Wait...how is marrying the wrong person not a mistake? That sounds like a pretty good definition of a mistake. Don't misinterpret me here because I do think he should try to work things out if he does value his marriage, but if he realizes that he can't see himself living the rest of his life with his current wife, he should do what will make him happy.
I've been with my fiance for 7.5 years and JUST proprosed to her in January (I'm slow). Back in the earlier days (when I was 21 or 22), I would wonder these sorts of things... why does she randomly have different moods for no particular reason? After discussing this with my Dad who has been married for 30 years, I've come to a single conclusion: women are all like that. You could think it's irreconcilable and go after another woman, but fact is, she'll probably have the same sort of mood swings. It's how women are built. Thus, the grass isn't always greener. You really need to decide if you truly love her and can't live without her. The best way to figure this out is when she's gone for an extended period of time (a few weeks) either on vacation, visitng family/friends, or on business. If you find yourself lonely, worrying about her safety and missing her a lot while she's gone then guess what, you love her and should probably stay with her through these sometimes inconceivable changes in mood. At least that's what finally convinced me to bite the bullet to slip a ring on her finger.
I recommend watching the movie Fire Proof. It is a little cheesy and low budget, but a good story about a young couple, without children, who have fallen out of love and bicker, and they feel the only option is a divorce. It is basically their story about how they made it work after the husband receives a book of 40 things to do for his wife for 40 days. The movie has a Christian theme, but even if you're not a Christian it may be a good watch. I watched it illegally online (not very Christian like). OP- have you tried romancing your wife lately? When is the last time you both went out? When is the last time you bought her flowers? Made her dinner? Watch Fireproof and it may give you some ideas.
Awesome post. The movie is a little cheesy, but good none the less. Also, the film is based around the book "The Love Dare." Great book to go through if you will really commit to performing the activities listed in the book.
I also recommend watching Fatal Attraction also. On a serious side note. The guy should be sitting down like a mature and serious adult and have a talk with his wife instead of coming on here saying things that he might regret. I mean how does he feel if his wife is doing the same thing?
In same vein though when was the last time the OP's wife did something nice for him? I can think of one nice thing that she could do for him that rhymes with "OK"..
I'm not sure if your post is in jest or not, but if it isn't, that's the wrong mindset for a successful marriage. "When was the last time my wife did something nice for me!"=bad results for all. Furthermore, as a man it pains me to admit it, but generally speaking women are inherently nicer than men in this country. Be it genetics or nature or God or have they are raised or whatever your want to call it, women are generally more caring and more considerate of their partner. When they shut off and go icy b**** on their partner it is usually because their own frustration has boiled up and the man doesn't realize he has been neglecting her needs for a long time. He'll suddenly realize she doesn't put out like she used to, doesn't do this or that anymore and be angry and say something like "when was the last time she..." but the truth is men are normally the ones who cut off the affection faucet first.
It's actually not similar at all. Fireproof is partnered with The Love Dare and is about fixing underlying problems that are ruining your marriage. The point of the book (and the movie) is to help you understand that if your marriage is failing you have played a part in getting it to that point. It then tries to help you work to fix your end.
aussie rocket, have you considered "intimate" sanctions against your wife when she misbehaves? Recently, I denied all amourous advances from my common law wife (for a two week period), as punishment for causing a scene. This celibacy streak proved an effective method to teach her the meaning of the word consequences.
I don't think all women are super crazy. Some women are very low on the crazy meter. You just have to find the right one. I thought all girls were crazy because I had only seriously dated 2 girls before who could be your stereotypical Jekyll/Hyde personality but after breaking up a long-term relationship and dating more, I found a huge variance of women on the crazy scale. The most important thing is that you can detect the early hints of crazy and learn to cut it off quickly without dragging things out. And to OP, you signed on the dotted line so you can't b**** and whine.
Get your wife to agree to a 3 some with the woman you are pining over, that way you litterally get a side by side comparison. j/k I overheard this older guy give his 20 something son some insight in to letting lust for another woman cloud your mind. He told him, "Son only your mama or your wife is gonna wash your dirty drawers". Other women look good to you now compared to your wife because those women aren't tired of your **** yet.
