Can't comment too much on style or technique since it DOES differ from girl to girl, but I just wanted to echo some other basic pointers: Don't drool or be too sloppy. (She shouldn't have to wipe her mouth when the kiss is finished.) Don't ram your tongue down her throat. BIG no. Be gentle. Move your tongue slowly and deliberately. Breath check if you even think there is a slight possibility you might get a kiss.
Believe it or not, some people may actually need to know stuff. Personal, embarassing stuff. I was trying to give advice. If my technique is "the swirl" then it is. I sure as hell didn't read it from a book. But the kid was asking for advice, and I tried to give it to him. What's your excuse?
Oh! Good call. If you're a smoker, hold your breath when kissing. When you need to breathe, go and kiss their neck. My last two girlfriends were non-smokers, and they had no problem with this technique.
Due to the fact that I was lurking for 14 months? Actually I don't really know....my status was "lurker" the first time I posted. What is it supposed to be?
Wasn't your first time posting today? Lurker just means you can't start threads I think.. Clutch might know better though. As for the kissing.. you can try putting a romantic in the back. My suggestion "You touch my tra la la" by Gunther. That guy is the King!!
I'm sorry... Are you serious, or facetious? I'm guessing the latter. This political bullsh*t spilling over needs to stop, period. Oh, BTW, how's "Insolvent Bridegroom" doing?
What is political about discussing kissing? Are you running for office? Do you need a loan? It sounds like you need something. "If you're a smoker, hold your breath when kissing. When you need to breathe, go and kiss their neck." You're kidding, right? If there is any passion involved, who pays attention to their breathing? And if there is any passion involved, who notices whether one smokes, or not? If smoking is going to be a turn-off, then you'll never get to the kissing stage, anyway. And if there is no passion, you find someone else to kiss. Gezz.
Another obvious D&D cohort responds. Y'all are getting old. Et tu, old man? I was giving advice to someone who asked it. Period. Since when did I become the whipping boy for a bunch of liberals? Y'all miss BigTexxx that much? Go play with your owl.
I was serious. Who thinks about smoking when they are being passionate? Good grief... if anyone is thinking that much when they're kissing, they're going to make a hash of it, for sure. Feeling insecure, lately? The owl is eating something, no doubt, or making out in a tree.
Oh, and to answer your question about breathing? Think about "control" the next time you have sex. If you can't control breathing, I have pity for you in many other areas.
You truly don't know what you're talking about, do you. That's OK. You might give some thought about giving advice in the area, however. To the thread starter... just try to relax and let your instincts take over. I've always thought deciding when to kiss a girl was more of a trick than actually kissing her. Some of your problem may be nerves leading up to the kiss, so that your concern about how it is received affects your ability to kiss in a natural manner. It really isn't Rockets science. I know it's easy to say over the internet, but just relax and enjoy it. How she responds should give you all the information you need.
I stopped using tongue in 12th grade. I'm all lips. It does help that I have ultra full latin lips. I perfer those long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days.
To be fair, Deckard has been married for quite some time, while I haven't. While I think my advice is accurate, there is nothing wrong with hearing others. Obviously, people are different, but regardless of what avenue you decide to approach, confidence is the main factor. I've been told some of my friends were really bad kissers, but their confidence kept the women wanting more.
Practice makes perfect! If you really are a bad kisser right now - which I doubt, since it seems hard to be really bad at something as natural as that - then practice. If you're universally bad like you say, you'll slowly figure out what you're doing wrong and adjust.
What a great thread...A little advice, some flaming, what else can we expect.. I've been told I'm good, but I don't need the affirmation... I have to reiterate FFB and XxShadyPinkxX advice but would add a slight lick of the outline of her lips and a nibble of the bottom lip, and control the kissing action... Oh yeah, be passiionate and make her feel like she's the only one that matters...
