If You Weren't Married or Had a Girlfriend/Boyfriend...

Probably move and get a transfer to one of the offices we have in Florida. Also do a lot more travelling than I can do now that I am married.

 

I would be talking to more guys friends...for some reason, most of them "disappear" when i have a S/O but hey that's when you find out if they truly want to be your friend, not your pants.

I would be going to school in another city like Miami! My job, family and him are the ones that are holding me back.

 

Enjoying a stress free life.

 

TRUE DAT

I just hit the 3 month mark 2 days ago, and I gotta say it was like hitting a wall. I mean I like this girl and I know she is really good for me.. but I just get tired of the same thing man... but I know if we break up I'll just be sitting home alone playing GTAIV.. and even if I get another girl, my current girl will be better, and I'll get tired of the new girl at 3 months

I'M DOOMED

 

This is an interesting and sad thread all at the same time. It sucks to hear that some of you in a relationship or marriage can't live your dreams because of it. Letting another person have an control of your life is just a concept that I can't grasp. The only thing that makes me happy is freedom. I'm 32, and am single and plan on being single for life. I have a good job, I can relocate anywhere I want, I travel often. I go to Vegas at least once every two months. I have so much free time to work out, watch TV, hang out with friends, go out for a drink here and there, take spur of the moment weekend vacations. And at the same time, I do date many different women - and most of them, I've found have the same attitude as me. They like being single and the casual dating is just fine. No pressure.

Sure, I have some lonely nights, but to me, those lonely nights are peaceful nights. They are stress free nights. I had a serious girlfriend when I was 24 and we dated for 3 full years and even lived together for the last of those 3 years. We talked about marriage, all that good stuff. I was so STRESSED out while in that relationship. You know, the phone calls right at 5 pm while I'm at work, "when are you coming home?" Uh, I don't know - whenever my work is done? "Your going to the gym again? Hurry up we have to meet my parents for dinner". YUCK. Funk dat. I felt like a CAGED ANIMAL. And this was a great girl, educated, hot, but it just wasn't for me. I wanted my freedom back and once I got it, I became happy. And no bull****, my hair started thinning while in this relationship and once I got out and got my own place and started living the free life, it grew back, thicker. Free and stress free is my motto.

I can go out and buy whatever I want without having someone else to "OK" my purchase. I'm healthy, happy and free. I focus on me, and my career and my health. I love it and I think many more men should take the same approach because life is short to not go for your dreams.

 

i'd be spankin' that monkey...





...hey, wait a second, is this a trick question?

 

You wouldn't feel this way if you met the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Having a person on your side forever is so much better than a different girl every month...they wouldn't know you inside and out. Your ex wasn't the right person for you. I'm not bashing you on your decision but being in a relationship is not a cage. It's up to the person to allow herself/himself to be in a cage. The reason why I broke up with my bf because I felt I was losing my identity and I wanted to find it again. Now we're back together and I'm not going to lose it but learn how to be in a relationship without losing myself. The most important thing in a relationship is to NOT make it to seem like jail. I don't ask my bf to "OK" my purchases because it's MY MONEY. I go out when I want to and letting him know. We just have to speak up if we don't want to go to a dinner with whoever parents. Sure, we make some sacrifices in our lives and love is one of them. I am willing to think that the significant other would be willing to relocate if the guy or girl wanted to move if they loved her/him. Don't you want kids? I know there are some people that don't want kids because their lives would be stress free. Power to you that you want to be single for rest of your life.. Just my two cents.

 

Gotta disagree w/you on that one. Or, say that it depends on the person.

I end up talking to my girl friends less when they have S/O's.. but it's not because I want in their pants. It just seems to happen naturally.. they have less time, they don't want to be (or appear to be) too close to another guy, I probably don't want to give the wrong impression to that other guy who is the S/O.. whatever the mix of reasons, it just seems to happen.

Just wanted to point that out cause I've wondered about it before myself when I've seen it happen.

 

Man, I would be composing symphonies, training to be an astronaut, climbing Annapurna (the tenth highest mountain in the world), river rafting the Colorado, learning Afrikaans and helping teach starving Somali orphans to play croquet. But unfortunately, due to the SO I can't.

 

Trust me, knowing a different girl inside and out every month is better. As a male, I like variety and I don't try to supress that. This is why, in a pasture full of cows, you only need ONE bull.

 

I'm with you my man. I, however, am only 19 years old. I am thankful that I've been born into a culture where arranged marriage is prevalent and is, pretty much, the only way of doing things. All I have to do is work hard in school and my career and then my parents will give me a list of pictures of hot girls to marry. It works too. My dad did this. My parents have been married 25 years this July.

 

Bonin' the womens!

 

Oh. I saw this on MTV last week.

 

Finding compatibility and "the one" is a b****. In this country of absolute freedom of choice its a bunch of balloonheads who's perceived value of themselves is much more than it really is, jockeying for leverage being buttholes to each other until they cant stand it anymore.

Might as well let others find something for you, takes the pressure away. Makes sense to let the families govern over it and have their blessing from the start. "Pre-arranged" is a GOOD term to me

I'm absolutely with what jgreen91 says. (Though I can admit if the personal setup and environment isnt right it can get miserable when the confidence gets shaken).

 

This is fairly hysterical, coming from Max.

 

Talk about your all-time role reversals!

 

i serve up "your mom" jokes quite a bit around here. reminds me of high school.

 

couldn't the title of this thread be simplified to "if you were single..."

 

See, your choice of words right there leads me to believe that you have higher aspirations and dreams for yourself, but that it's your domestic situation that's causing you to not be a better person. And that is exactly what guys like jgreen are saying.....that there is no need to hold yourself back. If you know you're happy being on your own, and you don't feel like there is anything out there that you are missing out on, then why bother losing it?

 

Doing the exact same thing as I'm doing now except in 1200 sq ft less of room, and living in San Antonio. (work-wise)

I would be playing disc golf a lot more. Taking the bike on some serious road trips.

No significant change in most respect.

(but boy, now that I am married, whew, my life got seriously busy)