Then her house lights on fire? This is bad poop bag procedure, there must be a ring of the doorbell and a hide but still watch steps added.
Sounds to me that she's either very immature and doesn't respect you or she doesn't feel that you're listening to her to such a degree that she feels that deserting you at a gas station is about the only way you'll understand her frustration and change your attitude.
If she's usually a nice and reasonable girl, she's OK to have a lapse somewhere along the way. Girls overracts over these things especially when they are thinking about marriage. Just make sure that she doesn't take these lapses for granted. Don't demand an apology if you haven't yet, an apology is no way the punishment she deserves for leaving you stranded. Yet if you asked for an apology and got it. she will think that the whole thing is over and quickly forget about the lesson she should've learnt. You are entitled to pull a trick on her to let her understand how does it feel like to be in your shoes, and how irresponsible her acts were. Afterwards, tell her in a fair and soft manner why you are carrying out retribution. If she loves you, she'll understand. If she doesn't, or refuse to comprehend, dump her a$$. Luck.
THE ANSWER: Obviously yours is not a relationship that has deep meaning and strong, loving attachment. So... If she's good in the sack, keep nailing her for as long as you can - but don't ever let her get the better of you. Never depend on her for anything, and never let yourself be in a situation like that again. Also, be emotionally prepared for the day that the relationship ends ('cause it's gonna happen). -- droxford
droxford's right. When it starts to get serious, if they aren't really at the same level as you, things will start to unravel slowly. You guys are talking about getting serious...this stuff is happening. There's your relation. It's probably gonna happen sooner or later. And man....she abandoned you. Disrespected and insulted. Walk away.
Apparently most of the other posters were thinking of another 'c'-word after reading that story (rhymes with "fake punt"), but I'm going with "childish" too. A childish move on your part, and she nearly stooped to your level. That was a pretty dumb thing to say to her, moose.
Since you've known her for a long time, you don't have to get into all the twisted revenge fantasies everyone is bringing up. However, I know I'm repeating myself here, but most women are not known for being rational creatures. Do you really want to be with one who doesn't know where to draw the line? You don't have to dump her right away, but you need to take a new attitude to the relationship. Proceed as if you know it's going to end at some point, and really try to enjoy yourself. Try some things you might not have otherwise, and just have fun. This is the way I'm acting at work right now, and it's given me a new lease on life - I'm really enjoying myself during a rather stressful IT rollout. Good luck!
Much like gutter snipe said: You don't have to break up with her if you do like her. But you can't consider her for anything more serious. You don't want to be stuck with or god forbid have children with a flake. So if your eventual goal is THE relationship, you're wasting your time and should cut ties now.
I don't know where everybody is getting this stuff. Ditching you at a gas station once doesn't make her a flake. She might be but you'd have to tell us. You had a fight is all. Relationships recover from those. Break up with her if you want to; I'm not too heavily invested in the relationship myself. But to break up with her on the grounds that she left you at a gas station is dumb. That's just wrecking a relationship because you're mad, not because the relationship is flawed. Everyone is advising you to dump her mainly on the grounds, it seems to me, that your machismo must be maintained (that's what you get when you ask a bunch of guys). If machismo is more important to you, than I guess maybe you should dump her and find some mousy chick who'll walk on eggshells around you. But, if the woman is actually important to you, these things can be straightened out. After all, it is just an event in your history, not a characteristic of the relationship. So, do what you like, but be careful about following the advice of disinterested and uninformed cyber-acquaintences.
She might not be a flake, but she definitely acted like one in this case and had a major judgement error in common human decency. Yes, everyone has little fights and petty arguments. How the couple reacts to those arguments will usually determine if the relationship will survive. She abadoned her significant other over a petty argument. You don't do that over a serious argument, much less a petty one. Yeah, that just speaks wonders about how she'll react in the future over other silly arguments they're bound to have. But to break up with her on the grounds that she left you at a gas station is dumb. That's just wrecking a relationship because you're mad, not because the relationship is flawed. to continue trusting her after she ditched you is dumb. Relationships with no trust = dead. Everyone is advising you to dump her mainly on the grounds, it seems to me, that your machismo must be maintained (that's what you get when you ask a bunch of guys). If machismo is more important to you, than I guess maybe you should dump her and find some mousy chick who'll walk on eggshells around you. But, if the woman is actually important to you, these things can be straightened out. That's ridiculous. If it were a woman saying the same thing, her bf abandoned her, then I would be saying the same thing. It has nothing to do with "machismo", just a basic sign of respect for any human being you care for. In fact, I doubt any self-respecting woman would even consider staying with such an ahole that would leave her stranded. So, do what you like, but be careful about following the advice of disinterested and uninformed cyber-acquaintences. agreed. I'm just stating my opinion and how I would react based on the info given. I know I wouldn't be married if me or my spouse had pulled a stunt like this before we got hitched. There's some lines you just don't cross ...
I'd agree there are some lines you just don't cross -- and yet they are crossed all the time and relationships still survive. Becuase you do something that transgresses the bounds of human decency doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is no longer viable. How many people have cheated on their spouses and yet were later able to reconcile? That transgression is a serious one; abandonment at a gas station is a bit more moderate. But, I agree that some lines ought not be crossed. Leaving michecon at a gas station probably requires an apology and a mutual understanding that such tactics should not be indulged in in the future. As for the rest of it, I get the feeling we're approaching relationships from significantly different positions and we won't reach an agreement on it. Machismo may not be the best word since it is gender-related and not just gender-laden (the effect of the latter is what I was looking for). The idea, though, is that most posters in this thread have been saying michecon must make sure to punish disrespect. I say there is no profit in that.
Completely agree JV. Personally I feel a lot of people are too forgiving of transgressions against them(cheating, abuse, etc) and are willing to stay in a doomed or very risky relatioinship instead of moving on. Now if you're married or have kids, that's a whole different matter, you are obligated to at least try and make it work in that situation. But a boyfriend-girlfriend deal - cut the friggin ties once really bad character flaws start showing up. There are other people you can spend your life with. As for the rest of it, I get the feeling we're approaching relationships from significantly different positions and we won't reach an agreement on it. Machismo may not be the best word since it is gender-related and not just gender-laden (the effect of the latter is what I was looking for). The idea, though, is that most posters in this thread have been saying michecon must make sure to punish disrespect. I say there is no profit in that. I can understand that. I don't think relationships should be trashed just because of a blow to your ego either. I think that may be the word you were looking for.
