I'm not sure if I would take that as a blessing or a curse. Ms Lil Pun could be in for a long pregnancy. Congrats Lil Pun.
Nah, I was just curious...the term is more for the state than for the people, but I do think kids are better with both parents in a stable environment/relationship...be it marriage or other. No judgment on my part.....congrats. DD
Congrats Pun! My wife and I are expecting our second shortly before you on June 19th. We have an appointment tomorrow where I'm sure they'll either do the sonogram or schedule it for the next appointment. While I'm hoping for another boy, I will be very happy with another healthy child.
I'm not judging you, either, but I have to ask, what exactly are you waiting on to get married? 7 years together and now a child? What are you waiting on?
I am exactly 16 years older than him then! We share the same birthday! lol. And congrats to Lil Pun! Papa Pun, Mama pun, Lil pun.
Congratulations Lil Pun. Sorry to be Debbie Downer but you're not out of the woods yet passed the first semester. Heck you're not out of the woods for at least 18 years.
Congratulations to you and your wife, LP !!!! In a few months, your lives are going to go completely out the window and you will spend the next several years being servants.
yep i would post a picture but he's not being too nice right now lol Pun trust me man i thought the same thing but theres a diff. emotional bond with your child, as it is now i can tell when he's crying because of pain, hunger, or just being needy, honestly my child is the best thing that has ever happened to me life isnt just about me anymore
Why do we have to get married though? What I mean is, what makes you think we're waiting for anything to happen? We are in a very stable, loving long-lasting relationship. Our relationship has lasted longer than a lot of marriages have nowadays. As I stated, we both know that neither person is going anywhere. How exactly would marriage make that different or better other than bringing the state into the matter and making us legally attached? I know it may help with taxes (need to start a thread on those LOL! ), insurance, etc. but again I believe those are all wrong reasons to simply get married. I know that some people view cohabitation and children conceived out of wedlock as sinful, disgraceful, or whatever. As I said before, I don't think it is really anybody's business except our own. No, we are not on any type of government assistance if anybody is thinking that, we are paying for this ourselves. Both of our families have accepted it and both are very happy and excited and that is good enough for me. Anybody else can have their own negative opinions but they don't mean much to me. BTW, I'm not saying you are one of those types of people texxx although you may be.
I know and that is why I am being cautiously optimistic. I am actually a nervous wreck right now. I stay on her about eating right, exercising, taking vitamins, etc. I try to stay encouraging because I know for the next 7 months she is going to be going through a lot more than I would ever dream of and she is already going through some things now. I just hope all of us will be OK.
I guess people wonder what the reason is NOT to get married at this point.. because as you said, there are significant advantages financially. So if it makes no difference to you guys, what's holding you back from getting that piece of paper? You say that the financial reasons aren't a good reason to do it...but what is the right reason then that you haven't satisfied? Seems like you've satisfied what many people assume are the right reasons (love, knowing each other well, knowing you'll be together for a long time, wanting kid(s) together, etc.) It's just pure curiosity on my part to hear the other side.. I have roommates in a similar situation to your's (no kid though), so I def. know how that is. And congrats, of course!
Marriage has a tendency to change many people, in negative ways. You marry somebody and find out they aren't who you thought they were and yes we have seen this happen to a few marriages where people were together as long or longer than we have been before they got married. People get married and simply act differently because they think that they have rings on their fingers the other person isn't going anywhere due to the legal mess you must go through. I mean I could go on and on. My thinking is why take the gamble on that when we are happy now and have been for quite some time? Seems unreasonable to me especially at this juncture to take a chance on our relationship.
