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In need of a little advice on a bizarre relationship debacle...

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by finalsbound, Mar 4, 2006.

  1. thadeus

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    Very well put.
     
  2. Mr. Clutch

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    I don't think so either. I know a few guys who all they want to do is have sex and go to great lengths for it, including telling crazy lies, buying expensive stuff, etc. But they are in the minority. Most guys I know are pretty normal.
     
  3. Dubious

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    It's the girl's thread Kam. You are the example of the typical male mindset.

    Uh, I'm sure that strategy is going to work for YOU though.

    :)
     
  4. Dubious

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    You never know. I left the country (literally) for a almost a year and I still came back to the girl thinking that maybe she was right and we can just be friend. But after almost another year now, I really don't think it is possible. Even thought she is still telling me we should try.. or don't be so extreme, either have a bf/gf relationship or nothing.

    I am weak. I don't try to find her anymore, but when she calls or something, I always respond.

    So, if you are nice to your friend. Just let him go. Don't try to contact him again if he doesn't contact you.

    Maybe guy and gal can just be friend even though the guy has a feeling for the girl, but I don't really believe it. It maybe possible, but just not probable.
     
  6. moestavern19

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    Ohhhh the whole "I don't want sex, i just want to hold you, etc." adds another aspect. When I was that guy I also had those feelings, I wanted her so bad in that sense, just so she would be "mine." Sex didn't even really play a part in my thinking until much later when she turned into a slut and I was just trying to get my bid in.

    But this tells me one thing. He's infatuated with you, plain and simple.
    Which means you are doing the right thing by telling him what you did, and he's actually showing some serious balls by telling you that you can't be friends. I played the "best friend" role for over a ****in year after, she didn't understand why, but I was just that much of an idiot because she was the first for me and it took forever to get over it.

    Bottom line is he thinks its love but it really isn't, if he had you he'd probably be happier than hell for a few weeks tops then realize it isn't all its cracked up to be (no offense to you of course)

    He'll realize it later and when he's over you I wouldn't be surprised if you end up friends again. Unless he's a prideful b*stard like I was, then he'll try to treat you like **** and pretend you don't exist if you ever make contact.
     
  7. Zac D

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    Kam is hilarious.

    Findogtavern19jesusmarymoeseph is a wise **** (when it comes to other people's problems, at least. :p ). Heed his teachings.
     
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  8. Invisible Fan

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    I don't think he'll stalk you, but if you lean on him for comfort from daily stresses, he will respond.

    He's probably been toyed around before (not that you will toy with him), and that's why it's an all or nothing thing with him.

    I'm hoping that this is an out for both of you if everyone keeps their own distance for a while. It's bad timing that this happens, but given some distance for other experiences and relationships some years down the line, maybe both of you will have a change of heart.
     
  9. Panda

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    Moe is right. He's infatuated with you. Break his heart and make sure to him there's zero chance for romance. After a while he'd settle for it.

    Men are sex animals with a spiritual side. Sometimes a girl becomes a diva in an obessed man's mind. Thoughts about sex with her is like having sex with a goddess, just not natural.

    To quote The Waynes World:

    "We aren't worth it. We aren't worth it."

    That state of mind will change after a relationship is defined, when the sex animal side in men wags its tail, and the diva status fades into a companion.
     
  10. DaDakota

    DaDakota Balance wins
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    Just go ahead and sleep with him, and be sure to take notes to give to us on this BBS.

    :)
     
  11. bejezuz

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    We're not WORTHY! We're not WORTHY!

    Jeez, if you're going to invoke the Holy Wayne and Garth, you've gotta get it right.
     
  12. finalsbound

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    um, thanks for all the advice. thank you also to bigbodymoe for chatting with me on AIM. Thank you flyerfanatic for talking on AIM and for being extremely sarcastic and plummeting me further and further into depression. Long live the Queen.
     
  13. Rockets2K

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    If you feel like therapy...login to webchat irc...and join #houstonrockets and pwn him in public so we can ridicule him.

    ;)
     
  14. Kam

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    ohhh, an invite to #houstonrockets

    take it finalsbound.
     
  15. finalsbound

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    i dont understand how to log in
     
  16. Fatty FatBastard

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    You're not invited...

    We're talking about you. Not with you. Catfish?
     
  17. Kam

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    You are soooo going to regret going in there, because once you go in, you will NEVER EVER go back.


    Just go to the frontpage, clutchfans.net. Click on chat.


    some java thing will pop up.

    It might set for it to say #rockets.

    just change it to #houstonrockets
    you may need the pw into it
    type in DEEEEEZE NUTS
     
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  18. finalsbound

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    You're a meanie.
     
  19. Fatty FatBastard

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    How long have you been here? :p
     
  20. Dubious

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    misogynist

    Main Entry: mi·sog·y·ny
    Pronunciation: m&-'sä-j&-nE
    Function: noun
    Etymology: Greek misogynia, from misein to hate + gynE woman -- more at QUEEN
    : a hatred of women i.e. Fatty Fat b*stard
    - miso·gy·nic /"mi-s&-'ji-nik, -'gI-/ adjective
    - mi·sog·y·nist /m&-'sä-j&-nist/ noun or adjective
    - mi·sog·y·nis·tic /m&-"sä-j&-'nis-tik/ adjective
     

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