My first break-up was at 13 years of age. I got so skinny from depression. The skinny led to more b****es
I empathize. Finally got out of a 5 year relationship where the last year was on and off. It’s really hard to rip off that bandaid when the relationship moves more towards the “companion” phase. That is, we were just each others best friend but the romantic part has gone.
Why were the two of you fighting? What were the issues? Not saying you can fix the relationship with your ex but this should definitely be a reflective time for you because if you don't work on you and try to improve your shortcomings you'll continue to repeat them in your next relationship. It's not about finding the right partner but being the best partner. You can only control you and your actions. At the end of the day our part
I came back, and I should have listened to everyone here. We never actually broke up, we stayed together, through the end of the year. It was a terrible 6 months, terrible 2023 in total tbh. So many fights, so many near breakups, so many bad evenings, frustrations. Yes there was some love there too, but few and far between. I was still committed to working on this relationship. In 2024 we were planning to take a "break" because our problems were too big to ignore. however Last weekend I discovered that she was having an emotional affair on me with her coworker. It shocked my world. She had already fallen out of love with me, had checked out. It took 6 months but she became vulnerable enough and the right person came along to get her to cheat. For the last week, I tried to see if I could reconcile with her, give her a chance. Ultimately, I couldn't. I didn't feel like she was willing to put in the work. So we broke up. My only regret is if we had broken up in July, perhaps we would have grown into different people, to realize that we belonged together again. Unfortunately, the cheating took place, and now the entire relationship, and any hope for the future, is gone. So I should have listened to everyone here. @AroundTheWorld @Nook @PhiSlammaJamma , @zeeshan2 @Haymitch @Bobbythegreat @DaDakota you're right at least I'm not married with kids and have to deal with that BS.
I wish we were even best friends. The sex dropped off dramatically, and we were barely friends. We were more like acquaintances that enjoyed hugging and cuddling each other, because we still had the familiarity of our physical touch.
The issues were very deep. Both of us felt like we had to turn into different people in order to match one another. I felt very depressed and unsure of myself trying to be someone that I'm not. We grew apart. 2020-2022, we were great. We felt comfortable with each other. 2023, life changed for us, different schedules, age, and we grew apart.
That's a bummer to hear. Finding out someone is cheating on you must be a horrible thing to go through so I feel you. I remember my first breakup and I posted it on here about 11 years ago... lemme say you're handling it a lot better than I did lol.
How did you handle it? Every time I feel sad, weak, wanting to give it another try. I remember that she cheated on me. It has worked so far, but it's also only been a few hours.
That really sucks, but what's important now is that 6 months (or sooner) from now when she calls and looks to hook up, don't do it. If you do, it'll feel great at the time (physically and mentally), but it'll make things so much worse in the long term.
Keep remembering that until you don't need to anymore. My ex-wife did the same thing...but she swore up and down that it wasn't really cheating. Even managed to find a couples counselor that agreed with her. That was super fun times. Once we decided to call it quits, that's what I used as fuel to move forward. I was struggling and as low as I had ever been...while she was chatting up a couple of guys and even tried to meet up with one. That was the worst I've ever felt...but it helped me realize we were doing the right thing but splitting up. Never been happier since.
ALWAYS remember that. There's a time in every relationship where things aren't going right, or you just feel out of sync. It's in that moment that you know whether you have someone that will die with you and die for you, or you have someone that will push you off the cliff for their own betterment. She pushed you off the cliff bro. NEVER forget that. And keep that **** burned in your memory when she comes calling back telling you she ****ed up, and now she realizes how much she took you for granted, and misses you. It's all for the sake of her ease and comfort, and to heal HER wounds. Delete her number, block her on social media, and move on, my guy. You'll be fine.
That is very helpful thanks. My ex-gf also claims it's not really cheating. However she literally deleted all the messages, lied to me, was reluctant to be transparent etc. and justified it by blaming it on me. Actions speak louder than words. Her words say it was nothing, but her actions show otherwise and I will never have any proof. It's words vs actions and I'll believe her actions.
