In need of a little advice on a bizarre relationship debacle...

Preach on...So finalsbound, holla at your boy...

 

The new Isabel?

 

HA HA

 

are you friends with guys who once had feelings for you? (the opposite) Seems like guys can handle it when girls had feelings for them but then become friends..but girls, for the most part, can't. it's dumb like that

 

All y'all mutha****az need to back up off my koolaid.

baby girl done met the dude that keeps it real and awl dat.

So y'all punk asses can shut yo dirty sh!tpits and keep my lady's name ow'cho moufz.

ya dig?

 

Wow, a few pages back, was reading moe's post. Man, I've been there and done that.... ****ed me up for awhile; women can be cruel.

Don't hang out with me for months alone at my house, take cat naps with me in my bad and then tell me we're just friends.... I don't have "girl" friends, I prefer girlfriends.....

 

Another life lesson that can be learned in

 

Without sex I just don't see the payoff for being just a friend with a girl unless you really don't want sex with them. Before marriage I tried to be "just friends" with many women and eventually I grew to resent the woman/girl. You listen to her whine and complain about guys all day long and you start to think, were good friends what is wrong with me. There is no benefit for a guy to play the role of emotional tampon for a woman unless she is willing to have a sexual relationship too. Women have emotional needs and guys have sexual needs. It is give and take. If guy is friends with a woman and doesn't want sex eventually, he is either gay, already with a better looking girl or would probably have to be drunk to have sex with the woman (beer goggles).

 

What about being friends without being an emotional tampon. You don't have to listen to girl talk about that stuff. And sometimes the better looking girl isn't worth it if she is a nutcase.

 

They just hide it better




lawl

 

If you think that, you're incredibly naive. I have plenty of "girl" friends. I don't hang out with them by myself, though.

 

Women want the quick read, so being a pushover throws them off. It throws us off when they act what they don't feel, so keeping it real is easier in the long run.

But rational detachment only goes so far...

 

If you flipped it around, would you fear being rejected and ignored plus losing your friendship? Both sexes seem to shun or ignore the other if they're not interested. Not everyone knows how to play it off and return to normal, and not everyone wants to return to the normal friendship.

I think most guys keep that mentality mentioned to get rid of the above thinking.

Just saying that honesty is harder than it seems....for both sides.

 

I've never thought about it, but yeah, I have never been "just friends" with any girl that I wouldn't want to sleep with. It's automatic, I guess. Now that I think about it, in college, the only girl I talked to on a somewhat regular basis who I didn't want to sleep with and wasn't working on a group project with me was this girl who lived in our dorm. She was more of an acquaintance through some other friends and I'd only go to her room because she had an X-box and none of my other friends did.

Maybe they wouldn't actively pursue it, but your guy friends have all entertained the thought of sleeping with you. They hide it well, I know I do. But the next time you wear something like tight pants/shorts/skirt or a somewhat revealing top, they are taking their glances. Personally, I don't think women are different in this regard either. I think all of your guy friends have a quality that you find attractive in men, whether it be physical or mental.

 

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(sorry, I've always wanted to do that. )

 

read sun tzu's the art of war...maybe that'll help

 

So true.