You do have options getting out of your hole, but they are nasty. If your mom kicks you out, then emancipate yourself and take her to court for breaking a verbal agreement. She definitely put you as an employee working at her restaurant for tax breaks, and since she didn't pay for your loans, and you haven't cashed any payroll checks, you can get a fair judgment to pay off your debt. Nothing about your agreement stipulated that you agreed to work to stay at her house. Taking family to court is last resort business, but it doesn't sound like you have many alternatives without a place to stay. You do need to have all your old receipts and records. Furthermore, emancipation gives you a better chance for financial aid. Falling into debt and ruining your credit rating is one of the worst setbacks for a college age person. It's harder to find affordable loans and in some cases affordable rent. It matters in the future if you're looking to buy a car or housing.
That is still true. This is irrelevent since SP is not joining the military, but there is a difference in the American military between men and women serving. Something like 1% of American KIA in Iraq have been women, most of them I believe Marines and Army. That I have not at this time joined the military is not the same as not being able to get me to a recruiting station with a tow truck. You can believe whatever you want to, but I would have no problem serving in the miltary, and may still do so.
You should have borrowed the money from a friend or something. To be honest, $300 isn't that much, especially when there is only 1 month left in the semester. A simple stafford loan at the beginning of the semester would have taken care of your problems in a heartbeat. don't worry though...you still have plenty of time to get your degree
Doesn't really sound like your in that much debt. Better than being in your baby 20's with over $10k CC debt. Countless friends and myself included have fallen victim. Your parents...I don't think mean would be the right word to describe them. More like financially strapped, selfish or their just stupid with their money. I'm not sure if your asian, but asians have it the worst when it comes to freeloading parents. For example, my dad will tell everyone he paid for three of my vehicles, when in reality he only paid $15k for my first vehicle. It pissed me off at first, but meh, he is who is he is and I'm not going to change him. All you can do is just move on and live our own life and let them live theirs. You probally love your parents very much. Regardless of how much you love them, you have to do whats best for you and secure your future before you help others, including your parents.
No kidding......I mowed lawns for my first car......all seventeen hundred bucks worth of it. And I adore my parents. Some of these comments are like verbal birth control. Who would want a kid these days if this is the culture they grow up in?
I think he meant that it pissed him off that his dad tells everyone he paid for all 3 of his cars when in actuality he only bought his first one.
I think finalsbound interpreted the comment more accurately. But maybe it's a good thing you won't have a kid, because they'd probably inherit your reading comprehension genes.
If you're talking about my comments, please, read the whole story. I never demanded anything of my parents. Even now that I have debt in my name because of things they promised me, I don't demand that they pay. I even gave my mother the benifit of the doubt after she lied to me twice and quit my PAYING job, just so I could help her out with her restaurant. Yes, I'm such a bad child affected by today's culture because I want my parents to stand by their promises, and even when they don't I still help them out. Shame on me.
my pops use to pull that one...tell me he'd pay for something and then when it came time to pony up i'd get the dumb look "what are you talking about". just consider is a life lesson learned...get everything in writting, that was its legally binding.
Man, and I thought my life sucks. Next time, get EVERYTHINHG in writing. Make a contract, and get them to sign it. If they won't do this, and you won't do that. It's pretty obvious that your parents won't honor any verbal commitment. And since you are 18, you can call the social service and explain your situation, they might be able to help. Also, try to move out, and start to live on your own. It's gonna be hard, but if you work hard, it definitely will work out in the end. First you need to find a job that acutally pays you, then find couple broke students to rent a apartment together. It's probably gonna cost you at least 200 bucks a month, but when you have a job, you would be able to afford it. Take community class at night, don't give up on school. Good luck, we are all rooting for you.
LOL the saddest part is that isn't even everything. This is just what was bothering me the most. As I mentioned earlier, some guy ran a red light and hit me while I was driving my boyfriend's newly fixed car. I was driving his newly fixed car because my father gave the keys to my car to my nephew and he popped the hood and didn't tell anyone. I realized this when I was driving my niece to prepare for her prom and *BAM* hood hits windshield and shatters it. Then my parents tell me they're not helping with anything. Wow. I'm really depressed.
wow... i feel for ya. i can tell you i've heard worse situations, but that's like telling a man without arm's he should be happy he has legs. i can offer you a "there there". anyways, why do you remind me of frank grimes?
-- Walt Disney Are you saying that there are no educational benefits for joining the military? I realize that StupidMoniker used neuro-linguistic programming to trick ShadyPink into doing his will, but please give here credit for having a brain. She will join the military if she wants to; people still are, you know. I BET SHE"S HEARD OF IRAQ and doesn't need you to take care of her and I know we don't need you disparaging StupidMoniker like that.
Your boyfriend couldn't of spotted you the 300 to finish the semester? WTH does he have a job? anyways im sad to hear about your life frustrations, truth is its not ganna be an road from here.. count on your sisters and count on your friends
I'd like to hear the other side of this story but anyways... ___ I am totally against the war in Iraq and all that crap, but I would recommend some youngster joining a branch of the service if they were in a bad situation. I don't think ShadyPink (interesting nick) is in that place at all so obviously she has other options. Right now the Navy or the Air force (can you get in the AF these days without a degree?) would not be bad options for a youngster worse off (ie) no college future/ no career hopes whatsoever. I probably wouldn't recommend the Army or Marine core right now, but i'd take that over a hopeless life of minimum wage jobs any day.
Advice is hard in these situations. You just can't present all the relevant info. Based on the limited info, I would determine everything I needed to do to get out on my own. Don't know your age, but if young, previously mentioned emancipation is an option. A cousin's daughter emancipated herself at the age of 14 (if memory serves) because her mother was an alcoholic and is now receiving her masters. She rec'd a lot of financial support... search for your options. Is there any reason you think living at home will improve? Doesn't sound like it. Sometimes nature sends you messages and you have to listen for them... Good luck to you.
He had given me $300 I needed for the previous payment 2 weeks prior, then he had to drop $2000 in car repairs and $400 on glasses. By the time my problem came around he was flat broke. He really helped me all he could. Really, I'm not trying to bash my mom. I don't hate her. I'm really hurt by what she's done. What hurts me isn't the money, it's that she would lie to my sister's about everything just to save face. When I asked her why she would tell my sisters things that weren't true she acted like she had no idea what I was talking about. My oldest sister (who is taking her side) is the one who originally told me that she said those things.
How many friends do you have? If you have 10 friends, ask them to lend you $30 each. Then problem solved!
