I love my wife...

I hate to sound cynical but from this post alone i can tell you're better off without kids. no one says they regret having kids but having them with someone whom you already seem to lose interest in will definitely make your relationship worse. i've seen it many times. women think children will change things. they're right. it'll turn your lives upside down, and usually not for the better...especially when you're relatively young.

if you don't have a strong foundation before kids, that foundation will crumble after kids.

 

hold on there hot rod...I know you may think the grass is greener, and yes there are beautiful possiblities, but just think it through...

I'm divorced, so I know from experience that when people marry young, its great, but as we get older and mature, what we like changes, for both parties...what we liked in our 20's, is NOT what we like in our late 20's and 30's...I'm not saying get a divorce, but at least try to find that happy middle ground and find out if you truly want to be with her or someone else...and if you decide to split, do so before you have kids...

my $0.02...

 

Please get a vasectomy. Today.

 

Dudes like you give the rest of us married dudes who actually realize we've made some mistakes and DO want to work something out (because we care as humans and love our wives) a bad name. And please change your username... you're giving all Rockets' fans and all Aussies bad names. You won't listen to reason anyway.

Please disregard everything I've said in this thread before this post, sir.

 

Maybe you guys are growing apart and that can happen...if you are not happy and truly don't think it will get any better, then just file a separation and see what happens. Don't go out there looking for another woman. (Based on your statement about that woman)

Marriage counseling will be good as well.

 

perhaps you should try marriage counseling together to try to work through your differences.

you also appear to be suffering from "the seven year itch" (or close to it)

the grass always seems greener, but that isn't always the case. i would think long and hard about leaving her...and sure lots of women seem amazing, but you don't really KNOW them. appearances can be deceiving

 

yep, everyone's **** stinks...you just don't smell it until you live with them.

 

read this book and think about things.

 

You did get married very young.

There are tons of other women out there. Tons. Good looking women in first-world countries are a dime a dozen. This means you can focus on personality traits you're interested in.

I'd suggest getting some counseling before you throw in the towel. There's nothing wrong with it. It doesn't mean you're broken. But remember, it takes two to tango. If your wife can't recognize that she's being a yoyoing b****, then there isn't much you can do. Life is too short to deal with that crap.

You don't have kids. I'd say that in the modern era, that's when you should really stick it out.

You think you don't want kids. I wasn't interested either. Best thing I've ever done in my life. You can't explain how awesome they are.

 

I swear I could have written this post. Kudos.

To the OP - definitely hold off on the kids if you're having second doubts.

 

hard to answer without pics

 

have you told her this?

 

Well, there is a reason she is so temperamental with you. She may be b****ing about stupid stuff, but there is something that it's rooted from. Try listening. And, I mean, REALLY listening. Try to hear and see things from her point of things... walk in her shoes. I bet you find life right now being married to you is probably not so hot for her either.

It sounds like you two probably grew a part to a degree (which is natural when getting married so young, trust me I know) but y'all's communication, or lack there of, is probably the culprit for the turmoil. Seven years of crap has built up inside both of you and now has started to erupt.

Sit down and talk about things... everything, and REALLY listen to each other without judgement or getting defensive about what the other says. You may not like some things she says, but just stay cool, try to understand what she's feeling and understand she's in the same boat hearing complaints from you. Sh**, if you can do this, you two will probably feel closer than ever before and you might get one of the best nights of your life, especially if she feels like you care enough to try to understand her.

Good luck!

 

are you in love with your wife? or are you just going through the motions?

 

Did you not feel this way at some point with your wife? If not, then I'm not sure why you got married in the first place.

You may not be looking to cheat, but if this woman gave you the opportunity, you sure sound like you would jump at it.

 

This site sucks.

A guy posts his issues and the majority of posters either joke or advise him to move on? Reminds me of a movie I saw where a woman complained about her husband to her friends and all the women were like "Aw girl, leave him! You deserve better!"

Look, no one here knows whether you are miserable in your marriage, whether you are a total jerk to your wife, whether she is an absolute b, etc. We aren't in it. If you are having these serious issues you need to get with a counselor of some sort, be it a marriage counselor, a pastor (if you are religious) etc. Don't just harbor feelings of irritation and resentment without trying to solve the problem. It will just create an untenable situation that will lead to nastier and nastier fights, eventually a really nasty divorce and a then a lot of bitterness and regrets.

 

You sound like where I was when I was married to my first wife. While it was hard as hell, the best thing I ever did was get out of the relationship.

Also, don't go screwing around with the other chick. You haven't yet but you want to and that is a big mistake. If you are unhappy, get out of the situation and then go hook up with whoever you want.