Anybody ever been attracted to someone that they weren't physically attracted to? Anybody ever got shot down by someone who you thought was lower on the ladder? Anybody ever did the ignore/hard to get avenue to someone they had the hots for and was successful in getting the person interested in them more that way? Things to ponder...
Macalu is dead on. 100%. If yourself sucks, don't be yourself. That doesn't mean you need to change the way you act around women, because they will easily pick up on that, categorize you as a poseur, and reject you. You just need to actually change yourself. Learn a talent, gain more confidence, whatever. The key to attracting girls is making them come to you, not the other way around. If you project the sense that the girl you are going for is out of your league, the girl will pick up on that immediately and lose all attraction for you. If, on the other hand, you act as if you are the prize, and the girl must win YOU over, the girl will be very into you. Act like you don't care if you get her or not. She will go crazy.
exactly, and if they don't like you for who you are then they probably weren't worth your time in the first place.
First of all, you never let on how much you like a girl. "Oh, Debbie. Hi." Two, you always call the shots. "Kiss me. You won't regret it." Now three, act like wherever you are, that's the place to be. "Isn't this great?" Four, when ordering food, you find out what she wants, then order for the both of you. It's a classy move. "Now, the lady will have the linguini and white clam sauce, and a Coke with no ice." And five, now this is the most important. When it comes down to making out, whenever possible, put on side one of Led Zeppelin IV.
you sound like the villain in every 80's John Waters movie. I hope you know that you would NEVER EVER get Molly Ringwald with those kinds of tactics.
Funny, except for the Zeppelin IV part, this isn't horrible advice. Who knew 80s movies could be so right when they were usually so wrong.
The first guy that ever made me really nervous is the one I'm marrying. I think you're more intimidated than anything else. The biggest key is if you're nervous, don't try to hit on her. Just say hi and try to talk to here like she's any other girl. It makes it so much easier.
If you are too nervous just take it easy, and don't involved in a long conversation or get too personal with the conversation. Just keep it casual so that your chance for huge blunders is minimized. Then later once you can get ahold of yourself ease into a little more personal conversation, but if the nerves retrun, find a way to exit the conversation. This will make sure that you are able to be yourself, and not some self-concious freak when talking to her. It may have the added effect of making you seem confident, and just aloof enough to pique her interest. Don't strive for that, but sometimes it just happens. Only you need to know that your exits and minimal conversations are because your nerves are about to make you fumble things beyond belief. Most importantly it will help her relax around you, and get her to open up, which will then allow you to feel more relaxed, and get to know her as a person, and not an imitating out of reach goddess.
