so little about them they could all just shoot themselves and you wouldn't raise an eyebrow. For another thing, WHY would you decide you would never marry someone of a different race? Granted, it is not an uncommon position, I've certainly heard it before. But I can't see how it isn't racist. It seems it is similar if not directly related to people claiming they just could never find someone of a different race (or of a particular race) attractive. If your beliefs about a race are so negative they would override any possible attraction or destroy the possiblity of a great relationship then, yes, you are probably a racist. Not that that makes you a worse person than the rest of us, we all have our faults. We just don't all happen to have the same faults...
I know black guys who won't consider marrying out of there race because of loyalty to black women, and there are so few available black men for black women. do you think that is racist?
I don't know, personal preference? I personally would have no problem marrying outside my race, but I'm not going to make the leap of saying anyone who doesn't agree with my personal preference in choosing or not choosing a spouse is a racist. Like I said, I would not want to marry an 80-year old man, but that doesn't mean I have anything against 80-year old men.
But if you're excluding them simply based on their race and nothing more, is that not basically the definition of racism right there? I wouldn't marry an 80 year old man because I don't find men attractive. I'm sexist toward men in my intimate relationship. I doubt I would marry an 80 year old woman and yes I would base that on age alone so that would be age discrimination.
Yes it is. Excluding all other possibilities based on physical traits alone and nothing else IS racist. The view you put forth is unfortunately common in the Black community. I can understand people marrying within the same religion, that makes obvious sense (shared values, maybe language, and a philosophy of life etc). There are people that won't consider marrying someone from outside of their linguistic group or nationality, that is OK too. It is the marrying based on someone's color or ethnicity absent of all other considerations that I am referring to.
Yeah, I agree with this. Any mammal is going to lean towards certain phenotypes (even if the phenotype is eerily similar to its own mother or as different from its own mother as possible, etc), so... I don't think it's racist to like chocolate more than vanilla, or to prefer lemon sorbet, etc. Especially if admit that you like all the treats, but some will lead you to order a double scoop. Okay, I need to stop. Another more serious take on Mrs. JV's post. If there is, say, a group of white guys who only go after Asian women (and that is not a speculative statement, as we all know), do those guys have a racial problem against their own race?
I would say yes. I know black men who exclusively avoid dating black women. Why? There are a zillion different reasons they'll give but it does not really matter because they're still denying somebody over their race plain and simple.
