Wise choice... I always thought what if by some chance the fat girl got pregnant. I mean it would suck to get a big girl or some random chick pregnant but eventually I could live it but a fat girl you gotta see that girl all the time and of course your family and friends would know what you did.
I saw this on GOOD LUCK CHUCK last night. I couldn't believe I missed this awful movie and that lovely scene with the girl on the beach. If you're AfriCAN-AmeriCAN or MexiCAN or just AmeriCAN, sir, you CAN do it. I believe in you. DO IT.
I agree that everyone is attracted to different people and have different preferences. No my problem with it is that he obviously has talked to this girl and enjoyed it. If he wants to see if he's attracted to her physically regardless of what she weighs and how tall she is, then he should meet her and see if whatever she looks like attracts him. Not base "fat or not" on some stupid numbers. If he only cares is this chick fat then he's only worried about "What will she look like hanging on my arm" In which case he is lower than pond-scum in my opinion.
MMMM.... I think you need to be attracted to someone mentaly and physically, I can love your personality but if i'm not physically atrracted to you, we would serve better as friends. IMHO, Is that low?
FIXED. Are you saying that you will only be in a relationship (more-than-friendship-style) with someone whose looks are GOOD ? And, yes, sir... that is pretty shallow.
They have to be physically attractive to me, as well and mentally. What I think looks good, and what you think looks good could be totally different. I don't think I should be with someone if i am not fully attracted to them, it wouldn't make sense?
Not shallow at all, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Ask yourself, would you want to be in a relationship where the spark of passion isn't lit because you don't find your girlfriend physically attractive? Would you want to be in a relationship where you would likely become sexually disinterested in your girlfriend because you have no physical attraction to her? That doesn't sound like a good way to live your life. There is nothing wrong with going after what you think is attractive.
Not low, because you have seen her and found you just aren't attracted. You didn't base your assessment of how she looks by height and weight measurements.
Humor is one thing, but for some of you, absent maturity with age, I sincerely hope your children are not overweight, ugly, mentally challenged, or otherwise unfit for your dangerously shallow paradigms of "the way things should be." For if they are fat or ugly, it is sad enough that strangers will relish inflicting ridicule upon your children, but a child knowing that you, as a parent, though unspoken, believe your child to be disgusting or gross or less than perfect is an even sadder state of affairs. If you still believe this way when you have children; they will know.
Not subhuman, just not realy really ridiculously good looking. Joking aside, the sensitive people in this thread seem to make it seem noble to date or mate with unattractive and/or overweight individuals. There seems to be some kind of unspoken code of chivalry amongst "those who fornicate with the unsightly and obese." There are quite a few instances in this thread where someone says, "well my girlfriend/wife is SUPER fat but I love her...I = much more of a man than you!!!." I believe in the point system of that 70's show. Everyone is a certain point value depending on character, looks, build, talents, wealth, knowledge, education... etc. The points don't have a static societal fixture, however, individuals seem to understand it subconsciously. Generally, people mate with people within the same point system. If someone doesn't like fat people, why does that make him a bad person? It is just something on their personal list of don't dates. The points don't have to make sense to other people (how did that schmuck get her?), just the two love birds. The whole arguement about missing out on a great person is BS!!! That may be true if you are looking for a friend, but if you are looking for the one...it is a completely different ballgame. You are allowed to be as discerning and as discrimating as you like. This will be the mother of your kids, your bride, your wife, your love....and she must be perfect for you. Just like you must be perfect for her. Maybe some guys can find that in fat girls... there you go. I don't, I would rather date a smart, sweet, slim girl than a smart, sweet, fat one. Don't think that just because someone looks fugly means they are beautiful on the inside. Don't think all models are airheads. There are fat, stupid, mean people. There are sexy, smart, kind people. Somewhere, there is average. If you pass up on talking to a beautiful person you might miss out on great person. I happen to be below average- immigrant family, little money, student (so I'm not making money). My fiance is absolute gold- beautiful, intelligent, conversationalist, creative, green, open-minded, kind, honest, caring, cute when she is sick, loves animals, and I know she will be a hell of a mother. I don't know what she sees in me, but We work. Our points work. So screw you pricks trying to make yourselves out like heroes, you simply did what the rest of us do...you found your match. -V
It's genetics and age. Wait till you and your 20-something svelte selves turn 30, then 40, then 50. You will most likely gain weight. Incrementally. Paunch here. Saddlebags there. It's going to happen. Will you no longer love or feel attraction to this person then?
Not always true, and I don't know why you are making it seem that way. My parents are about to hit 50 and weight-wise they look as good as I can ever remember them looking. I think my dad is even at a lower weight and looks even more athletic than he did when he was active-duty military. They have many friends who follow a similar mold.
Yeah I guess that happens to a lot of people doesn't it. Isn't called a divorce or is it hot sultry affair? Come on...you know the answer to this one. As many have pointed out, people must be physically, mentally, and spiritually attracted to the person for it to work. There is a balance. I am not saying it is always a precise science. I see what you are trying to do and I think the answer you are expecting is bull****... those who put a lot of stock in the physical will have a hard time coping with old age (ie older athletes, Apollo Creed, models, every guy that has a mid-life crisis). That is the truth. That is why some men get more attractive with age. Out goes the six pack but that confidence stays. Some people always see their love just as when they first met. Others mature, grow old and embrace each other. Others leave. Look my point was that everyone is different. That is why I made up the point theory to illustrate different tastes. Sometimes 175 mixes with 332... I don't know. But that is their business. Who the hell are you to tell someone that married a beautiful women that he won't love her in their golden years because her beauty is one main factors that compelled him? Screw off, and allow people to attend to their own happiness and desires. My parents are beautiful people, my dad always tells my mom how he felt like he married the most beautiful person in the world... AND HE MEANS IT. And he stills loves her, cause love is the queen's bullocks. If I desire for someone with the lasting qualities of kindness, calmness, and intellegence... that is who I go for. My point was that "acting like not dating fugly is my missed chance at love" is BS. That fugly will grow old and get even more fugly. Other women gracefully embrace old years... and if I had the choice, I would always pick the latter. I want someone to complete me, I believe I've found that person. I won't leave her when we get old, even if yeah, she does get less beautiful, as all older women do. For me, her beauty is the cherry on top, and if that goes I still have the sundae. For other guys, if that was it than tough bananas. That is life. Come off it Rashmon, you are smarter than that. Advise for the OP, don't worry about what other people think about your girl...worry about what you think. If you can be happy with her, great. If no, then save both yourselves a lot of pain and heartache. If you picked someone that fulfills you, you will never stop being attracted to them. It is not just looks though. Some people leave because of silly things like money....hmmm. -V
If you have fun with her and there is chemistry then don't mind what other people might think. It's what makes you happy. Plus girls with a little extra chub usually give good oral pleasures. Ummmm hmmmmmm.
