Hey, gotta represent my side, then But we don't all have to be the most stereotypical/shallow members of our own gender. I don't understand why men with money are more attractive. If I want money, I'll go work and make some myself. Then I won't feel like I just earned the spending privileges by being in a relationship (because, one way or another, what does that make you?). The thing about women being more attracted to personality/emotional compatibility is true, though, as opposed to men and visual stimulation. Which is unfortunate for us, because sometimes you can only do so much about your looks, and it's pretty much guaranteed to go downhill with time. I still stand by my fairness statement, and can reverse the genders/preferences on it. I don't make much money right now so I don't expect a guy to either. In fact, too much difference would make me feel strange - he'd expect a higher standard of living and I'd feel uncomfortable, like I couldn't contribute.
Yes, I was just trying to make a point by (unfairly) picking on DaDakota. Upon reading it again, I realize that it didn't come out the way I intended. Really, I was just trying to point out the hypocrisy in this thread of everyone making all these judgments about people’s weight when most of the people doing all the talking (including myself) could probably stand to lose a few pounds themselves. I’m not overweight per se, but like the majority of people in this country (who aren’t bulimic…), it surely wouldn’t hurt me to drop 10 or 15 pounds just to get in better shape. In short, if you can dish it out, you should be able to take it as well. If you're not overweight, I'm sure there's something else about you that people could make fun of. Anyway, my apologies to DaDakota. I just sent him an email.
She is fat....i've done the online thing...everygirl that does not include a body shot and only face shots comes out looking really over weight and sloppy...i dont know who they are trying to fool....
What? People all have preferences and what they are attracted to. For anyone to call someone out for their preference is bull. We all have our preferences. The OP might not be attracted to big women. Okay, is there really a problem with that? There are guys who are only attracted to big women, is there a problem there? I don't think so. There is no hypocrisy here. If a fat guy only likes skinny girls, is there a problem? If he finds a skinny girl that makes him happy, them let it be. You would rather him get with a girl he is not attracted to so we can have more f'd up relationships around? The way I see it, date who you are attracted to (as long as that person isn't underage). Screw what others say. At the end of the day, you are the one who has to deal with that other person. I am not saying that it is all about looks and weight, but I think we all can agree that there has to be a basic attraction for any relationship to work. If that attraction isn't there, it is going to be that much harder to deal with the problems that pop up in any relationship.
Yeah, but you got personal, whereas everyone else was speaking in generalities. I don't hide the fact that I am overweight, I could stand to lose some pounds.... But personal insults are not welcomed, I would never do that to you Ima...that was actually pretty shocking. Anyway, Apology accepted. DD
This thread is ridiculous. Most of us who were discussing the matter seriously were using clinical terms and avoided insulting anyone or mocking them. We avoided saying someone might be ugly or was subhuman or any of that stuff, but the people on the other side got bent out of shape and started getting very personal and exaggerating the discussion at hand. Side 1 says a person who is 40 pounds over their ideal weight is approaching obesity levels and is at risk of health problems... Side 2 says "OMG if you aren't a 90 pound crackhead you are subhuman to these guys! HYPOCRITES!" Please consider who is being rational here.
Well it's just frustrating when I see you there in your little shorts scarfing down burrito supremes and I have to limit myself to blue jeans and 1 big mac a day. It's not easy and I have feelings too. I developed an eating disorder because of people like you. Spoiler
There is nothing wrong with fast food, but you shouldn't be gluttonous about it, especially if you've had weight issues in the past. That Whataburger incident was just a huge red flag to me.
I think he was pokin' fun at you in a brotherly way, not in an trying-to-hurt-your-feelings way. I mean, I've been on the board for many years, and, though I have never met your or some of the other long-timers, I don't think I'd be too offended if you took a fun jab at me every now and then. So, think of it that way. We love you, b****!
I absolutely agree with this. There has to be attraction between me and the guy I like. If there is nothing there then I won't pursue it. Let me give you some advice, OP. I had a preference for skinny guys and I've never dated guys who were overweight because I wasn't overweight. When I met my fiance, I thought he was really cute but he was overweight. He was 250. I had my reservations about dating a big guy. I know, shallow, huh? Time went by and I still thought he was really cute and fun to be around. I was convinced I wanted to be with him no matter if he was overweight. We didn't end up being in a relationship a year later. We were still in college and having fun. I still never stopped liking him. It was really difficult at first since he was overweight and didn't really work out. I'd encourage him to eat correctly and work out but that was tough since he was in college and living with his parents after college. He finally started weight lifting and now he is in a much better shape than he was 4 years ago. He could still lose his belly. He works out 4 times a week at 5am. He has a better work out ethic than me! So to sum it up, I would never be with him if I let my reservations to get in the way. If you worry about weight issues you could miss out something great just because of society standards.
That's what you calll a fixer-upper. I see tons of gals like that at the gym. Really cute but with the proper diet and resistance training would be smoking hot. But honestly, who has the time? Size 2 FTMFW!
Probably one of the best posts in this thread. People want to say someone is shallow for ruling out a potential partner based on looks when in reality, there has to be attraction there. It's not any different from not wanting to be with someone because you don't like their sense of humor. It's just standards, and no one has any right to call out anyone else on what they want in a potential mate. Some call it shallow, I call it knowing what you want.
