May GOD bless you and your family...I'm sorry, I know what it's like and it really hurts. Time helps, be strong for your Mom and take time to talk and just be there...Hopefully, relatives and friends will be around often for support...
Hang in there Isabel. I was with my father when he passed away about 7 years ago at the age of 62. Such a vibrant, passionate man! There's almost never a day that I don't think of him in some way. As many in this thread have said, there is no right or wrong way to respond. Stay in the moment, keep him in your heart, and love your mother and family. It's the best legacy you can give your father.
I have been lurking lately, a little busy to post much but I missed the site and the bbs. I posted because I remembered when my mom passed away a year and a half ago and everyone was so incredibly supportive. You have no idea how incredibly helpful your prayers and support were for me then. I remember printing out the thread and re-reading it several times that week, uplifted every time I did so. Knowing that, I wanted to lend my support to Isabel and her family, in the hope that she would be likewise comforted by our collective prayers.
I called both my parents this week. I'm seeing them both this weekend, lunch with my Dad, dinner with my Mom. I probably wouldn't have done it if not for this thread.
Just now bringing this thread back up, as I just now got a chance to respond to it (I've been very busy and haven't had much Internet access). Thank you all so much for the kind thoughts, good wishes, prayers, and messages. It was especially helpful during those first couple of days - people in the "real world" hadn't heard or hadn't responded yet, but you guys were right there. We are continuing on with our lives now. Everything seemed to happen so quickly; we gave him a nice memorial service and did the best we could. I'm still not sure if I'm able to comprehend this, or fully realize it, especially since nothing has changed back here in Texas. My mother is doing a lot better than I would have expected; she is a strong woman and has people helping her out. It's just strange to think that I can't send email to my dad anymore, or ask him things. And that my mother is alone now. Again, <b>you guys rock...</b> thanks so much...
Hey, Isabel, someday when you feel like it will you consider restoring your "CC.Net estrogen source" signature? That always gave me a great laugh to read that. I hope your grieving resolves itself quietly. I lost my dad over two years ago and I still think about him several times every day.
