From your initial post, I would think your brother's situation and your best friend's situation are two different things. Your question raises concerns about your relationship with your brother, but you're ok with your best friend. This is not about your marriage, although it is important to settle this way before the marriage. [your brother's issue] I would recommend dealing with yur brother in a peaceful way and avoid pride and let the past be the past. Start fresh. As for your best friend, pick him. He deserves it. He's here all the time but explain how you feel about your brother, too. Did I send you a message through the board? Check your email. I might have.