You gotta admit that the bad father was a helluva poor planner. Most of these reasonings would be slapped down cold by a judge in light of the risk that the baby could have died.
BIG assumption on the Easily part if she has a Felony . .. it ain't going to be easy and as you stated if she has another job already she may need this one for extra money . . so another one with similar hours to work around the other job will not resolve the issue finding a job with minimal skills and/or other issues [felonies, etc] is not easy Rocket River
never said it was justified He would probably be jailed. He is very stupid . . no doubt. . . as I said. . .Desperateness makes one incredble stupid but. . that is an assumption. like someone said he could have a job already . . I don't know . . . I'm not columbo .. . Rocket River
I've worked for DFPS (formerly Protective & Regulatory Services) and this type of negligent behavior will get you an open file in a heartbeat and depending upon the parental history, child endangerment charges. Anyone trying to justify the inexcusable crime of leaving an unattended child in a car, either intentionally or unintentionally, obviously do not have children. And if you do have children and justify this type of crime, shame on you. If a job, or anything else is more important than the safety and welfare of your child, you need to reevaluate your priorities, or forsake parenthood for the good of the child.
weird, just the other day a co-worker was telling me she had an ex-boyfriend who cheated on her with her best-friend and they had a baby. apparently a year or so ago the guy took the car out and forgot about the baby even up until he got home. he didn't realize until his family asked where she was. totally messed up.
I haven't looked at this thread til now...wow. those could be the most ridiculous comments I have seen. yeah all of those unemployed people in america are starving. hell if he was so desperate then he could have just left the kid on the sidewalk rather than trying to bake it in the car. you are defending something that is indefensible. just admit you were wrong. try to understand why you were wrong. ask your mother or grandmother and see what they say. try to understand why this guy was selfish and wreckless. there are so many other options that can be used rather than potentially killing your child. randomly begging total strangers to watch your child is a better option. this isn't desperation. no one is that desperate that they would run the risk of killing their child just to feed them. hell if they are so desperate to feed them then they would be stealing cans of beans not locking their child in a car. I don't know what to say.
Yes, exactly. There are so many other things you can do. You're applying for a job so that you can 'take care' of your child, yet you put your child in a very real and very common dangerous situation? What kind of justification is that?
it's never understandable to put a defenseless child in a situation where there is a very good chance they could die ever never ever EVER!
Never EVER is it understandable. We had some friends that had twins, and she went into work when they were about 7 months old, parked in a garage and let the twins sleep in their car seat while she went into the office for an hour or so. When she told this story, I gave her totally HADES !!! They are no longer our friends, that is unacceptable behaviour. DD
I don't understand you, RR. You go on some grammar-less tirade, seemingly in this guy's defense, throwing random crap out there about how we should cut off his hands, and how desperation makes people stupid. Then you say you are not justifying what he did, that it was indeed a mistake, that it was indeed stupid that he probably SHOULD be in jail for it... What the hell are you arguing?
I always heard stories about parents accidentally leaving their kids behind somewhere or in the car or whatever, and I could never understand them. My kids are now 17 and 13, it takes real effort to leave them in the car. But when they were babies/toddlers, I can't recall a single time when my focus wasn't first on keeping up with the kids. I guess it happens to some people, but I can't relate... Of course, I do have some obsessive/compulsive tendencies, so maybe that played a role.
I'm glad to see there are some other people that feel the way I do. That is why I started this thread because I didn't want to be that ******* who said "How could you forget?" I don't understand how anybody could forget but I guess it's possible but as mrpaige said above, my focus is always on the kids. Hell, when I am driving I always look into the back seat to see if anything is wrong like the seat belt unbuckled or anything that is wrong.
When my first kid was born back in 93, I heard about people doing this on the news and in the papers. I was so worried that I would forget that when I went to work I after dropping them off at daycare I would go out check after I got to work. I knew I dropped her off but I was terrified that could happen. That guy that went in for an interview is an idiot, you don't leave a child in a car alone.
Hypothetical: You have twin children. One twin got loose and is trapped in an abandoned mine shaft, you find out when you were driving around with the other twin in the back seat. You drive to the mine shaft, and it's sweltering hot, no-one is around and it will take the authorities hours to get there. You can get into the shaft and find your other child, but it could take an hour to squeeze in there, and another hour to get out. there is no where else you can put the kid in the car because there is no civilization around, and there are wolves in the area, so you can leave the kid in the car (air conditioning is broken too) or take him with you. What would you do?
Is that really realistic? I mean it theoretically could happen but I don't see it as being realistic.
RR, you've gone off the deep end lately. How you can even for a second try and defend this dude is ridiculous. You say he should go to jail and follow it what a "but". There is no "but". There is no excuse or slight justification.
