like everyone else has said, ball up and ask her out man. most of the people in here, me included, have probably learned the hard way that you just have to do it or regret it later. the most important thing to remember is if you don't ask her out you're not with her anyway so it's pretty much you saying no for her. here you have the advantage of learning from others experiences so use that and get your girl.
some more advice, spell the word "no" like "no", not "know". also, i'm wussier than u so no good advice from me on the thread subject.
She told me she was moving on 5/1, but she will be in Austin, as well I. Asfor me spelling "know" instead of "no," I go to UT. My grammer schooling has been fine. I was a simple mistake.
Good God, what I just typed would be a disservice to jibberish. I am ashamed to be a Horn. Btw, I was not a simple mistake.
gr8-1, Why is it that you seem to have a response to negate all the different advice you have gotten? Does fear have that great of a control over you? My advice is simple: do something, and do it soon. Don't make excuses, that is lame. All you are doing is standing in the way of yourself and feeding your insecurities. Don't play games. Be honest. All it takes is just asking her out, not some pre-conceived plan where you have all of your bases covered, an escape plan, a body double, and a Cyrano feeding you lines. If you don't do anything, then you deserve your loneliness (I am not jst trying to be mean, either).
Even further, why try and think of all these problems beforehand. Ask her out, if she says yes, you can both solve them (when to go out, where, will you be in the same city, etc) afterwards. If she says no, you don't have to spend time on it.
Casual ask out line..."I'm gonna grab a bite after finals. Do you have any plans for after the test? If she has plans, ask if you can give her a call later. Secondary ask out lead up...ask immediately after the casual meal. "I really enjoyed this. Can I give you a call later?" Call and let the chips fall where they may... ...at least that's how I'd do it.
You've already been given the best advice... "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." Trust me from experience, unrequited is bad news. I still regret messing things up with one particular girl when I was 18, and I'm 26 now. Say something, and the worst possible outcome is that you'll be better prepared for the next time! Oh, and make sure you ask her to do something that you enjoy. You'll be nervous as it is, without being stuck in a situation that you're not comfortable in... Good luck!
gr8-1 I'm telling, ya...if you don't make a move, she ain't waiting. Most girls, as nice as they are, have a little bad in them. They can't wait. Right this minute, I guarantee you there are other guys thinking about calling her, and have already. There is nothing worse than the "jerk" getting the girl (whol she'll complain about in one month) and the girl saying to her friends, "yeah, I like gr8-1, but why won't he call me? I guess he doesn't like me." please baby please baby baby baby please that is what you are up against. Right now, she is fielding those types of phone calls. How long can she say "No?" don't you just hate the thought that tonight she will field another one of those calls, yet you will only stare at the phone.
red: That post is awesome... Honestly, I've learned a lot about situations like this in the last several months. I used to be a lot like several posters in this thread... I'm an average looking guy, so I used to be reserved around girls. If you aren't a great looking guy, I think the natural tendency is to try and be that nice, sweet guy you'd always see in the movies. While qualities like that are definitely important, what's unique is the guy that can do both but retain his own style. For years, I listened to girls say that the (or one of) most important quality they originally see in a guy is his confidence. I didn't believe it at first, but in a lot of cases it's true. Most girls just want to have fun at first, and confessing anything more is going to drive a lot of them away. Assuming you didn't act differently from the start of the class, she's probably interested in you for your personality and the way you act. Just believe. In most experiences, the guy is the one that takes the dates too seriously at first. While you may have feelings for her, hide it (somewhat, hope you understand my point). For a girl, it boils down to just hanging out with someone for a few hours, and if the guy is generally fun, interesting, and nice, they don't mind. Think about it from their perspective... they get to have fun, eat for free, do things for free... what's not to like? Once you get past the initial hurdle of having the balls to ask her out, it's not that difficult. Asking girls out is easy... it's keeping the relationship going that can be a struggle. Considering the way she's acted, if you act like your normal self and not some Romeo, I'd be shocked if she didn't go out with you. Who knows whether it will last, but that's a question for another day. P.S. One thing I disagree with a little bit in this thread is the notion that you have to have something arranged to do before you ask her out. Usually, I don't do that. Just say you enjoy hanging out with her, and ask her if she wants to go out and do something sometime. Give her some choice; share her interests. Be casual about it, instead of acting like it's some big deal that you've been thinking about for a long while. Hint: have an idea in the back of your mind, though... if she doesn't have an idea of what to do, suggest something... don't force it at her with the initial question, though.
Thanks guys. I don't know, not to be a chicken, but she doesn't seem interested anymore. Today was the first day she didn't tell me hi when I sat down in class. Maybe I waited too long. Hope she will be nicer on Friday.
I totally agree with everyone who says this is an amazing way to get advice... could have used it in my time. gr8-1, don't feel like she's giving you the cold shoulder suddenly. You know you're hopelessly in love (infatuation, whatever) when every little thing is magnified to the point where you rise and fall daily or even hourly. It sounds like you didn't say hi back. Maybe she, too, is thinking the same thing. Overanalysis leads to paralysis. Keep that in mind. Don't wait until Friday. There's cool stuff going on in Austin all the time. Call her up, chat, and suggest doing something. Remember, there is no ball. There is no court. There are no turns in this game. And I really, really agree with the people who have said to seize the chance while you have it, because you never know when she'll suddenly be gone. Wow, I lived that one first hand. You never know. Kick yourself because you ended up looking silly, not because you did nothing. And, best of all, you'll probably look back and laugh because you're in a good relationship with a cute soccer chick after getting advice from a bunch of people who are fans of a sports team.
104, you hit the nail on the head. How she treats me controls my highs and lows. It's disgusting really. It really is magnified. I haven't given up yet though.
hehe maybe she reads the bbs and thinks you're a complete freak and doesnt want to be your girlie love slave anymore
Like I said, you're probably the same age as her, can you tell me what I should do and how I feel. Rimbaud, your post was so on target, that it was kind of sobering. I hope she talks to me on Friday. Heyp, Cat, despite our differences, thanks for the sincere advice. Matter of fact, thanks to all who have tried to give me advice. Manny, OS, Jay, etc. Everyone on this thread.
