I went through the whole thread (droxford is 99.99% correct). She's like every other girl I know, and trust me, I hear these stories ALL the time and have experienced it for myself (3 year relationship). Most of my friends have gone through this as well, and I'm glad you've decided to do what you're doing. Through experience and being surrounded by this bull****, I know you're doing the right thing and the best thing for yourself. Wish you well.
Really? As expected, he is back with her for the next six months or so followed by regret. I'm truly tired of giving relationship advice. The person who asks never listens.
Why'd you edit your post and removed the 'Including me.' at the end? My instant thread update notification showed me you had this in your post. You just love stirring **** up, eh?
Thanks for the support Fatty. It's good to know someone has soooooooo much confidence in me. On a real though, no, we haven't gotten back together. But I did find out some more stuff. Nothing more about what she did but apparently the relationship wasn't as perfect as I thought it was. She told me that we needed to do more things together to stir things up. We had become the old married couple. Also I wasn't being romantic enough. She wasn't trying to justify what she did. I kept asking because I just wanted to know what went wrong so I wouldn't make the same mistakes again. But although she had a point with where the relationship was and all that, she should have understood that I was only a student and money was a factor. On top of that, I had gotten my car stolen earlier this year so that also played a part with why we were home so often. But in her mind, she knows what she did was wrong. She regrets it because she hurt me and threw away something special. And she never came to me to discuss the fact that the relationship wasn't where she wanted it to be. But she believes we were meant to be together and we could work through it. And because she is convinced that I am the one for her, she isn't going to stop pursuing me. But I'm cool though definitely not hurting nearly as much as before. So I'm just trying to enjoy the single life and see where it takes me.
When you get the time, peruse http://www.LoveAndRespect.com.... for your future relationships. It will help to clarify what both men and women primarily want and need from one another. It would be great for whatever lady comes into your life to absorb, too. It's kind of oriented for already-married couples but any single individual can glean the wisdom from it-- if you give it a chance.
Man you're so a wussy. Get over it. No offense but you act like it's surprinsing. Really? You've been together for 7 years and it started at 15 .. She wants some new et you should do the same man. You was expecting having child and have a wedding with her or what? And btw, the other dude who stole your girl, isn't a motha****a. It's you man you're the problem, as I can see you're too much of a nice guy. You need some David DeAngelo QUICKLY!
I got a 6-hour CD set that he published. It's very good in my opinion. Don't know about any infomercials for them.... I learned of it at a marriage seminar that we went to.
Actually, this video personifies how "I" would talk to you about your relationship. NSFW <object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/TROhlThs9qY&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/TROhlThs9qY&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>
Except the guy talking in that video walks the walk. You'd just be spouting the same **** you always do.
This is a good thread. I have learned lots. Question: What if a very good friend I've known for a long time cheated on her boyfriend with me? What course of action should I take? After reading this thread I am definitely leaning towards breaking it off completely but it would hurt to lose her as a good friend and person.
It's unclear if you are saying that 'another guy' is your boyfriend? Or are you saying your 'very good friend' is your girlfriend? Either way, how do you consider someone a good friend if they cheated on you?
Ah, ok. Got it. That does make it complicated. She didn't cheat on you... you were the 'other man'. Which makes you just as culpable. Why did you guys do it? Is there something more than friendship there? Or a moment of weakness?
