Your Mom is definitely mean. I would not let my Mom treat me like that. I'm not clear why you do. Lying to your sisters like that?
Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that...I suspect that they either are too embarrassed to admit they don't have the money or just simply don't want you to improve your life....Either way, that's f'd up... You could do the finc. aid route as it sounds like you're only option...I was planning on going away to college after High School, but then the reality hit my parents didn't have any money...I went to San Jac and they helped out when they could...I got finc. aid at UofH CL...I waited tables and it sucked to make ends meet...It sounds like you can do the same... Not sure if there is a lesson here, but if you want something bad enough, you'll find a way and be more self reliant from now on...Good luck and hope you go to school to be whatever you want to be...
That sounds like a story in and of itself I could never see me kicking my mom out of anywhere so, I know the situation had to be VERY DEEP for it to go there Rocket River sorry you had to go through that
Tell your brothers and sisters the truth, and stop relying on your parents to pay for college. I had a similar situation, and it didn't work out until I moved out, got a job as a bartender and paid my own way through college. Eventually as you get older you will probably learn that they really INTENDED to help you out, but the finances just didn't work out and they were afraid to tell you about their troubles. DD
man your parents are stupid. apply for a student loan and move out. cut your ties with them for the time being, because they are only slowing down your progress in life. You sound like a motivated and very responsible individual (keyword: sound), so you can probably move out on your own and take care of yourself. Do it TODAY
You have developed quite a bit since you upgraded from LCI. I can only imagine what type of advice will come from LCIII.
lol @ obscure 80s references that no one will get. LCII are actually my initials but i know what you're referring to
Then fill me in. That was from the top of my head. I was quite exposed to the 80's. Maybe it was in my unconscience.
This is good advice. I really couldn't have said it better. Regarding the military option, it is a good deal, whether some want to admit it or not. All branches of the service offer the G.I. Bill, so you could easily enlist in the Air Force, for example, and (most likely) not have to go to Iraq. Same with the Navy. The only point I'm trying to make with this is that one doesn't HAVE to be in the front lines with the Army and Marines. Whatever you decide to do, its time to get your ducks in a row and not let others bring you down, regardless of how much it hurts. Do what you can with your sibs and worry about your folks later. Its time for ShadyPink to worry about ShadyPink. Sorry to hear about your situation. Best of luck.
1) My number one piece of advice was to apply for financial aid, not to join the military. 2) There are military options that a person can take that are not likely to end up with them fighting on the front lines. 3) I have been and am seriously considering joining the Marines myself, as my father, my uncle, and my grandfather were all in the military. I have also been accepted at some very well regarded law schools though, so that might be too good of an opportunity to pass up. I have no aversion to serving in the military though, and have argued in favor of mandatory military service for everyone (including myself) before. Thanks for making unfounded assumptions about me though, ****ing *******.
Edit: I'm 18 and there's no way in hell I'm joining the military right now. I'm depressed, not suicidal. Oh I didn't mention that I have a scholarship now to cover atleast the first year of school. Getting aid from FAFSA, I hear, will be damn near IMPOSSIBLE with the money my dad makes. No, it's not that they really don't have money to pay for my school. It's that their priorities are screwed up. They think school is a joke, I guess. All I needed for that last payment was $300. They didn't have that when I needed it, but they made damn sure the next week when it was my 12 y.o. sister's birthday they had $270 to buy her the new cell phone she wanted. Believe me, they're not "struggling" to do anything. My dad is making great money and he's been in business for years already. My mom just opened the restaurant, less than a year ago, with no loans. She still hasn't had to take one out. If they cut out the trips to the mall, buying TV's to send to their friends in Mexico, and buying 5 new DVD's every week, I'm sure they'd have enough to do what they said they would. Yeah, I learned not to rely on them for what I need. Really, all they provide me now is a room to sleep in and I'm fine with that. I'm just afraid that my mom will go off on me one day and kick me out. I really don't think I'd be able to afford paying off the debt and paying rent and gas for my car. My sisters (sigh) I love my sisters, but they have their own lives to live and aren't really concerned with me. All five of my older sisters have atleast 4 children, so moving in with them isn't really an option. One sister, the oldest, is telling my mom to kick me out cause she believes what my mom is telling her, even though I've talked to her about it. One sister, my BEAUTIFUL, most WONDERFUL sister, is really outraged at what my parents have done. She said I can come live with her if my parents kick me out, but as I said, she has 4 children. And she lives in a 3 bdr house. I don't want to inconvenience her if not necessary. I just don't know how to talk to my parents anymore. But thanks everyone, for all the great advice and encouragement.
1) I was addressing your 2nd suggestion. 2) You've made several posts like this when you want to try to argue that members of the military only have themselve to blame, if they find themselves in combat- Counseling a desperate young girl to join the military for college benefits and telling her she can do it such way that she's not likely to face combat is bs coming from someone like you. Once you sign on the dotted line they can send where ever they want, no matter the initial plan. 3. My assumptions about you and military service are completely founded. You strongly support the Iraq war. We've been fighting the war for 4+ years. To date, you've chosen not to join the military and fight in a war you support. Actions speak louder than words.
I'm filling out my FAFSA right now and my parents income for last year was 7500. You're lucky they gave you a cent.
It is a very difficult thing to realize that your parents can be less mature than you, but that is what is going on here. Everybody wants to have someone who is better, more mature, and wiser to parent them. It makes you feel safe, especially when you are 18 years old. But you apparently don't have that luxury. In your mind, approach them as you would children or young teenagers. If your parrents act like children, you have to look at them as if they were. It will save you from much disapointment, and give you a good basis for understanding how they might potentially act. While I can appreciate when moestavern19 particular perspective, the amount of money they give or don't give is not the issue. If they had nothing to give, and were honest about it it would be less upsetting by far. Fate has screwed you with children for parents. Its not your fault and there is nothing you can do about it. Your best outcome is to accept this and move forward.
I don't think the real issue is the amount they're giving (or not giving) - it's the fact that they made a promise, which led Shadypink to make decisions that she probably would not have made otherwise, including registering fro school and quitting a paying job to work for free at their restaurant. You know, far too many parents don't seem to understand that their income WILL be taken into account when their children apply for financial aid, even if they do not intend to contribute financially toward their children's education. It might be a good idea for you to ask your parents to attend a meeting with the school's financial aid counselor so that he/she can reinforce this fact and explain that the combination of their income and their refusal to pay leaves you with very few options to pay for school.
Once again, I feel for you, young lady. I really hope it turns out better than this. Have you tried the community college instead of "college" or an expensive university? The way times are with you and finances, there's no way you could afford this Fall's tuition, and a FAFSA won't give you money that soon. You could qualify for the Spring semester. Hang in there. Get out of your parents' job and get a better-paying job as soon as possible, but do not disown your parents, for that is what your sisters will learn. DON'T QUIT ON YOUR SISTERS. They love you, I bet, and your parents just can't deal with your stuff right now while they're doing the restaurant stuff. Are you living at home? Be lucky you don't have to pay rent... Man, this is sounds so depressing. May you find comfort in the ones you love and the ones that love you back. What about that boyfriend of yours? Can HE help?
