She's 20. You guys are old enough to make your own decisions to make it work. Her aunt can't tell her who to see. You said she was in abusive situation? Care to give some insight on this?
Quite a few things I know. I'm not saying that I have the answers to everything at the age of 22, but if I'm to mature then I must learn how to handle such situations now because they may come up again in the future.
Man that's just sad. As said before, you guys aren't really in a long distance relationship. If you guys do LOVE each other, than you guys CAN make it work.
Why aren't other options being looked into? Such as her living on her own, going to college, living in the dorms/apt, or a last resort...living with you? And how exactly is her Aunt planning to stop her from seeing you? Do they think you're a bad influence or something?
Ah, cleared up. Sounds like you two should be able to work this out, if the desire is there. I had a girlfriend in Austin back when I lived in Houston and the weekends were hot. You know, the whole absence makes the heart (and the rest of the body!) grow fonder thing. You guys are closer than that. We eventually broke up, but not because of the distance.
I married my beautiful wife after 1 year dating together and 3 years of long-distance dating apart. My advice: 1) Most people are against long-distance relationships and avoid them at all costs. I recommend them to anybody who has a strong foundation to work with. Why? Because you learn rather quickly whether or not the other person is "worth it". You'll both be able to gauge each others faithfulness as well as your own. If you feel yourself straying, it's not going to work in the long run. 2) Talk every day. Get skype. Tell stories. Play monopoly online or something. Whatever you do...do things together. 3) Give the other person space. They are on their own living their own life. You are definitely a part of it, but not all of it. If they choose to go hang out with friends instead of talk with you, they're not choosing that OVER you... 4) Have patience... you will certainly get worried about the other person in a long distance relationship. Have patience. 5) Talk about your worries and concerns. Communication is key in any relationship. If it bugs you that she hangs out with a guy for whatever reason, tell her. Don't expect her to stop hanging out with him completely, but let her know it bugs ya. 6) Be the partner you want them to be. If you hate them hanging out with guys, stop hanging out with chicks. If you hate that they party, don't party. And so on...
I will second this post and add one caveat. If the long-distnace relationship you are in is indefinite (meaning that you don't know how long you will be in it) then it most likely will not work. Most long distance relationships that work (that I know of) do so because the couple knows they aren't going to be apart forever. But if it's something that you both are unsure of, then it's going to be pretty hard to work through.
Dont worry about it... if you n her really love each other it will work out especialy if your the person she goes to for her problems.
In one now, they are very tough, but as long as you are both committed and the right type of people for it, they can work well. Just keep in touch all the time, talk about how you are feeling about things and if its meant to be, you'll be alright.
I'm confused by this thread. So you are moving 30 minutes away from her and it is now going to be a long distance relationship?
