That is great news Randy! This might all stem from miscommunication!!! She may not have realized how unhappy you were becoming! By the time I went to counseling, it was too late. The damage had already become irreversible and I had already moved on. My walls were up and counseling served as closure. I already knew how it would end before we started. Good luck, and you and your family are in my prayers!
A buddy of mine who went through a terrible divorce is now on his way to Vegas to get married, he seems like the happiest person. he has a son too. you need to do what's best for you man and fix up your personal life. you'll always have your kids.
Great news...Its tough to do, but I think you two are taking the right step. Hopefully, you both can focus on each other and remember what is was about each other that drew you close to one another. My wife and I have a 20 month old and, although we are happy together, we have had to try really hard to dedicate time to focusing on each other. Before we had kids, I never thought that could happen to us. I heard people tell us, "Remember to take time for just the 2 of you" and thought "Of course, we will". But, life happens. Things come up, and before you know it...its been 2 weeks, then 2 months, then 4 months since we have had time just to focus on each other. In that time, we have worked together as a team to get things done, but the focus has been our child, or our house, or planning an event. I stepped back a couple of weeks ago and thought "Is she my wife or a roommate?" Like you said, ROX, it took a shock to really put things in perspective. If you think you enjoy your daughters now, you'll be amazed how much more enjoyment you will feel when you and your wife get back to enjoying each other. Prayers...and trust those prayers will be answered.
Terrific, ROX. Great read, and you really made a smart decision. Good luck! I've been pretty lucky, but you have to make your luck, as well. My wife and I are having our 30th anniversary in February, and besides having a lot of common interests (both political junkies, both love music from the '60's and early '70's, talk all the time with each other, and have a great time in the sack), we've always scheduled a weekend away periodically, and didn't stop doing it after we had our kids. We even drive to Houston (have lived in Austin over 25 years) so we can leave them with my Mom or her sister, whether we're going to Galveston for a couple of nights at a really nice hotel, or flying down to the Yucatan for a long weekend. Sometimes, we'll fly up my mother so we can stay at a cool B&B just outside of Fredericksburg, or at a really nice hotel in Austin. Anything to get away, as long as they have a hot tub and adult movies on demand. Have the two of you ever just "gotten away," even for a night or two? If you can work things out (and good luck again!), try doing that. It's amazing have it can "juice up" your relationship. A few years ago, we even went to San Francisco for 4 or 5 nights, leaving the kids with relatives. It was fabulous! Think about it. (no way to move the family back to Texas? That seems to be a huge issue with you, understandably)
This all sounds great, counseling may patch a few holes, but usually once things get this bad and someone has become a different person, there is no going back. I predict a post in a few months saying you guys are getting a divorce. Not trying to be an ass, just being honest here. But good luck.
